DonaldoGrande Posted July 25, 2023 Share Posted July 25, 2023 (edited) Long story short. First, she owns money to her employer because she trusted her male colleague that I warned her about. Something around 4000 euros. Second, she owns money to a mobile operator because she was playing some stupid game and buying coins. Monthly 160 euros. Now she has a debt of around 900 euros and every month she doesn't pay it, it goes up to 100 euros. She has no job and lied to me about playing games and asked me for money. I had to figure it out by myself, otherwise she wouldn't tell me. And then she was pissed at me because I called her a liar. I wanted to break up before because she likes to drink and I hate it when she drinks. The problem is that I am afraid to let her go because she is in deep s*** and I dont wanna make it worst. Plus, she has a history of depression and she is saying she is gonna hurt her self. I really wanna move on but dont know what is gonna happen to her. She is not bad person (I think) but she lies and drinks... But when everything is okey I like her and she is good. I feel pity for her, dont want to hurt her more. Problem is she is always a victim and I would be a bad guy, also this is not gonna sound good but I am afraid that if she will do something to her self, I will be blamed. Excuse my English. Edited July 25, 2023 by DonaldoGrande Link to post Share on other sites
ExpatInItaly Posted July 25, 2023 Share Posted July 25, 2023 There is no way a break-up won't hurt her, but you have go to do it. If she threatens to harm herself, call emegency services in your area. Don't assume she is not being serious - simply make the call and send them to her. You can't stay in a relationship like this. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
JTSW Posted July 25, 2023 Share Posted July 25, 2023 She has allot of problems with addiction. She has allot of problems with her mental health. You can't help her with either of these things. Contact her family and explain the situation, that she has these issues and you cannot continue the relationship like this. They may be able to get her help. Then you just need to be straight with her, that you can't be with her anymore and she needs to focus on herself now. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Wiseman2 Posted July 25, 2023 Share Posted July 25, 2023 4 hours ago, DonaldoGrande said: she lies and drinks... I feel pity for her, dont want to hurt her more. Problem is she is always a victim and I would be a bad guy, How old is she? Where does she live? How long have you been together? Have you met in person. Unfortunately you have to stop enabling her. Tell her it's not working. Sever all financial ties and don't give her money. She's extorting you for money with manipulation. Delete and block her and all her people from ALL your social media and messaging apps. She is scamming people. Link to post Share on other sites
ShyViolet Posted July 30, 2023 Share Posted July 30, 2023 She has a lot of problems and she will just drag you down with her if you stay any longer. You don't stay with someone out of pity. Her problems are not your responsibility and you can't "help" her with them. You need to end this bad relationship. If she threatens to harm herself, then you call the police and let them deal with it. Link to post Share on other sites
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