They tell me they like me after I'm gone

[Kassieee]

This has happened to me since the beginning of time, I even remember it happening right after I  graduated elementary school. Guys will contact me and tell me how much they liked me. 

It happened when I visited a country.

Graduated school. Ect

Why do they wait after the fact . I've had long term guy friends confess to liking me after I left the city.

I could've dated really good guys, but got stuck with the ...good for nothing ones.

Generally ..why do guys do this? 

Edited August 3, 2023 by justaskingok

[JTSW]

You seem desperate for a guy to like you seeing as most of your posts are asking if every guy that even looked your way likes you.

[Alpacalia]

Because they're late bloomers?  You had a booger on your nose?

I don't know...

Have you asked them?

 

 

[stillafool]

20 minutes ago, justaskingok said:

Generally ..why do guys do this? 

It really makes no sense, does it?  When things don't make sense to me I don't believe it.  Did they ever try to date you back when they were liking you so much?  If not, it's probably just talk.  I bet they dated somebody, why not you?

[Kassieee]

Yes makes no sense...why tell me now? 

I often visit NYC because I have family there. i have two different cousins whose friends are interested in me....but when i was there they barely talked to me. Now want my socials to communicate. Could've asked me yourself!!! 

Edited August 3, 2023 by justaskingok

[Kassieee]

11 minutes ago, stillafool said:

It really makes no sense, does it?  When things don't make sense to me I don't believe it.  Did they ever try to date you back when they were liking you so much?  If not, it's probably just talk.  I bet they dated somebody, why not you?

We did stuff together but on a friendly tip. 

[JTSW]

8 minutes ago, justaskingok said:

Yes makes no sense...why tell me now? 

Why worry about it now?

It no longer matters. 

If they really did like you they would've told you allot sooner.

They are just being nice and polite.

[JTSW]

11 minutes ago, justaskingok said:

i have two different cousins whose friends are interested in me

How do you know this?

[Kassieee]

1 minute ago, JTSW said:

Why worry about it now?

It no longer matters. 

If they really did like you they would've told you allot sooner.

They are just being nice and polite.

Hmm interesting pov. 

I don't think it's  that though.

[Alpacalia]

Are you interested in any of them?

[JTSW]

5 minutes ago, justaskingok said:

Hmm interesting pov. 

I don't think it's  that though.

You mean you don't want to believe it's that because you want every guy to like you.

It's seems very important to you to be liked by guys that you wont even consider any other possibilities.

[Kassieee]

9 minutes ago, JTSW said:

How do you know this?

Like my thread says ...because they tell me.

 

[Kassieee]

2 minutes ago, JTSW said:

You mean you don't want to believe it's that because you want every guy to like you.

It's seems very important to you to be liked by guys that you wont even consider any other possibilities.

That's not true.

But if that's the way it seems to you then that's cool

[JTSW]

2 minutes ago, justaskingok said:

Like my thread says ...because they tell me.

 

Fair enough.

[stillafool]

12 minutes ago, justaskingok said:

Hmm interesting pov. 

I don't think it's  that though.

How would you know?  What do you think the reason is?

[Wiseman2]

58 minutes ago, justaskingok said:

I could've dated really good guys, but got stuck with the ...good for nothing ones.

It seems like they're being nice but unfortunately never saw you as dating or GF material.Try not to take it personally, no one can be everyone's type.

There's no reason to get "stuck with good for nothing" guys. If there are red flags or deal breakers, cut your losses and move forward.

Edited August 3, 2023 by Wiseman2

[Weezy1973]

Perhaps they aren’t interested in a real relationship or dating, but would like some cyber sex? 

[JTSW]

Just now, justaskingok said:

That's not true.

But if that's the way it seems to you then that's cool

I'm not trying to offend you in any way.

I think you're cool.

I just comment on what I see. 

[JTSW]

2 minutes ago, Wiseman2 said:

It seems like they're being nice but unfortunately never saw you as dating or GF material.

Perfectly said @Wiseman2

[Kassieee]

1 minute ago, Weezy1973 said:

Perhaps they aren’t interested in a real relationship or dating, but would like some cyber sex? 

.......gross. 

I would never.

[Kassieee]

3 minutes ago, Wiseman2 said:

It seems like they're being nice but unfortunately never saw you as dating or GF material.Try not to take it personally, no one can be everyone's type.

There's no reason to get "stuck with good for nothing" guys. If there are red flags or deal breakers, cut your losses and move forward.

They do try to date.... after the fact.

[Kassieee]

2 minutes ago, JTSW said:

I'm not trying to offend you in any way.

I think you're cool.

I just comment on what I see. 

It's ok I don't articulate myself properly. 

[JTSW]

6 minutes ago, justaskingok said:

They do try to date.... after the fact.

So they actually do ask you out?

[Weezy1973]

1 hour ago, justaskingok said:

.......gross. 

I would never.

OK, but that would explain why they don’t let you know until you’re gone. 

[Alpacalia]

You also said that you did "stuff" with them on a "friendly tip." Tip or trip? Not sure what that "stuff" implies either. If it's what I think it is, then, it's probably a case of why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free! If it's that you spent time with them in general in a friendly context and they didn't ask you out or show interest in any way, I'd say that it might not be worth investing your time into them. If, however, they did show interest, such as saying something flirtatious, asking you out on a date, etc., then it might be worth exploring things further.

Edited August 3, 2023 by Alpacalia