giotto Posted September 8, 2023 Share Posted September 8, 2023 On 9/3/2023 at 6:18 AM, Lost1981 said: He didn't agree with my methods (for the record I'm a very soft mom, where he would be more harsh). This, for me, would be massive deal breaker. No way I could have a relationship with someone who has a completely different style of parenting. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
spiritedaway2003 Posted September 8, 2023 Share Posted September 8, 2023 (edited) Just saw this thread. You're fine. If you have been true to yourself, this is the right choice for you. Of course it feels like a loss (but don't contact him out of respect for him) He seems like a fine and caring gentleman, and who doesn't like good guys? I suspect on some level, just being "nice" won't sustain what you're looking for long term (and I'm not saying that you're looking for "bad" guys or anything) but that there is something inherently missing and that chasm will grow wider in gaps over time. I also don't doubt that you care about him a lot and love him, but if you're madly in love with him, those things that gives you doubt won't keep coming back to the surface as doubts. You listened to your gut instinct here. He could be the nicest, greatest guy in the world, but if you have persistently nagging doubts, it's best to nip it in the bud. It's not about leaving a "good" guy or not (not in question), but rather about leaving someone who's not the right for you. Edited September 8, 2023 by spiritedaway2003 1 Link to post Share on other sites
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