Alpacalia Posted August 9, 2023 Share Posted August 9, 2023 (edited) Good idea. It sounds like you are not confident in yourself or in the relationship. You knew that she is a bit flirty and vapes but I think you were willing to overlook it because of her looks. But at the end of the day you need to make sure that you are comfortable with the situation. It's great that you have thought this through and have decided to just to go with the flow and mind your own business. It's the best decision for you. Edited August 9, 2023 by Alpacalia 1 Link to post Share on other sites
basil67 Posted August 9, 2023 Share Posted August 9, 2023 Have you noticed that the only positive trait you've listed about her is her beauty? 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author ticaaa Posted August 9, 2023 Author Share Posted August 9, 2023 2 hours ago, basil67 said: Have you noticed that the only positive trait you've listed about her is her beauty? now that you mention it yeah its true , i dont know anything good worth mentioning about her personality but who knows , if i would have gone out with her a couple of times i would see some good traits aswell Link to post Share on other sites
basil67 Posted August 9, 2023 Share Posted August 9, 2023 2 hours ago, ticaaa said: now that you mention it yeah its true , i dont know anything good worth mentioning about her personality I would suggest you stop objectifying her and wait till someone comes along who you really want to get to know more 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author ticaaa Posted August 9, 2023 Author Share Posted August 9, 2023 1 hour ago, basil67 said: I would suggest you stop objectifying her and wait till someone comes along who you really want to get to know more im from romania so im so good with english , what does objectifying mean ? i searched on google and it says degrading women ? Link to post Share on other sites
Alpacalia Posted August 9, 2023 Share Posted August 9, 2023 2 hours ago, basil67 said: I would suggest you stop objectifying her and wait till someone comes along who you really want to get to know more I'm glad I am not the only one that was starting to pick-up on that.😉 1 Link to post Share on other sites
basil67 Posted August 9, 2023 Share Posted August 9, 2023 10 hours ago, ticaaa said: im from romania so im so good with english , what does objectifying mean ? i searched on google and it says degrading women ? "The sexual objectification of women involves them being viewed primarily as an object of male sexual desire, rather than as a whole person." In short, you're wanting to date her because she's beautiful. Not because you like her as a person. Link to post Share on other sites
Ageless Wisdom23 Posted August 9, 2023 Share Posted August 9, 2023 (edited) I always tell people who want to date a coworker if it goes South------You both are in an awkward position having to work together. Go slow with her and just hang out. I do not think she is into anything heavy like a relationship but likes to have fun. You decide.😑 Edited August 9, 2023 by Ageless Wisdom23 Link to post Share on other sites
mortensorchid Posted August 21, 2023 Share Posted August 21, 2023 I have said this before and I will say this again : coworkers are not friends. It is easy to think that they are because you will spend more time with them than you will anyone else. You are to be nice but not too nice to them. Practice polite indifference, like a doctor / nurse with a patient. Never have your social or sexual needs met with a coworker because there is no escaping. There are times that you are to act somewhat as if they are friends, but you must never share much about yourself. People can and will gossip about you no matter what you do or do not do with your time. Keep them away and you will be happier. With that being said with this woman in question, just let it go. Link to post Share on other sites
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