JTSW Posted August 17, 2023 Share Posted August 17, 2023 10 minutes ago, BulletDodged said: Because it's early in the break up, I might not be thinking straight. There are plenty of red flags to suggest that it's unlikely me and her will work out. Some of the things she has said to me in the past, that I didn't take head of. You didn't answer my question. Do you want that horrendous disrespectful girl to reach out? Link to post Share on other sites
Author BulletDodged Posted August 17, 2023 Author Share Posted August 17, 2023 2 hours ago, JTSW said: You didn't answer my question. Do you want that horrendous disrespectful girl to reach out? Probably just thinking with my emotions right now. One or two chances is the most a person should get for this type of behaviour.. Maybe only one moving forward. So I will stay NC Link to post Share on other sites
JTSW Posted August 17, 2023 Share Posted August 17, 2023 13 minutes ago, BulletDodged said: Probably just thinking with my emotions right now. One or two chances is the most a person should get for this type of behaviour.. Maybe only one moving forward. So I will stay NC Honestly, she didn't deserve any chance you gave her. She stood you up and didn't say anything or even apologise. That was where it should have ended for good. Link to post Share on other sites
Author BulletDodged Posted August 17, 2023 Author Share Posted August 17, 2023 1 minute ago, JTSW said: Honestly, she didn't deserve any chance you gave her. She stood you up and didn't say anything or even apologise. That was where it should have ended for good. It normally would have. However the only reason why I gave her a chance is because she came all the way to my house to talk to me. She never flaked like that on me ever again, because I walked away. But I fully understand that it was very wrong of her to do that in the first place and it was a sign of more trouble to come. Better late than never, I suppose it's a lesson for the future, to eject sooner than later. Link to post Share on other sites
Kassieee Posted August 17, 2023 Share Posted August 17, 2023 2 hours ago, BulletDodged said: This is true. By remaining in the situation, I am opening myself upto potentially more disrespect. It's best that I stood up for myself, before things got a little too toxic. Yes you did good. Don't let a weak moment sabotaged it. Abusive exes need to stay away forever. Link to post Share on other sites
Author BulletDodged Posted August 17, 2023 Author Share Posted August 17, 2023 23 minutes ago, JTSW said: Honestly, she didn't deserve any chance you gave her. She stood you up and didn't say anything or even apologise. That was where it should have ended for good. Actually this is the other reason why I decided to walk away from her. She is an irresponsible drinker. The reason why she flaked on our date was due to drinking too much alcohol. There was another occasion with alcohol involved that left me feeling very angry, as I didn't hear from her all night, till 2am in the morning. Turns out she ended up getting drunk on a working night too. In the long run, she can't be trusted around alcohol lol Link to post Share on other sites
Wiseman2 Posted August 17, 2023 Share Posted August 17, 2023 36 minutes ago, BulletDodged said: She is an irresponsible drinker. was due to drinking too much alcohol.There was another occasion with alcohol involved . she ended up getting drunk on a working night too.she can't be trusted around alcohol That's good insight into part of the toxic and turbulent nature of this. See if sheds any light on things and helps you stay strong: https://al-anon.org/newcomers/self-quiz/adult-quiz/ Link to post Share on other sites
Author BulletDodged Posted August 18, 2023 Author Share Posted August 18, 2023 On 8/17/2023 at 5:34 PM, Wiseman2 said: That's good insight into part of the toxic and turbulent nature of this. See if sheds any light on things and helps you stay strong: https://al-anon.org/newcomers/self-quiz/adult-quiz/ Thank you for this information 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Lubecke Posted August 24, 2023 Share Posted August 24, 2023 Yes. Most of the time after given enough time to cool off and process it all, they will most likely reach out though it may be a long time before that happens. Link to post Share on other sites
stillafool Posted August 27, 2023 Share Posted August 27, 2023 I never did. When it's over I don't look back. Link to post Share on other sites
Author BulletDodged Posted August 27, 2023 Author Share Posted August 27, 2023 I have to say, it's not always easy being the Dumper, or the person who walked away like I did. I still think of her daily and miss her.. However I rather go through a painful break up now, then months more of drama/chaos, disrespect, only for the breakup to happen regardless. Link to post Share on other sites
Wiseman2 Posted August 27, 2023 Share Posted August 27, 2023 2 minutes ago, BulletDodged said: I rather go through a painful break up now, then months more of drama/chaos, disrespect, only for the breakup to happen regardless. Are you back together? Why would you have to break up? It doesn't seem like a viable situation. Link to post Share on other sites
Author BulletDodged Posted August 27, 2023 Author Share Posted August 27, 2023 4 minutes ago, Wiseman2 said: Are you back together? Why would you have to break up? It doesn't seem like a viable situation. No we are not back together . I am still strictly NC I was simply stating, it is better I broke up with her now, than months or years down the line Link to post Share on other sites
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