stillafool Posted September 8, 2023 Share Posted September 8, 2023 On 9/1/2023 at 12:33 PM, HeartNPA said: The way that he described their lifestyle and the “shame” he felt for his sexual preferences and the things he enjoyed. I felt like I was providing a safe space and freeing him from that. But how easy it would be to portray me as a means to an end. all that said, the sex part never really occurred to me as a motive for him because, truly, I had such a hard time with it. It felt like a step further into the horrible things we were doing. And I was very resistant to that. sexting and phone sex somehow felt manageable to me, but the actual physical was always a challenge and as such very limited and infrequent. This guy has some weird sexual fantasies and that is probably why he has affairs because he doesn't want to do those things to his wife, so he uses other women to do it. Even OP had a problem having sex with him. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author HeartNPA Posted September 12, 2023 Author Share Posted September 12, 2023 Update: as you all predicted, he found a place where he wasn’t blocked and has reached back out. It was full of red flags and so so lame. Honestly, I can’t believe I ever didn’t see it before. Thank you to everyone who helped me to see the light of day. (still not ready for more challenges, so I’m not posting and more replies, but wanted to share my gratitude and progress) I didn’t even reply, just blocked and deleted. 7 1 Link to post Share on other sites
S2B Posted September 12, 2023 Share Posted September 12, 2023 Good for you being strong! Shows what a complete douche he is. his wife deserves to know what he’s been up to. Link to post Share on other sites
Starswillshine Posted September 12, 2023 Share Posted September 12, 2023 Good for you! Now onto finding greener pastures! You deserve more!!!!!! Link to post Share on other sites
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