Montezuma 659 Posted September 3, 2023 Share Posted September 3, 2023 I'm new to this site. Despite being happily married and having one or two friends I can talk to - I am completely devastated by being abandoned by a friend who i shared everything with! We used to text each other every day without fail. One day it just stopped. Despite a number of attempts to find out why - she never gave me a reason other than saying that she needed some alone time. I NEED to talk about this. It's killing me. Never done this before. Should I be posting here? If not - pls advise me re other possible forums. Many Thanks. Kieran Link to post Share on other sites
basil67 Posted September 3, 2023 Share Posted September 3, 2023 Looking in from the outside, I think the frequency in which you contacted each other was inappropriate for a married man. This level of close contact tends to go hand in hand with emotional (or physical) affairs. Was your wife aware of how much you speak to her? And why did your wife not fill the role of confidant? Assuming that you and this friend weren't having niggly arguments, I imagine that feelings started to get involved and she chose to do the right thing and back away 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Wiseman2 Posted September 3, 2023 Share Posted September 3, 2023 (edited) 4 hours ago, Montezuma 659 said: - I am completely devastated by being abandoned by a friend who i shared everything with! We used to text each other every day without fail. Sorry this happened. Were you coworkers? How do you know each other? Is she in a relationship also? Do you see each other in person? Texting this much and sharing everything seems almost like an emotional affair. Why are you lonely in your marriage? Does your wife know this friend or about this friend? Can you confide in your wife about it? Perhaps this woman felt things were getting too inappropriate? Edited September 3, 2023 by Wiseman2 3 Link to post Share on other sites
MsJayne Posted September 3, 2023 Share Posted September 3, 2023 We need more context please. Why were you so dependent on this person? How did you meet? Is/was she also a friend of your wife? I apologise if I'm misinterpreting your post, but it sounds like your wife is the one who's been betrayed. No way would I tolerate my partner having daily contact with another woman unless it was work related, and especially not in the context of sharing "everything". Perhaps your friend realised how wrong it was to be carrying on like this with someone else's husband because, if you were sharing stuff about your wife, that would constitute you being incredibly disloyal and her meddling in someone's marriage. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
JTSW Posted September 4, 2023 Share Posted September 4, 2023 What was your wife's opinion on texting another woman everyday? Something tells me she has no idea about it and your marriage isn't as happy as you make out. I take it this woman was more than a friend and the texting wasn't always appropriate. Her stopping contact was for the best. Concentrate on your wife. Link to post Share on other sites
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