chickendinner12 Posted September 5, 2023 Share Posted September 5, 2023 I tried making dinner for my partner yesterday but the meal came out awful. The chicken was undercooked, the rice was bland and I felt stupid. I said, you wanna go get some fast food instead, and he said, "Are you sure it won't hurt your feelings?" I feel like I made a total fool of myself and he's probably going to dump me. I've been thinking all day about how I screwed everything up. Link to post Share on other sites
basil67 Posted September 5, 2023 Share Posted September 5, 2023 I'm a good cook, but still have the odd kitchen disaster. The answer is to get a pizza and wine and laugh it off 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Gaeta Posted September 5, 2023 Share Posted September 5, 2023 Just put the dish back in the oven to cook it longer, no? I have never heard of a man dumping a woman because her first dinner did not turn out ok. Relaxe. If he's that shallow then you don't want him anyway. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Wiseman2 Posted September 5, 2023 Share Posted September 5, 2023 (edited) 1 hour ago, chickendinner12 said: I said, you wanna go get some fast food instead, and he said, "Are you sure it won't hurt your feelings?". Great idea to get fast food. He didn't seem to mind at all. Never eat under cooked chicken. Read up on food safety. Edited September 5, 2023 by Wiseman2 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Kassieee Posted September 5, 2023 Share Posted September 5, 2023 If he judges you just based on that....he's not worth having around. Relax we all do something embarrassing and cringey. That's life 😀 1 Link to post Share on other sites
basil67 Posted September 5, 2023 Share Posted September 5, 2023 Hang on, why do you think he's going to dump you? I there something else going on? 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Alpacalia Posted September 6, 2023 Share Posted September 6, 2023 (edited) He was trying to be considerate and understanding in his response. Relationships are built on more than just one meal. Don't fret. Edited September 6, 2023 by Alpacalia 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Gaeta Posted September 6, 2023 Share Posted September 6, 2023 Did you have a conversation about why he's been distancing himself lately? You did not update your last thread. Link to post Share on other sites
Lotsgoingon Posted September 6, 2023 Share Posted September 6, 2023 I'm sorry but your insecurity does not have to do with failing to cook a good meal. Do you realize how many bad meals are cooked everyday in millions of households around the world? Every day. What's this insecurity really about? 1 Link to post Share on other sites
basil67 Posted September 6, 2023 Share Posted September 6, 2023 @chickendinner12 making an attempt at cooking and failing (and learning from the experience!) is far better than throwing up ones hands and declaring that they "don't cook" 2 Link to post Share on other sites
ShyViolet Posted September 6, 2023 Share Posted September 6, 2023 Why would he dump you over this? That seems like a very irrational thought. Unless the relationship already is on very shaky ground? There's no reason to freak out so much over the fact that your dinner didn't come out well. The best approach would be to laugh about it and then say "let's just go out for dinner!" It doesn't need to be this big dramatic thing that you're making it out to be. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
ExpatInItaly Posted September 6, 2023 Share Posted September 6, 2023 5 hours ago, chickendinner12 said: feel like I made a total fool of myself and he's probably going to dump me. Your relationship is in a really bad place if he'd dump you over this. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
JTSW Posted September 6, 2023 Share Posted September 6, 2023 7 hours ago, ExpatInItaly said: Your relationship is in a really bad place if he'd dump you over this. This is exactly what I thought. Everyone ruins a meal at some point. It is what it is, no big deal. Let it go. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
stillafool Posted September 6, 2023 Share Posted September 6, 2023 I sure he appreciated that you went to the trouble of trying. No one starts out a great cook, but with practice you get better and better once you start liking to cook. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
mark clemson Posted September 6, 2023 Share Posted September 6, 2023 17 hours ago, chickendinner12 said: I feel like I made a total fool of myself and he's probably going to dump me. Unlikely if he really likes you otherwise. Are there other signs he's getting less interested? If not you're probably just being insecure. There are a LOT of things that a guy can like about a girl, particularly at the early stages of a relationship. "Good cooking" is more like a bonding element for much later in the relationship when the giddy initial love feelings have died down a bit. So, you may have lots of time to practice/perfect your culinary skills... Link to post Share on other sites
Alpacalia Posted September 6, 2023 Share Posted September 6, 2023 Just put a cute little apron on and voila! You are now a baker. Baby, I can bake a cake like no other! Link to post Share on other sites
Els Posted September 6, 2023 Share Posted September 6, 2023 19 hours ago, chickendinner12 said: I tried making dinner for my partner yesterday but the meal came out awful. The chicken I'm sorry but I couldn't help but notice... is this the origin story of your username? 😅 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Keeves1 Posted September 6, 2023 Share Posted September 6, 2023 No you did not ruin dinner! Not everyone is good in the kitchen and atleast you tried! That counts too! And also the way you resolved it by saying "Let's get some fast food instead" is a clever way to do it you know maybe next time when you cook dinner he can show you how to do it and then maybe laugh it off hehe 🙌 Don't sweat over it, you'll be just fine Link to post Share on other sites
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