Take Another Shot at a Date or Just Move on?

[SoBlind]

I recently met a woman at a bar/club. We danced together for nearly 2 hours and then exchanged numbers at the end of the night. 

We exchanged texts a few days later. The last text exchange was a few days ago. I told her I enjoyed meeting her and that we should get together soon when her schedule opens up. She is nearing the end of 9 month training/course in a few weeks. . 

She replied later that same day with: "Hi. Sorry for the late reply as I just saw your message. Yes, let's get together soon when I have free time. Text you tomorrow. Good night."

 She has not replied in the 2 or 3 days since she sent that last message. So I am weighing what my next move will be?   My thoughts are one of the following:

1.  Just move on as she has politely shown me the proverbial door; or 

2. Move on to pursue other people but give her one more shot with a follow up text or phone call in a week or two? 

Any thoughts or suggestions are welcome. 

 

[ExpatInItaly]

4 minutes ago, SoBlind said:

Just move on as she has politely shown me the proverbial door;

This. She was vague about when she could meet and said she would text you - and has not done so. 

This isn't someone who is all that interested. I wouldn't bother trying to pursue it. 

[glows]

I’m assuming now is during an exam period at the end of her course and it sounds like practical training. What are the odds she’s also transitioning into a practicum or needing to validate work experience hours? 

Id do 2) and cool it for now until the course is over. Let her initiate texts or calls when she has time. She’s probably not in the headspace for meeting up on dates right now and you’ll see this in the coming weeks. I don’t think she’s necessarily showing you the door. You’re free and easy and she’s pressured.

If you are desperate to date and find a partner this woman is not for you. I think many would also opt to continue dating and meeting other women. You don’t really know this woman and it’s not like she’s a friend of a friend or you have mutual circles. She’s virtually no one to you and vice versa - reasonable to lose interest quickly or not feel patient enough.

[Wiseman2]

2 hours ago, SoBlind said:

 2. Move on to pursue other people but give her one more shot with a follow up text or phone call in a week or two? 

#2 Maybe she's flaky, maybe she changed her mind, but definitely move forward and there's no harm in one last follow up text.

[JTSW]

3 hours ago, SoBlind said:

 She has not replied in the 2 or 3 days since she sent that last message.

So you have not text her since she last text you and you are waiting for her to initiate?

She has very likely been waiting for you to initiate and make suggestions for getting together.

I think you read this wrong.

[Maldives]

3 hours ago, Wiseman2 said:

#2 Maybe she's flaky, maybe she changed her mind, but definitely move forward and there's no harm in one last follow up text.

If you do send her a follow-up, do it indirectly and say hey. I'm going to be at such and such a place at this time. Why don't you join. Or just plan a date and give her two options for days and be direct and ask what suits better. That way you can gouge her interest in you a lot better and then make the decision to move forward if she flakes. A woman that's interested even if they're not available on the days you suggest will offer an alternative if she doesn't you know where you stand and you can move on 

Edited September 8, 2023 by Goodguy05

[Alvi]

18 hours ago, SoBlind said:

1.  Just move on as she has politely shown me the proverbial door; or 

2. Move on to pursue other people but give her one more shot with a follow up text or phone call in a week or two? 

The two of you are not dating so you are more than free to pursue other options.  Maybe she is pursuing other options as well. But there is no harm messaging her again in a week (two weeks is too long) and aske her what day and time she is free to meet. Ask her out if she replies. Come up with a day/time/place for the two of you to meet. I would suggest that you wish her well and delete her if she doesn't reply or comes up with any excuse as to why she cannot meet you (unless she comes up with a counter-offer).