I kissed a married man. Will there be legal actions ?

[strangeAvenger0001]

I am single and I kissed a married man. He told me that he’s having problems with his wife at home that they have reached to a point of getting a divorce. I didn’t think much into it at the time and kissed him. He was my brother’s friend’s brother. They had visited our house. Late at night, we started talking on social media and he asked me to meet him in the drawing room, where we kissed. However, after few days, his brother(my brother’s friend) told my brother that he knows about us which made my brother really angry.  

I am not attracted to him. I don’t want to date him either, nor do anything again with him.

How should handle this situation ? Am I guilty in this situation ? 

Also, I’m worried that if that guy will get a divorce, and if there would be an investigation, would I be called to the court or would I be found guilty ?

[Weezy1973]

24 minutes ago, strangeAvenger0001 said:

I am not attracted to him. I don’t want to date him either, nor do anything again with him.

Then why did you kiss him?

 

25 minutes ago, strangeAvenger0001 said:

…would I be called to the court or would I be found guilty ?

No. You didn’t commit any crime.

[strangeAvenger0001]

20 minutes ago, Weezy1973 said:

Then why did you kiss him?

I just wanted to hook up with someone. Maybe It was just a sexual impulse. 

[mark clemson]

This is an international forum, so the below might not apply if you are outside the US.

In the US we have just a few of the 50 states where, in the event there is an affair followed by a divorce, the affair partner can (in theory) be sued for "alienation of affection" damages, including financial compensation.

This would require a) an affair that meets the legal standard of an affair in that state, b) an actual divorce to follow, and c) there is legally admissible evidence of the affair. There are probably other necessary conditions in some states. It's noteworthy that these suits are rare, and presumably often amount to little more than bitter and vindictive wealthy people attempting to "punish" poorer people via the legal system and/or vain attempts to squeeze money out of folks who don't have much of it.

Overall, even if you live one of these states, you probably don't have much to worry about unless you and/or they are all upper middle class or higher economically and can actually afford lawyers for such purposes.

There may be some US states where an affair is technically a crime, but it's unlikely those laws are enforced nowadays if they are still on the books. Oral sex, for example, is illegal in some states, but imagine the outcry if they started prosecuting folks for that, haha...  My belief is in the vast majority they would leave an affair to civil courts (see above) IF anything, IF there were even laws about this in the state.

If you really want to know the specifics for your (or their) jurisdiction, you'd need to contact a lawyer in that jurisdiction. I'd note that in the US, many family/divorce lawyers will give free 1/2 hour consults, so if you're truly worried you could consider talking to one, and might be able to get some answers without paying their fees.

Edited September 22, 2023 by mark clemson

[Wiseman2]

45 minutes ago, strangeAvenger0001 said:

I just wanted to hook up with someone. Maybe It was just a sexual impulse. 

If this man kissed another woman, that's his problem.

If you would like to date, hookup or have a BF get a good profile and pics on quality dating apps and start talking to and meeting available, single interested men.

Try not to get involved with friends of friends or people in other relationships.

[strangeAvenger0001]

6 minutes ago, Wiseman2 said:

If this man kissed another woman, that's his problem.

If you would like to date, hookup or have a BF get a good profile and pics on quality dating apps and start talking to and meeting available, single interested men.

Try not to get involved with friends of friends or people in other relationships.

Thank you so much for your guidance!