emmy222 Posted September 25, 2023 Share Posted September 25, 2023 I have been dating this guy for 3 months now thing have been going very well. We have been on dates and i have met most of his friends as he has mine. The problem is he still lives with his ex wife. He was honest with me from the 1st date. His reason for still living there are finances and his two young children. He has told me that hes scared to leave as he wont be there to take then to school or put them to bed each night. Apparently the split was amicable and they both live separate lives. They have been separated 9 months. He said he knows that he needs to move out and he will. I guess I'm looking for someone who has been in this situation. Or your thoughts really am i completely mad to keep seeing him? Link to post Share on other sites
Wiseman2 Posted September 25, 2023 Share Posted September 25, 2023 32 minutes ago, emmy222 said: I hes scared to leave as he wont be there to take then to school or put them to bed each night. they both live separate lives. Unfortunately they do not live separate lives if they live as a family and he tucks his children in every night. If you wait around for him you may be setting yourself up for a lot of headaches and heartaches. "He's scared to leave" means he's not leaving anytime soon. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted September 25, 2023 Share Posted September 25, 2023 1 hour ago, emmy222 said: Or your thoughts really am i completely mad to keep seeing him? Yes you are. This is a guy who wants his cake & to eat it too. If finances are an issue, he can live with a roommate. He can still be there for his kids but it will take more effort. You are wasting your time with this one. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
stillafool Posted September 25, 2023 Share Posted September 25, 2023 Yes you are because he is not separated and still living with his wife and family. It sounds like he's planning on staying there until the kids are grown up. Did he show you divorce papers? If not, tell him to get back in touch with you when he has them in hand. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
basil67 Posted September 25, 2023 Share Posted September 25, 2023 (edited) Have you been to his home and seen that he has his own bed and bedroom? Does he stay with you overnight once or twice a week? If the answer to any of these questions is a NO, then he's probably still on with his wife and lying to you. If you answer NO to both questions, then he's definitely cheating on his wife Edited September 25, 2023 by basil67 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Gaeta Posted September 26, 2023 Share Posted September 26, 2023 19 hours ago, emmy222 said: His reason for still living there are finances and his two young children. He has told me that hes scared to leave as he wont be there to take then to school or put them to bed each night They all say that. This is a fully married man using you to have an affair. Link to post Share on other sites
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