Re: My boyfriend is bi

[bethbonnie]

I've been with my boyfriend for a year now

and I just found out that he's bisexual. He told

me a month ago, but apparently he came out while

he was with me. I have nothing against people

being bi, but it's different when you're involved.

I love him so much and I would never want to do

anything to hurt him. It's just that I don't know

how to deal with this situation and he doesn't

know what to do to make me feel better. Please

help me!

You say you love this person...which I would be true

in saying...you have been with this man for some 12 mths

and have become 'emotionally' attached to him...how

can you love someone who betrays you...you need to

say this too yourself, over and over, until you hear the

true precious person within you feeling the betrayal of

his choices. No matter how much the world changes,

how fast or modern technology advances, with all

due respect to your 'love' for this person, and where

homosexual practices are concerned...hear this...'a glove

fits a hand...not a foot'....our genitals were designed to

fit in a healthy loving relationship, and no excuses for

anything else...my strong advice to your relationship

situation, leave him to his own selfish perverted ways...

you dont need this sort of character. Your self worth

and respect is far worthy and deserving of more.

I am a person who speaks the truth, and care not for

others excuses to deceive or betray someones love

and trust. Emotions can be wounded so badly when

someone selfishly pursues perverted ways. If you

decide to realise that this is not an action that is certainly

not unforgiveable, but not to be tolerated, you will be

doing yourself a true rightful kindness, he either loves

you and means it enough to act nothing less that

totally committed and responsbile to your love for him,

or he gets his marching orders, no butts or ifs....

Yes, I am blunt, but my heart is in the right place, you

as a woman do not deserve this sort of betrayal to have

done toward you, there is nothing to understand about

homosexuality, except that it is a perverted selfish way

to act...and as I said before, 'gloves fit hands, not feet...

I wish you well,,,bethbonnie, Australia...

[Ryan]

I've been with my boyfriend for a year now

and I just found out that he's bisexual. He told me a month ago, but apparently he came out while he was with me. I have nothing against people being bi, but it's different when you're involved. I love him so much and I would never want to do anything to hurt him. It's just that I don't know how to deal with this situation and he doesn't know what to do to make me feel better. Please help me!

My question is...how does he know? If he has been faithful to you for the past year, what sparked his interest in men now? It's a bit of a curious situation. People don't usually make proclamations of this nature unless they intend to shake things up around them. If he was truly committed to you and shared your love, what difference would his bisexuality make at that point? What would be achieved by telling you this other than making you upset, which it has? It's not about "being true to yourself" because he wouldn't be creating a false image. I think you need to find out why he decided to make this public. I also take some objection to another reply I read. Homosexuality in itself is not inherently WRONG, although some of strong religious belief contend as such. I'm not homosexual or bisexual, and I realize it's not terribly good for reproduction to be homosexual, but such people can be quite valid members of society. It should also be known that there are very many people who consider themselves bisexual or homosexual when they are really sexually ambivalent or confused due to some prior trauma. There are those who just have the biology and personality to function as healthy homosexuals, but quite a few are also "created" by things such as sexual abuse. Not all homosexuals/bisexuals were abused, and not all of those abused become homosexual/bisexual......but the two do coincide a significant amount.