westernxer Posted November 10, 2005 Share Posted November 10, 2005 3rd marriage 37 years old Red alert... Link to post Share on other sites
Author scobro Posted November 10, 2005 Author Share Posted November 10, 2005 Red alert... Yes I know Link to post Share on other sites
Trimmer Posted November 11, 2005 Share Posted November 11, 2005 Scobro - I agree with these guys - this is all about HER issues, don't let it get to you. She's either playing intentional mind games (which would make her EEEE-VILLE), or she's just very insensitive. Either way, it's her mind warp and not yours. And I wouldn't give her the satisfaction (or whatever she would get from it) of letting her know it bugged you. As a matter of fact, I would apply the old concept of "the best revenge is doing well..." Get strong, be confident, and don't let anyone else make you feel like you don't want to be there. I was talking with someone - maybe it was TonyP - who was having a problem because he wanted to have total NC with his wife, but had to deal with her logisitically to see his kids. I told him to keep NC with his wife, but to think of her and deal with her as the "mother of his kids." I wonder if you see her again in the context of the gym, if you can cast her as a different character in your mind - kind of like the old game for stage-struck public speakers of imagining the audience sitting in their underwear. I don't want to descend into disrespect (I'll leave that to you ) but when you see her, can you imagine her as a kind of a superficial, bubbly gym-groupie, kind of showing off and winking at the personal trainers - but you've been warned about her sordid history. You might give her a professional nod, but you know better, and don't want to get anywhere near... Just some kind of a game you can play to be able to acknowledge her, but to be able to turn away and maybe even grin a little bit, and avoid seeing that idealized version of her that hurts so much... I don't know - just an idea. Since you know her, you can probably invent a better character... If you do, will you share it with us??? Link to post Share on other sites
Author scobro Posted November 11, 2005 Author Share Posted November 11, 2005 Since you know her, you can probably invent a better character... If you do, will you share it with us??? yeah Snuffellupagus from Sesame Street(big birds buddy nobody else could see) Link to post Share on other sites
Devildog Posted November 11, 2005 Share Posted November 11, 2005 That's why I decided to stop dating good looking guys after my last two relationships. You know, I would hate to be the guy you date. "Well, honey, I choose you because you were spectacularly unattractive". Such a confidence booster there. Link to post Share on other sites
seachange Posted November 11, 2005 Share Posted November 11, 2005 yeah Snuffellupagus from Sesame Street(big birds buddy nobody else could see) funny! Link to post Share on other sites
dgiirl Posted November 11, 2005 Share Posted November 11, 2005 1) I agree with Mz. Pixie. scobro, very cute indeed. It would be nice to see a closer pic of your face 2) As for the exw, just flirt with some of the girls there when she's looking. That'll piss her off Hey I'm moving to TO soon, maybe I could hire you to be my fitness trainer lol 3) Seriously, just act like business as usual and put it in YOUR mind that you dumped her. Sometimes it's easier to accept when you make it your decision to leave too. Link to post Share on other sites
Mz. Pixie Posted November 11, 2005 Share Posted November 11, 2005 See, I do know a little something- Seriously, it was a guess considering her actions and then looking at your avatar- because guys like you go for girls like that. Not a slam on you, just a observation from what I've seen. I have a cousin like her- all about her looks. She's 35 looks 25- but has had several operations- two boob jobs- eyes done, etc. When she is old and wrinkly from all that tanning then what will she have left considering her whole life is based on appearance??? NOT MUCH. Your wife has some issues. I believe she will eventually want to come back to you- because she feels safe that you love her but I hope you can be strong. Men are like disposable diapers to her- she ****s in one and takes it off and leaves it on the floor and picks up a clean one. Link to post Share on other sites
Author scobro Posted November 11, 2005 Author Share Posted November 11, 2005 Men are like disposable diapers to her- she ****s in one and takes it off and leaves it on the floor and picks up a clean one. hahahaha funny.I can guarantee I would not take her back if someone paid me. Link to post Share on other sites
Trimmer Posted November 11, 2005 Share Posted November 11, 2005 There you go, man - next time you see her at the gym: Snuffellupagus wearing a disposable diaper... Link to post Share on other sites
Author scobro Posted November 11, 2005 Author Share Posted November 11, 2005 Hey I'm moving to TO soon,It would be nice to see a closer pic of your face You don't like living somewhere over the rainbow anymore diigirl?I will see what I can do about the face shot , but maybe I do that on purpose because looking at me is like staring into the sun;) Link to post Share on other sites
Mz. Pixie Posted November 11, 2005 Share Posted November 11, 2005 Oh, my, we go from no self esteem to be as brilliant as the sun! Link to post Share on other sites
dgiirl Posted November 11, 2005 Share Posted November 11, 2005 lol mz pixie!! I was thinking the same thing... it's nice to see his self esteem is back Link to post Share on other sites
Author scobro Posted November 12, 2005 Author Share Posted November 12, 2005 Oh, my, we go from no self esteem to be as brilliant as the sun! Oh, my, we go from no self esteem to be as brilliant as the sun! you guys didn't get that it went way over your heads.I was slamming myself.What happens when you look into the sun?????you look away because your eyes cannot stand it. Link to post Share on other sites
dgiirl Posted November 12, 2005 Share Posted November 12, 2005 i thought it was we would be in awe of your beauty Link to post Share on other sites
Author scobro Posted November 12, 2005 Author Share Posted November 12, 2005 i thought it was we would be in awe of your beauty hahahaha ya I would have to have a pretty big ego but unfortunately that got shaterred about 3 and a half months ago so the self esteem is a little low, especially when I see my ex, wow you feel so inadequate like every guy on the planet is better than you very weird feeling but I am sure it will change for the better soon. Link to post Share on other sites
dgiirl Posted November 12, 2005 Share Posted November 12, 2005 yep, been there, done that... Felt extremely ugly to have my exh leave me for another woman. But, I've had a few encounters with the ex now where i think to myself "what the hell is wrong with him to dump me!". It will take some effort from you, but your self esteem will come back! Just make sure you dont get too cocky You need a nice balance between too humble and too cocky. Link to post Share on other sites
Author scobro Posted November 12, 2005 Author Share Posted November 12, 2005 You need a nice balance between too humble and too cocky. HUMOCKEY!!!!!! Link to post Share on other sites
Author scobro Posted November 12, 2005 Author Share Posted November 12, 2005 dgiirl Are you moving to Toronto oR outside like Mississauga ,Oakville ,burlington etc... Link to post Share on other sites
amish Posted November 14, 2005 Share Posted November 14, 2005 ah, someone with the typical crock of sh*t answer. Quick show of hands here, how many of the dumpees heard this very same line only to find out that someone else was involved? [raises hand] Ooh, me me me! Link to post Share on other sites
dgiirl Posted November 14, 2005 Share Posted November 14, 2005 dgiirl Are you moving to Toronto oR outside like Mississauga ,Oakville ,burlington etc... I'm not sure yet Kinda playing things by ear. Need to settle things with my divorce first, but I do plan on moving back to GTA soon. I'm in the process of selling my house, so hopefully that will go quickly. Link to post Share on other sites
Mz. Pixie Posted November 15, 2005 Share Posted November 15, 2005 Sco- I got what you were saying- I just pretended not to. You know, get up everyday and look in the mirror and say "I am the prize" to yourself. Truly, if your wife doesn't get it, then why would you want her?? Really, think about that. Link to post Share on other sites
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