Henric77 Posted October 20, 2023 Share Posted October 20, 2023 (edited) Long story short .. lol We found eachother on a dating app a couple of months ago. We are both in our late 30is with kids every other week. So, In the beginning the conversation has been really good and the dates likewise. She said stuff like "how perfect iam" "how shes gonna fall so hard for me" "how everything almost feels to good to be true" .. you get the point. Her attitude has been 100% forward with me. Exposing A lot of emotions. We been kissing and spent a night togheter. Anyway, shortly 2-3 weeks after this she disapears for 5-6 days. Not answering my latest text. So I reached out and she responded then saying she "was so sorry for disappearing, its been hectic and wanted to see me and love emojis" We meet up a few days later and we kiss and hang out everything feels great Now things are starting to get weird. Last week shes seem a bit off in her converstion with me. Taking long to reply and replying without much effort put into it. Now its been more then 10 days since she last activly wrote to me. Ive sent two texts (first was last week, and last was 2-3 days ago) which isnt much and I tried to call her ONCE last week, Thats it. So I tried to reached out 2 times since she vanish. I didnt know she was gonna disapperar with my first text lol. I posted a story recently on my IG and she watched it. Like, wtf.. Why does she even watch it? Im..super confused lmao She has 3 kids, shes a ceo of a big company and works a lot and latley just said "im so tierd, im so exhausted" and then pretty much disapeard.. So whats my next move here. I got some ideas of my own but would like to get some tips. Edited October 20, 2023 by Henric77 Link to post Share on other sites
Wiseman2 Posted October 20, 2023 Share Posted October 20, 2023 15 minutes ago, Henric77 said: We been kissing and spent a night togheter. we meet up a few days later and we kiss and hang out everything feels great Sorry this is happening. How many actual dates have you been on in the two months you've been talking? Are you exclusive or still both talking to and meeting others? How recent is her divorce? Unfortunately she seems a bit flaky and superficial. Or perhaps she's playing the field. No one is "too busy" for what they're interested in or what's important. All you can do is shoot out one more text asking for a specific date and see if she replies. If so great, if not, you can move forward knowing you tried your best. Link to post Share on other sites
MsJayne Posted October 20, 2023 Share Posted October 20, 2023 I'd just leave it with her, make no move at all. Anyone who starts telling you you're "perfect" five minutes after they met you should be approached with caution because they're shallow and insincere. She's probably met another guy on the internet and he's perfect too, but only until she gets bored after a couple of weeks. Even if she does contact you again, unless she's been in hospital on life support I wouldn't bother responding. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
ShyViolet Posted October 21, 2023 Share Posted October 21, 2023 22 hours ago, Henric77 said: So whats my next move here. I got some ideas of my own but would like to get some tips. Your next move here is to leave her alone. You have tried to reach out to her multiple times and she is not responding. She's making it clear that she doesn't want to continue with you. Why would you think it's appropriate to keep contacting her and chasing her?? Take the hint and leave her alone. Yes it was inconsiderate of her to just ghost you, there definitely could have been a better way for her to do this. But her message is clear and it would be weird of you to keep chasing her and contacting her. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Weezy1973 Posted October 21, 2023 Share Posted October 21, 2023 Look up the term “love bombing”. She’s given you an out here; be grateful to end this. Your emotions will be all over the place at first, but they will simmer down after awhile. Link to post Share on other sites
stillafool Posted October 21, 2023 Share Posted October 21, 2023 It's pretty simple. She's just using you when she needs sex and affection. It's doubtful that you are the only man she's using for this. Her time is spent on her children and her work. She probably doesn't need a man for anything else. Link to post Share on other sites
ExpatInItaly Posted October 22, 2023 Share Posted October 22, 2023 On 10/20/2023 at 10:15 PM, Henric77 said: So whats my next move here Discount her as an option, and focus on meeting other women. This one is a dead-end now. Link to post Share on other sites
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