ericw899 Posted November 12, 2023 Share Posted November 12, 2023 I’ve been seeing this girl for a few months now. Our first date was actually in June then our next wasn’t until October. Scheduling issues kind of got in the way. Our second date we went to dinner and things went very well. We ended the night with a hug and kiss on the cheek. Two weeks later we went on our 3rd date and it was definitely our best date yet. We did dinner and drinks and the restaurant we were at was very loud so I sat next to her instead of across from her so we could hear each other. She seemed to like that as I put my arm around her and held her a bit and she responded well. I drove her back home after and when we got to her house we gave each other a very long hug and she then puckered her lips and I kissed her twice. She got out of my truck and started to walk inside and I realized she forgot the flowers I got her so I ran to give them to her and she puckered for another kiss which I gave her. fast forward to this past week we went on our fourth date which was a lunch date. When I picked her up she gave me her cheek for a kiss which I didn’t mind and we went to lunch. I actually sat across from her at lunch but she indicated for me to come sit next to her, so I moved seats. I once again put my arm around her and we had a good date. Afterwords we went for a drive and she even took selfies of us together which seemed positive. Finally I bring her home and I thought for sure we would kiss again. I kind of messed up because I didn’t hug her in my truck like we did last time, I let her get out first before going around and hugging her goodbye. We hugged for about 30 seconds but she never indicated a kiss so she just walked away from that point. Funny enough though as she walked away she turned back and blew me a kiss which I thought was interesting. So it kind of left me thinking did I mess up by not going for a kiss and is this something that happens where you kiss on one date but not the next? To add a bit more context she is Ecuadorian and only speaks Spanish and I’m American and only speaks English other than some basic Spanish so as you can imagine it is a little tough to read someone you don’t speak the same language as. But i know she is very conservative and reserved so I don’t want to force things and make her uncomfortable. Any thoughts are appreciated thank you! Link to post Share on other sites
Wiseman2 Posted November 12, 2023 Share Posted November 12, 2023 1 hour ago, ericw899 said: Ecuadorian and only speaks Spanish and I’m American and only speaks English other than some basic Spanish so as you can imagine it is a little tough to read someone you don’t speak the same language as. But i know she is very conservative and reserved so I don’t want to force things and make her uncomfortable. It seems to be going well. She seems to like you and the dates are going well Maybe she likes to go slowly, maybe there's some cultural differences as far as dating expectations. Either way just persevere and see how it goes. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Versacehottie Posted November 12, 2023 Share Posted November 12, 2023 I'd guess a middle of the day lunch was the reason for no kiss. It's the middle of the day..esp if it was a busy area or a work day, then it prob wasn't the vibe or environment for that. It's like a (anti-) PDA thing. I'm guessing if you are on another evening date and pick ideal venues, she will kiss you. Or if you are alone and not in public.... Link to post Share on other sites
Gaeta Posted November 13, 2023 Share Posted November 13, 2023 Yiu need to be a little more assertive. Learn to say in Spanish may l kiss you. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
glows Posted November 13, 2023 Share Posted November 13, 2023 She already initiated the kisses in the earlier date and probably is looking for you to take more initiative the next time. You didn’t mess up. Ask her out again. Link to post Share on other sites
Ami1uwant Posted November 13, 2023 Share Posted November 13, 2023 15 hours ago, ericw899 said: I’ve been seeing this girl for a few months now. Our first date was actually in June then our next wasn’t until October. Scheduling issues kind of got in the way. Our second date we went to dinner and things went very well. We ended the night with a hug and kiss on the cheek. Two weeks later we went on our 3rd date and it was definitely our best date yet. We did dinner and drinks and the restaurant we were at was very loud so I sat next to her instead of across from her so we could hear each other. She seemed to like that as I put my arm around her and held her a bit and she responded well. I drove her back home after and when we got to her house we gave each other a very long hug and she then puckered her lips and I kissed her twice. She got out of my truck and started to walk inside and I realized she forgot the flowers I got her so I ran to give them to her and she puckered for another kiss which I gave her. fast forward to this past week we went on our fourth date which was a lunch date. When I picked her up she gave me her cheek for a kiss which I didn’t mind and we went to lunch. I actually sat across from her at lunch but she indicated for me to come sit next to her, so I moved seats. I once again put my arm around her and we had a good date. Afterwords we went for a drive and she even took selfies of us together which seemed positive. Finally I bring her home and I thought for sure we would kiss again. I kind of messed up because I didn’t hug her in my truck like we did last time, I let her get out first before going around and hugging her goodbye. We hugged for about 30 seconds but she never indicated a kiss so she just walked away from that point. Funny enough though as she walked away she turned back and blew me a kiss which I thought was interesting. So it kind of left me thinking did I mess up by not going for a kiss and is this something that happens where you kiss on one date but not the next? To add a bit more context she is Ecuadorian and only speaks Spanish and I’m American and only speaks English other than some basic Spanish so as you can imagine it is a little tough to read someone you don’t speak the same language as. But i know she is very conservative and reserved so I don’t want to force things and make her uncomfortable. Any thoughts are appreciated thank you! Bring Serious…..why are you dating her given the language barrier? Link to post Share on other sites
ExpatInItaly Posted November 13, 2023 Share Posted November 13, 2023 4 hours ago, Ami1uwant said: why are you dating her given the language barrier? I was coming to ask the same thing. How do you two communicate on dates when you can hardly speak each other's language? Link to post Share on other sites
Alpacalia Posted November 13, 2023 Share Posted November 13, 2023 (edited) It seems like things are going well so far. I wouldn't worry about the who kisses who thing. If you feel like the chemistry is there and you want to kiss her on the next date, go for it. As long as there are other positive signs in your dates, I think you're right to focus more on the chemistry and not analyze the physical. It will fall into place PS. When my cousin and his wife started dating, she had limited English proficiency. Fast forward ten years, and they're still happily married, overcoming communication hurdles. They are super cute together. It's a testament to the idea that language differences can be navigated successfully with time and patience, although it's not without its share of challenges. Edited November 13, 2023 by Alpacalia 1 Link to post Share on other sites
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