47-year-old man wants to hook up?

[Gaeta]

11 minutes ago, Meangreenmysterymachine said:

I can see him complaining and chatting 

I would not be interested in a man that chats and complains at work. 

I am always wary of men going for much younger women. Probably women his age would not be interested in his character. 

[Meangreenmysterymachine]

2 hours ago, Gaeta said:

I would not be interested in a man that chats and complains at work. 

I am always wary of men going for much younger women. Probably women his age would not be interested in his character. 

Why 

[stillafool]

3 hours ago, Meangreenmysterymachine said:

Just showing off his thighs and legs you know like how insta models do by the pool in their insta posts by flaunting their legs and thighs. Just like that.

OMG, what a turn off.

[basil67]

Given that he's very confident and forward with you, I have no doubt he'd ask you out or proposition you if he actually wanted a date or sex.   Seems that he's simply enjoying some office flirting, attention seeking and nothing more.  

It think it's best you manage your expectations with this one.

[Meangreenmysterymachine]

6 minutes ago, basil67 said:

Given that he's very confident and forward with you, I have no doubt he'd ask you out or proposition you if he actually wanted a date or sex.   Seems that he's simply enjoying some office flirting, attention seeking and nothing more.  

It think it's best you manage your expectations with this one.

Then why is he getting upset when I'm not asking him out or responding to him in a way he wants?

[glows]

4 hours ago, Meangreenmysterymachine said:

I like him but I'm waiting for him tk ask

 

4 hours ago, Meangreenmysterymachine said:

Relationship 

This isn’t the right guy. Move on. 

If he respected you or wanted something substantial he’d have asked you out and been more forthright, treated you with respect instead of playing juvenile games texting what are your evening plans at 9pm at night and sending pictures of his legs on display like he’s looking for a good yelp review. 

This guy is not the one for a relationship.

 

[Meangreenmysterymachine]

Just now, glows said:

 

This isn’t the right guy. Move on. 

If he respected you or wanted something substantial he’d have asked you out and been more forthright, treated you with respect instead of playing juvenile games texting what are your evening plans at 9pm at night and sending pictures of his legs on display like he’s looking for a good yelp review. 

This guy is not the one for a relationship.

 

Then what is he looking for??? He's literally 47 

[glows]

3 minutes ago, Meangreenmysterymachine said:

Then what is he looking for??? He's literally 47 

Some people are mindless like that. You should ask him yourself because no one here knows the true answer. All this is is speculation. 

[basil67]

7 minutes ago, Meangreenmysterymachine said:

Then why is he getting upset when I'm not asking him out or responding to him in a way he wants?

Because he expects you to play the game and has a hissy fit when you don't.  The guy sounds like a standard office lech

[stillafool]

3 minutes ago, Meangreenmysterymachine said:

Then what is he looking for??? He's literally 47 

Compliments and someone to stroke his ego.  Posting pictures of his legs is so girly, I just can't.....

[basil67]

4 minutes ago, Meangreenmysterymachine said:

Then what is he looking for??? He's literally 47 

What's his age got to do with it? 

[stillafool]

5 minutes ago, Meangreenmysterymachine said:

Then what is he looking for??? He's literally 47 

What does being 47 have to do with it?

[Meangreenmysterymachine]

2 minutes ago, stillafool said:

Compliments and someone to stroke his ego.  Posting pictures of his legs is so girly, I just can't.....

I doubt he's just looking for compliments because each weekend he asks me what my plans are expecting me to ask him out but because I'm unsure of his intentions I don't ask him out.

He is quite girly. He has 7000 photos of everything, takes 100s of selfies,  even makes videos of himself in suits etc and he's extremely bothered by the fact that he's aging and getting grey hairs. He also had advanced cancer 3 years ago

Edited November 19, 2023 by Meangreenmysterymachine

[Meangreenmysterymachine]

1 minute ago, stillafool said:

What does being 47 have to do with it?

 

1 minute ago, basil67 said:

What's his age got to do with it? 

You would expect a man nearing 50 will be mature

[basil67]

4 minutes ago, basil67 said:

Because he expects you to play the game and has a hissy fit when you don't.  The guy sounds like a standard office lech

Further, earlier in the thread you said he was just a normal friendly guy.  Now you're saying he gets upset when you don't react as he wants.  That's NOT a normal friendly guy.

 

[basil67]

2 minutes ago, Meangreenmysterymachine said:

You would expect a man nearing 50 will be mature

Age and maturity have no relation to each other.  There are some very mature 20yos and some very immature 60yos.  

And if you think he's immature, why are you wanting a relationship with him?

Edited November 19, 2023 by basil67

[basil67]

4 minutes ago, Meangreenmysterymachine said:

I doubt he's just looking for compliments because each weekend he asks me what my plans are expecting me to ask him out but because I'm unsure of his intentions I don't ask him out.

He is quite girly. He has 7000 photos of everything, takes 100s of selfies,  even makes videos of himself in suits etc

How do you know he's expecting you to ask him out?  Serious question.     

Why are you not turned off by his vanity?

[Wiseman2]

15 minutes ago, Meangreenmysterymachine said:

Then why is he getting upset when I'm not asking him out or responding to him in a way he wants?

Are you hoping he has a crush on you? If neither of you has suggested getting together outside of work,  how can he be "upset"?  How do you know he wants you to ask him out or how he wants you to respond?  All you know is he's likes to chat, be friendly and send pics. 

[Meangreenmysterymachine]

1 minute ago, basil67 said:

How do you know he's expecting you to ask him out?  Serious question.     

Why are you not turned off by his vanity?

Because he gets grumpy or cold with me when I don't say anything. Like yesterday it was literally 12 am until I called it a night by saying it's already 12 am and he was like get to bed and I said yes and you too and he said he was already in bed since 11.30 (before he sent me a pic of a non alcoholic drink as he doesn't drink alcohol) and I said no I meant sleep 😴 and he got upset and didn't react or comment and today he was upset and said why did I cut the conversation and that's it. No photos, no texts, nothing 

[Meangreenmysterymachine]

2 minutes ago, Wiseman2 said:

Are you hoping he has a crush on you? If neither of you has suggested getting together outside of work,  how can he be "upset"?  How do you know he wants you to ask him out or how he wants you to respond?  All you know is he's likes to chat, be friendly and send pics. 

He already has a crush on me. I am not hoping anything. I already know it as he flirts all the time

[Meangreenmysterymachine]

7 minutes ago, basil67 said:

Age and maturity have no relation to each other.  There are some very mature 20yos and some very immature 60yos.  

And if you think he's immature, why are you wanting a relationship with him?

Just to see where it goes. Its not like I'm getting married to him

[glows]

Then what Basil said by him wanting or needing the attention is right. I’m just puzzled why this man. Go out there and date, meet other men. See for yourself what a joke this guy is.

[stillafool]

12 minutes ago, Meangreenmysterymachine said:

I doubt he's just looking for compliments because each weekend he asks me what my plans are expecting me to ask him out but because I'm unsure of his intentions I don't ask him out.

He is quite girly. He has 7000 photos of everything, takes 100s of selfies,  even makes videos of himself in suits etc and he's extremely bothered by the fact that he's aging and getting grey hairs. He also had advanced cancer 3 years ago

Has he ever been married?

[Meangreenmysterymachine]

1 minute ago, glows said:

Then what Basil said by him wanting or needing the attention is right. I’m just puzzled why this man. Go out there and date, meet other men. See for yourself what a joke this guy is.

 

3 minutes ago, Meangreenmysterymachine said:

Because he gets grumpy or cold with me when I don't say anything. Like yesterday it was literally 12 am until I called it a night by saying it's already 12 am and he was like get to bed and I said yes and you too and he said he was already in bed since 11.30 (before he sent me a pic of a non alcoholic drink as he doesn't drink alcohol) and I said no I meant sleep 😴 and he got upset and didn't react or comment and today he was upset and said why did I cut the conversation and that's it. No photos, no texts, nothing 

Here

[basil67]

4 minutes ago, Meangreenmysterymachine said:

Because he gets grumpy or cold with me when I don't say anything. Like yesterday it was literally 12 am until I called it a night by saying it's already 12 am and he was like get to bed and I said yes and you too and he said he was already in bed since 11.30 (before he sent me a pic of a non alcoholic drink as he doesn't drink alcohol) and I said no I meant sleep 😴 and he got upset and didn't react or comment and today he was upset and said why did I cut the conversation and that's it. No photos, no texts, nothing 

There's nothing here to suggest he wants you to ask him out.   I think he's grumpy and cold because you stop giving him attention.  And he probably wants photos of your lady parts.

Edited November 19, 2023 by basil67