Gaeta Posted December 30, 2023 Share Posted December 30, 2023 12 hours ago, Bane837 said: There is a very high probability we are going to break up. I’ve got to figure out how to do it, get my stuff back, what to tell our family There is no *we*. You don't need his approbation to breakup, this is not a mutual decision, it's your decision. I know you are embarassed of this situation and you'd prefer people not know the man you picked for partner did this to you but the embarassment is on him. You need your family to know so they fully protect and support you. Him and his family is not your concern and please do not lie to protect his reputation in front of his family, that's how abusers go on abusing. Go get your things with your parents l would ask the local police to accompany you. Do not take this lightly. Where l live a young woman went to her ex to get her things, he told her she could go while he was at work, turns out he was hiding inside and stabbed her to death. No, it does not just happen to other people. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
stillafool Posted December 30, 2023 Share Posted December 30, 2023 16 hours ago, Bane837 said: I’ve got to figure out how to do it, get my stuff back, what to tell our friends/my family/his family Just tell them the truth. I don't know why girls are so afraid to lose a guy. There are plenty more. Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted December 30, 2023 Share Posted December 30, 2023 16 hours ago, Bane837 said: I technically live with my parents but was staying every night with him for a very long time but still have my room. There is a very high probability we are going to break up. I’ve got to figure out how to do it, get my stuff back, what to tell our friends/my family/his family Take a good female friend with you. Get your stuff. Then break up with him. Do tell your parents about the violence but you don't have to share all the details with everyone else if you don't want to Link to post Share on other sites
ShyViolet Posted December 31, 2023 Share Posted December 31, 2023 21 hours ago, Bane837 said: I’ve got to figure out how to do it, get my stuff back, what to tell our friends/my family/his family You tell your friends and family THE TRUTH. End of story. And you don't tell HIS family anything. It's not your responsibility to explain it to his family. You shouldn't even be in contact with them at this point, when the relationship is ending. Who cares what they think about the breakup?? That's not your problem. Your job is to protect yourself and get yourself out of this abusive relationship. Link to post Share on other sites
S2B Posted January 1 Share Posted January 1 On 12/29/2023 at 7:51 PM, Bane837 said: I technically live with my parents but was staying every night with him for a very long time but still have my room. There is a very high probability we are going to break up. I’ve got to figure out how to do it, get my stuff back, what to tell our friends/my family/his family You just DO IT. go get your things - take a family member with you - leave his key. Let anyone who asks that it ended because your goals weren’t compatible. do NOT ever stay with ANY man who acts the way he did!!! 2 Link to post Share on other sites
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