A dream about another man

[Randomanon]

Last night I had the hottest sex dream about an ex and I don’t know what this means for my current relationship. 

I saw my ex in passing yesterday he was walking to the gym- he didn’t see me. I guess that meant he was on my mind. I would like to state that for the record I haven’t had any contact with this ex since being with my current man and me and the ex never actually had sex- the dream last night was purely fantasy, which is why I’m concerned. The dream included me sat on my exs’ d saying I have a boyfriend and simply continuing which is why I’m so confused- it’s against my morals completely to cheat and I would never do that to anyone. The dream had my ex only worried about my pleasure- kissing and sucking on my breasts and eating me out. I initiated the kissing and it only heightened from there- I was on his lap grinding against his erection. It truly was a DREAM but I why was it my ex and not my boyfriend in my dream?

 

I think it’s important to mention I haven’t seen my current boyfriend for a few weeks and I did consider breaking up with him due to him not even the bare minimum in a relationship e.g he stopped saying I love you and there was not any effort going into the relationship from his side. I love him and I agreed to stay if these things improved but it’s still not the best between us so I’m still wondering whether I am best off to leave. 

 

I want people’s thoughts on what they think this means for me and my boyfriend and whether they think this means I still have feelings for this ex (we ended things 2 years ago).

[Alpacalia]

Don't beat yourself up over it too much. Hey, at least it sounds like a fun dream, and you're right, the subconscious has its strange little ways. The thing that I find most interesting (and just a little concerning) is that you said that you haven't seen your current boyfriend for a few weeks. Um...really? You're in a committed relationship and haven't seen each other for weeks? It's just a little odd is all, so I have to wonder what's up, here. Lastly, don't sit there and worry about whether you have feelings for your ex. You're pretty clearly unhappy in your relationship, here, so you have a right to wonder what's up.

[Wiseman2]

58 minutes ago, Randomanon said:

 I haven’t seen my current boyfriend for a few weeks and I did consider breaking up with him due to him not even the bare minimum in a relationship

It seems like your current relationship is not working out. As far as erotic dreams that's fine but why continue in an unhappy relationship? 

Edited December 24, 2023 by Wiseman2

[ShyViolet]

Dreams don't mean anything.  I had a dream last night that I had my own pet shark in a huge shark tank.  That doesn't mean that I now want to get a pet shark.  You are really reading too much into this.  

6 hours ago, Randomanon said:

I want people’s thoughts on what they think this means for me and my boyfriend and whether they think this means I still have feelings for this ex 

Well DO you still have feelings for your ex?  You should be able to answer this for yourself without thinking that some dream holds the answer.

[ShyViolet]

6 hours ago, Randomanon said:

I think it’s important to mention I haven’t seen my current boyfriend for a few weeks and I did consider breaking up with him due to him not even the bare minimum in a relationship e.g he stopped saying I love you and there was not any effort going into the relationship from his side. I love him and I agreed to stay if these things improved but it’s still not the best between us so I’m still wondering whether I am best off to leave. 

Well if the relationship is going this badly, then maybe you should end it.  But that has nothing to do with your ex or this random dream.  It's a separate issue.