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11 minutes ago, viewfromtheoutside said:

If I showed a lack of interest in what he was saying or did something like break eye contact and excuse myself from the conversation he would get pissed off...him pissed off is him acting like I don't exist for a week and giving me angry gazes....

I feel like I'm at a point where my body language does suggests I'm fed up... I often don't make eye contact when he's talking about these things and as I said I can sit there for 30-40 minutes and maybe get 3 words in without him being affected or zeroing in that he is talking too much....as he'll be so into what he's saying....

Are you kidding?  Why on earth are you putting up with this?  This guy sounds absolutely self-centered and exhausting.  There is no way I would stay in a relationship with someone like this.  He's just using you as his venting receptacle, he's not the slightest bit interested in you as a person, he just wants to talk at you for an hour straight and not let you get a word in edgewise.

I think you need to dump this guy asap, but you also badly need to work on your self-esteem and assertiveness.  It's very concerning that you would let someone do this to you for so long and not speak up and put a stop to it earlier.

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16 minutes ago, viewfromtheoutside said:

 Don't think there's much hope here 

Unfortunately I agree. He seems too self-centered and is just coasting along oblivious to you and your relationship. Please enlist the support of friends and family to plan your exit. Tell him it's not working and either move out or ask him to, depending on your living situation. Please don't waste your youth on this. 

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39 minutes ago, viewfromtheoutside said:

If I showed a lack of interest in what he was saying or did something like break eye contact and excuse myself from the conversation he would get pissed off...him pissed off is him acting like I don't exist for a week and giving me angry gazes....

I'm confused. First you claimed he gives you the silent treatment but now he talks too much?

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I'm confused about why you would start a new thread with a whole new user profile to continue complaining about this guy.

You got a lot of input already - some of it you seem to have liked, other not so much.  Maybe you're here for pity and sympathy, which you've received.  You've also got solid advice, which you've completely ignored.   Clearly you're not interested in taking any type of action.

Yet you just make a new profile, change some minor details, and come back to complain more.

Serious question:  What are you wanting here?   

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