No friends I'm early 20s

[Sofia2002]

I am currently 21 years old and I feel very lonely. The past few years I knew that I didn't have many friends but It didn't bother me much cause I had a boyfriend and know that we are no longer together I feel very lonely. I do have friends, like 10 of them. Some from high school, a few from uni, some from my summer vacations. But I still fill lonely because I can't make plans with them more than once a week and nobody would make Plans with me if I don't initiate it first. How can I start over? How can I find a best friend?

[Alpacalia]

It's not fun to feel lonely. It's good that you have a good group of friends, but they may not always be available to hang out. Keep broadening your circle by joining clubs and organizations that align with your interests. This is a great way to meet new people.

How do you feel about  reaching out to people you don't know too well, but have always wanted to get to know better? Invite them to hang out one-on-one and see if you click. Sometimes, our best friends are waiting for us in unexpected places. Don't be afraid to strike up conversations with strangers or participate in events and activities that interest you. It may feel uncomfortable at first, but it's a great way to meet new people and potentially form strong friendships.

I hope you have a wonderful new year ahead!

[Wiseman2]

1 hour ago, Sofia2002 said:

 I had a boyfriend and know that we are no longer together I feel very lonely. I do have friends, like 10 of them. Some from high school, a few from uni, some from my summer vacations. 

Sorry this is happening. How long ago did you break-up and what was the breakup about?  Do you work? Live with parents? 

Have you tried getting a good profile and pics on quality paid relationship focused dating apps and talking to and meeting men? 

Please join some groups and clubs, volunteer, get involved in sports and fitness, take some classes and courses and broaden your social horizons. 

You'll have fun doing and learning new things with like-minded people you see regularly and can start making friends and talking to new men. 

[d0nnivain]

You find friends by being a friend.  If you have 10 friends, spend some time with each of them.  Invest in the relationships.  

[mark clemson]

I think 20+ is a little tricky. People are starting towards full adulthood, and needing more of their time spent on taking care of themselves + (just like you did) focusing more on "primary" relationships, ie. their partner/potential spouse.

Once you're a "full" adult, you'll probably have your best luck with friendships based on shared interests (as people tend to be too busy with work and family for too much else). However, you've got some years between here and there where there will still be room for finding someone to spend time with and do things together as friends.

I suspect once you have a new BF you won't feel as lonely, and the issue of friends may become less important to you again.