Is this the type of guy to stay away from?

[Alpacalia]

1 minute ago, SlimShadysWife said:

So are you saying it's no biggie that he follows all these girls? To not be so judgey ?

No, I'm saying that you don't seem like you're a good match for this guy. You're already distrustful of him and seem to think he's a "future headache." If the thought of him following pretty girls on social media bothers you, it's probably best not to pursue anything with him. What do you think would happen if you two got together? Would you be able to trust him? Would you be able to handle his social media behavior?

It sounds like you already have some concerns and it's important to listen to those instincts. I didn't care when I interacted with the man I posted because, quite frankly, I wasn't 100% sure what I wanted so at the time it worked for me. But now it's clear that you have some reservations and that's completely valid. 

[Wiseman2]

19 hours ago, SlimShadysWife said:

 I had to do some FBI work first.

I looked at his social media. Looked at his following hundreds of thousands of very pretty girls, alot scandalous in the way they dress. 

FBI work? It seems like you were interested in him and that's why you stalked his social media. However it seems there's too much competition here to bother staying in touch with him. 

[Kassieee]

54 minutes ago, Alpacalia said:

No, I'm saying that you don't seem like you're a good match for this guy. You're already distrustful of him and seem to think he's a "future headache." If the thought of him following pretty girls on social media bothers you, it's probably best not to pursue anything with him. What do you think would happen if you two got together? Would you be able to trust him? Would you be able to handle his social media behavior?

It sounds like you already have some concerns and it's important to listen to those instincts. I didn't care when I interacted with the man I posted because, quite frankly, I wasn't 100% sure what I wanted so at the time it worked for me. But now it's clear that you have some reservations and that's completely valid. 

And the kicker is at the same party I was flirting with another guy hard-core, while he was sitting a couple seats down, after he did that favour for me, so how can I judge him? Like hun, your reputation ain't looking so good either (mine)

Flirting in real life VS watching girls and following random girls online.

We're all single but it's about first impressions too, right?

Edited January 12, 2024 by SlimShadysWife

[Alpacalia]

33 minutes ago, SlimShadysWife said:

And the kicker is at the same party I was flirting with another guy hard-core, while he was sitting a couple seats down, after he did that favour for me, so how can I judge him? Like hun, your reputation ain't looking so good either (mine)

Flirting in real life VS watching girls and following random girls online.

We're all single but it's about first impressions too, right?

I don't go by first impressions. People can surprise us. But, in this situation, the red flags you noticed on his social media and the way he was watching you could be indicative of some concerning behavior. But it doesn't sound like that's what you're most interested in at the moment, as you mentioned you were flirting with someone else.

[Lisa]

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