rd1978 Posted November 10, 2005 Share Posted November 10, 2005 ok ill try to make this as short as possible,, have a friend almost best friend for 14 or so years ,, we tell each other everything etc... we were bolth in long term relationship's the past 5 years-- but remained close friends i think we were almost emotionally closer to each other than in our relationship's,, her friend,and her mom have always told her she should be with me ,, and have said it to bolth of us,, she always got jelious of other girls while i was single and she was in a relationship we are bolth single now and i have been taking her to the movies and out to eat and what not, just to get her out of her place...... there has always been something there between bolth of us ,,, to make a long story short i have grown to have feelings for this girl ,, and from what her close friend told me she was just going to see what happens,, now 2 weeks ago she came to realize after talking to someone about our situation,,,,and that person was going thru the exact same thing as us and ended up marring her best friend and couldnt be happier ,, told her not to mess this up etc.etc. so she realized that she had more feelings for me than she thaught,, we have kissed a couple of times {she made the move the first 2}and cuddled and what not ,i havent moved it past that ,, i have alot to lose here and its not all about getting ass to me,,not with her anyway i have not talked to her about how i feel and she hasnt talked to me about how she feels,but she honestly does not know how i sinscerly feel,, the only reason i have a clue is from her friend ,, who doesnt tell her anything about me but here is the problem there is another guy in the mix she doesnt tell me much about,, her "friend" which def ask's her to hang out and what not ,they have met quite recently past 2-3 months now she had told her girlfriend she wouldnt hang out with him anymore because of us i mean she is asking me what side of the bed i liek to sleep on and asking me to move in with her in the near future ,, asked me not to talk to this one girl i had an fwb relationship with.... got jelious of other girls etc.etc. i could go on and on ,,it seems she is into me but i dont like being shared,, and obviously i know she is the only one who can tell me,,, any suggestion's on how to aproach her ,, funny though we have been friends forever but now there are feelings involved and it tends to make everything different....sorry if i didnt make much sense or it is jumbled,, im at work and have to rush doing this ,,, thanks everyone Link to post Share on other sites
UNKNOWN22 Posted November 12, 2005 Share Posted November 12, 2005 first of all, WOMEN DON'T HAVE SEX WITH THEIR FRIENDS. male friends are there for igo boost. Someone who she can talk to when she is having problems with her jerk b/f. From what you said, she doesn't seem to know what she wants. Does she want a realtionship with a guy who is her best friend (you) and will do anything for her (incuding kiss her ass, and give her anything she wants in marrage - hause with 2.5 kids and 2 cars....). Or does she want to keep dating to find a RALL MAN. One of the reasons gurls always endup with total idiots (jerks) is because they exibit Manly qualitys (which you seam to lack). Those guys have control over their life, confidence, they take charge of the relationship, they are sexual towards her, they don't take cr*p from her when she is emotionally over reacting, they don't get involved in the emotional bull crap and alway tease her and have funn with her. THEY ARE REALL MEN................i could write a book on the subject but i hope you get the hint. You have to take charge and decide what you want. If it's her, tell her: "I don't know what is going on whit the other guy, but i'm not gona put my life on hold for you, eather let go of the train or jump on it." This will create a feeling of: "i'm gona miss on a great opportunity here, it's now or never". Second thing you need to know is haw to create attraction (suspence, sexual frustration.....). YOU NEED TO DO THIS. No metter haw much women say they don't like it, sex and sexual attraction is a HUGE part of any realtionship. What you have now is friendship and comfort. What you want is for her to want to wrap her arms around you and never let go. Tuch her back, tuch her hair, waist, hold her neck in your hand and kiss her slowly and pull away if she gets into it (to crate anticipation) Your very lucky, 99.9% of the time if you in the "friends zone" with a chick, your done, and you'll never have a bf/gf relationship with her.... GROW SOME BALLS AND BE A MAN Link to post Share on other sites
Author rd1978 Posted November 13, 2005 Author Share Posted November 13, 2005 i totally understand what your saying ,, and second off i do have "manly" qualities,,,if this girl wasnt my best friend and ,, she didnt suffer a lose off a brother ,, a marriage that didnt happen in the past 3 months,, and a divorce about to happen with her parents i would def push up on her alot more,, i dont give into eveything she wants and never would i tell her how it is,, thats what friends are for i do not kiss her ass,,but you are right as she is to comfortable and doesnt realize if it doesnt happen now it wont ever happen,, way to comfortable,, but in the past couple of days she has been getting a reality check Link to post Share on other sites
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