How do you know when someone loves you?

[Veryconfused004]

This answer is going to be different for everyone but I figured it would be an interesting topic that I’m curious about. How do you know when someone really loves you? (Specific examples if you have any)

[Wiseman2]

14 minutes ago, Veryconfused004 said:

How do you know when someone loves you?

 Unfortunately you seem to have a lot of doubts about your relationship with this woman. Is this about the same woman?

 

[Veryconfused004]

8 minutes ago, Wiseman2 said:

 Unfortunately you seem to have a lot of doubts about your relationship with this woman. Is this about the same woman?

 

I am with the same woman but everything is good! No doubts or anything. This has nothing to do with my relationship, it’s just a genuine curiosity of mine to see how it’s different for everyone.

[Alpacalia]

When a man loves a woman.

Can't keep his mind on nothing else.

He'd change the world for the good thing he's found.

If she is bad, he can't see it.

She can do no wrong.

Turn his back on his best friend If he puts her down.

Sorry, couldn't help post that. 😁

1. When my father had his stroke, my ex-partner took time off from work to fly and be by my side during his recovery. He knew how important my family is to me and wanted to support me during a difficult time. 2. On my birthday, I mentioned how much I loved a certain book but couldn't find it anywhere. The next day, he surprised me with a copy of the book, saying he drove to multiple bookstores to find it because he knew how much it meant to me.

It's shown through consistent actions of compassion, support, and sacrifice. It's not always grand gestures, but the little things that add up and show someone's unwavering love and care for you.

Edited January 16, 2024 by Alpacalia

[smackie9]

How do I know?...because he tells me everyday that he does.

[Gaeta]

A good barometer would be that they make you feel loved. Exemple my bf is always concerned with my well being and my kids,  he offers to do things for me to ease my day, he sees what l'll need/like ahead of time, he's affectionate, respectful and considerate.

[Foxhall]

I suppose the best way to answer the question , if one can, is through personal experience,

If I feel comfortable enough to say completely whats on my mind to the person- then  I can perhaps say well that I love them (which is not the question you are asking) love can take many forms one could say also- I assume your question is one of romantic love,

Ive had probably three woman in my life who  I  have loved- Have they loved me back

No 1- the most genuine probably is the one who spent months painting a picture of someone close to me, this lady will also smile and reassure me if Im feeling stressed- How do you know I am anxious? well she does- so I view that as a sign of love,

No 2 - well she came back and left very quickly again- As came up on another thread- this act of clearing the way almost not standing in the way of things working out- I could perhaps view this act in the same way- that it could be an act of love although painful. this one also remembered my favourite tea which is only available where she is from and she brought it with her without me asking-(the little things as alluded by my favourite poster above)

this one still has my heart the most of all (No2)

Number 3- this is probably the unrequited love- I initially loved her but when that wasnt reciprocated- I tried  to see her as my sister.  we met in a slightly naughty way -massage client and therapist,

we have evolved from initially a physical relationship to now where we meet for regular chats- 

I think we both love the more lighthearted nature of our relationship.

[ciara_love]

They are empathetic to your feelings. The are consistent in their actions. They want to make your life better. They respect you. They appreciate you for who you really are. They accept you and do not try to change you. They are willing to make effort. They realize that you are not perfect and do not expect you to be perfect. They see you as an independent human being and not an extension of themselves. They are proud of you and want to introduce you to their family. They are in the relationship for the ups and downs. They show you that they love you. 

[FastHeart]

U can't know. I don't know your situation, but a women won't always show that she likes you. I'm one of them very careful ones. I freak so out about my feelings that I step back.

[NuevoYorko]

On 2/1/2024 at 4:17 AM, FastHeart said:

U can't know. I don't know your situation, but a women won't always show that she likes you. 

This is not about demonstrating interest.  Love is far beyond that.  As @Alpacaliawrote, "It's shown through consistent actions of compassion, support and sacrifice."

Real love is beyond a "feeling," it encompasses actions.

[Els]

On 1/16/2024 at 12:45 PM, Alpacalia said:

 

It's shown through consistent actions of compassion, support, and sacrifice. It's not always grand gestures, but the little things that add up and show someone's unwavering love and care for you.

This. It's the consistency, IMO. Anyone can go all out and throw amorous declarations and grand gestures of "love" around for a few weeks or months. It's only when they've been at your side through ups and downs, over the years, doing little things to support you the whole time, caring about your well being and happiness - that's what genuine love is.

 

Edited February 2, 2024 by Els