RandallHare Posted January 16 Share Posted January 16 I couldn't wait to post it, I'm so excited but I don't really understand! I was just told a while ago that I will be the best man. Oh great! This will be my first time so I'm both excited and nervous as well! What are the things I need to consider and what are the things I need to avoid? This is my first so I'm nervous! O_O Link to post Share on other sites
basil67 Posted January 16 Share Posted January 16 Awesome! You will need to consider writing a good speech. Avoid getting drunk at the wedding and keep the groom out of trouble on his bucks night Most importantly, enjoy yourself! 1 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author RandallHare Posted January 16 Author Share Posted January 16 My brother and I are not really the best of friends. People around us have compared the two of us in so many ways. But I'm extremely happy that this is happening, and I couldn't be more honored than to be his best man on his most awaited, most beautiful day of his life. I want him to have a bright future, a happy family, loving kids, and of course, a happy and wonderful sex life (with his wife of course)! I'm just practicing! 😅 1 Link to post Share on other sites
basil67 Posted January 16 Share Posted January 16 Best to leave the sex life comment out of your speech 1 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author RandallHare Posted January 16 Author Share Posted January 16 I need a little joke to spice things up a bit 😅 Link to post Share on other sites
Els Posted January 16 Share Posted January 16 1 minute ago, basil67 said: Best to leave the sex life comment out of your speech I'd leave out the bit about kids, too. Not every married couple wants kids, and it's so annoying when people just assume that you do! Most groomsmen tend to just tell a couple of funny anecdotes about their shenanigans with the groom (and you definitely want to run this through a trusted friend, preferably a female friend - it needs to be funny, not offensive/embarrassing), and then conclude with how happy they are for their friend/brother, what a great/beautiful person his wife is, and wishing them happiness. Don't overthink it and it'll be fine, OP. Get a nice suit for the occasion, too. 1 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Alpacalia Posted January 16 Share Posted January 16 That's great. Being chosen as the best man is a huge honor and responsibility. I've been a maid of honor a few times, and the speech and toast are quite important. What I did was congratulate the bride and thanked her for choosing me as the maid of honor. I talked a little bit about my relationship with the bride and special moments we've shared together. I also mentioned the groom and congratulated him on finding his true love. Be sure to include a message of love and support for the couple as they embark on this new chapter in their lives. Try to keep the speech relatively short. People get antsy and tired during long speeches, so try to keep it around 3-5 minutes. As for things to avoid, try not to focus too much on past relationships or exes or inside jokes. This is a time to celebrate the love between the bride and groom, so it's best to keep the focus on them. I'm really happy to hear that you're excited about being the best man, and try not to let your nerves get the best of you. The bride and groom chose you as their best man for a reason. I'm sure you'll do a great job. Good luck! 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author RandallHare Posted July 20 Author Share Posted July 20 We had a blast at the wedding! It was one of the best, perhaps the best even! Lotsa partying and dancing! It was great that non-alcoholics were served. I gave a speech and I'm glad it was well-received. A little joke here and there. It was totally impromptu as I do better unprepared. I like surprising myself as it feels more natural and genuine. No comments, remarks from other people other than I forgot to say something about my brother... but my sister filled it in and the bride spoke about why she chose my brother. My mum had the most contribution to the event. It was great and fun! 1 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author RandallHare Posted July 20 Author Share Posted July 20 (edited) 25 minutes ago, RandallHare said: We had a blast at the wedding! It was one of the best, perhaps the best even! Lotsa partying and dancing! It was great that non-alcoholics were served. I gave a speech and I'm glad it was well-received. A little joke here and there. It was totally impromptu as I do better unprepared. I like surprising myself as it feels more natural and genuine. No comments, remarks from other people other than I forgot to say something about my brother... but my sister filled it in and the bride spoke about why she chose my brother. My mum had the most contribution to the event. It was great and fun! Thank you so much for all the pieces of advice (which were really helpful 🤌🏻) given to me! I’m glad there was no awkward moment but everybody listened because people remember a few things from my ice-breaker speech 👌 Edited July 20 by RandallHare 1 Link to post Share on other sites
basil67 Posted July 21 Share Posted July 21 I'm so glad you had a great night. Sounds like you were the bestest best man! 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author RandallHare Posted August 12 Author Share Posted August 12 Thanks! Thank you, everyone! I was just relieved everything went well. Thank goodness! Link to post Share on other sites
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