15 year old in love with college guy

[Meredith33333]

I'm 15 years old almost 16. Last year was my freshman year in high school. I joined our school's extra curricular concert singing group made up of 10 people. I met the most amazing guy, Rich, he was a senior. I was attracted to everything about him. His looks, his personality, his musical talent. He always managed to put a smile on my face no matter how down I was. Over the months, I began to fall for him. I mean, I fell head over heals in love. Rich had been dating another senior, Jennifer, for five years. Rich and I began to get close and we began to hang out outside of school. Rich didn't tell Jennifer. She is known to be very very overprotective of him. She would flip if she knew. Anyways, she did find out. She considered me a very big threat to her relationship. She feared that Rich was falling in love with me. So, she really cracked down on him. She would give me dirty looks in the hallways. We still hung out despite her. Over the summer, we spent alot of time together. Then, I went off to Europe for a month. He went off to college in North Carolina. She went with him. I learned later while I was in Paris that he had broken up with her supposedly over a girl back home. One could only guess that the girl was me.

 

Anyways, now that he is single, and lives four hours away, I want to pursue a long distance relationship with him. What do you think about the age different? I am very mature for my age and I look like I'm 20. I was confused for a senior last year. Can anyone give me any advice? I'm not sure if he likes me or not. He gives me a lot of mixed singles.

 

Please?

 

Thanks,

 

Meredith

[SincereOnlineGuy]

This is tricky, for from the eyes of the younger female in such relationships there is nothing but flattery and sincere joy to be taken from gaining the attention of a (significantly) older suitor.

 

However, I believe that unbiased observers can often cite cause for pause in the reasons why an older guy is looking so young for female partners.

 

How could anyone hope to convince you that you could do better than to put all of your feelings toward this one direction, when it all feels so great for the younger female?

 

If I could somehow measure the college guy of whom you speak, I would monitor the reasons why he might be inspired to date someone significantly younger and out-of-reach for the time being.

 

Even though I have these vibes, I cannot in any way suggest that you are wrong for wondering and hoping...

 

 

Good luck.

[Lil Honey]

Take into consideration that he is in a situation where there are parties with drinking and other women his own age - no parents - and you are four hours away.

[Fetish 2]

I don't think you should commit yourself to this...as mentioned, he is 4 hours away at a time when he just got out of a 5 year relationship and at 20, he is at an age where he will want to party.

 

You're still young, don't tie yourself or commit yourself to a long-distance relationship. It is quite flattering having an older guy interested in you at that age, but you will get to know and meet many other guys to date in situations more suitable for you.

 

Goodluck!

[guest875128349]

If you really love this guy....wait.

 

Just think about it - you're 15. If you start having sex with him, you could put him in jail. Some jealous ex-girlfriend (or even just a jealous girl), a teacher, your parents, or anyone else reports him and he faces mandatory prison time.

 

Be pen pals

[RainyDayWoman]

just because you think you look 20 doesn't mean a thing.

 

enjoy your youth. i don't think any 15 year old should be in a long distance relationship. you can't learn how to be in a relationship when you're separated by 4 hours.

[roxyg]

Your story reminds me of my sister at your age. She met a senior her freshmen year, and they began dating in the summer. She was so involved in this relationship, her feelings ran very deep for this young man. A lot of us, told her not to get too involved as he was in the Air Force, and traveled quite frequently. They would see one another as often as possible, many times she would travel to visit him. In the end it came down to her really pursuing this relationship, while he was out having the time of his life. She didn't find out about all the cheatings until it was all over. She spent two years with him, and it has taken her four years to fully get over this relationship. The emotional scars and pain, are forever for her. Trust, does not come easy for her, especially in relationships.

Be careful to really analyze the situation you would be putting yourself in. It's great that this guy makes you feel this way, but make sure his feelings are sincere for you as well. As another poster said, he too, could get in trouble for you being underage. Good luck with whatever it is you decide.

[Panhandler]

I have 15 year old girls ask me out and I easily pass for 21 or even 16 I guess if I wanted. But to me it's a no go situation, the relationship will be full of problems and dissatisfaction, and the girl won't be happy, any intimacy will lead to stress, and there's always some nosey person to get inbetween us. People seemed to accept me going out with 15 year olds when I was like 20 though cause I honestly passed for 15 easy and could chill with their friends.

 

But you are not going to be socially welcome and your relationship is going to be a complication and a big secret and more trouble than it's worth. 4 hours is a lot of time too, to waste for something that should be fun and social rather than longing constantly and then some intimacy here and there. If you were just friends for a long time, then you should just remember the good friendly times you had and look for people closer to where you are to satisfy your desires.

 

I mean the girls that ask me out are hot, the hottest 15 year olds, the bad asses that want an older guy to score with. I feel bad for them cause they flirt with these really ugly ghetto guys, and there's not many nice boys their age. But all I can do is be friends with them, and the thought of intimate relationship or going steady just seems impractical to every extent.

 

I don't even think they should be worrying about that stuff yet, and I encourage them to be prudish and work on their careers to find some better guys to hook up with when the time is right. But they probably aren't virgins now, and many young teen girls have sex with college guys and brag about it. So I dunno, I feel like sometimes being friends with them I am setting them up for some other college dork to take advantage of their nieveness and loneliness.

 

But it's out of my hands anyhow, one way or another they are going to fall off the path of righteousness. They don't even really respect me they just wanna use me.