Firecracker28 Posted January 21, 2024 Share Posted January 21, 2024 I met this girl on Tinder and we hit it off. After a week or so I ask her out on a date before the semester ends to a coffee shop, but she says she still wants to get to know me better. Then over winter break, we called and talked for an hour once a week. When I got back to college I asked her if she was available that coming weekend and she said "Maybe, I have to check", but she never got back to me. Then next week she texted me apologizing for not responding and asked if I was available on Saturday to hang out. I said sure what time, but never got anything back, and now it's Sunday. Do I try again or is it time to give up? Link to post Share on other sites
basil67 Posted January 21, 2024 Share Posted January 21, 2024 Even if she is interested, she's too flaky to bother with. NEXT! 3 Link to post Share on other sites
Wiseman2 Posted January 21, 2024 Share Posted January 21, 2024 7 minutes ago, Firecracker28 said: she said "Maybe, I have to check", but she never got back to me. Sorry this is happening. So you never ever got to meet? Please keep in mind some free hookup apps are full of scammers catfish and timewasters. Some people just don't like like to say no directly. Please move on and delete and block her. There's no reason to keep being turned down and stood up. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
ayaj Posted January 21, 2024 Share Posted January 21, 2024 16 minutes ago, Firecracker28 said: I met this girl on Tinder and we hit it off. After a week or so I ask her out on a date before the semester ends to a coffee shop, but she says she still wants to get to know me better. Then over winter break, we called and talked for an hour once a week. When I got back to college I asked her if she was available that coming weekend and she said "Maybe, I have to check", but she never got back to me. Then next week she texted me apologizing for not responding and asked if I was available on Saturday to hang out. I said sure what time, but never got anything back, and now it's Sunday. Do I try again or is it time to give up? If she is into you then it sounds to me over the time you have been getting to know her she has met someone else that she is more interested in and is prioritizing. Link to post Share on other sites
Alpacalia Posted January 21, 2024 Share Posted January 21, 2024 It sounds like this girl may not be very interested in going on a date with you. Now, I like to talk a bit before going on a date with someone, but it seems like she is not making it a priority to follow through with making plans and getting to know you better. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Rider on the Storm Posted January 21, 2024 Share Posted January 21, 2024 1 hour ago, Firecracker28 said: I met this girl on Tinder and we hit it off. After a week or so I ask her out on a date before the semester ends to a coffee shop, but she says she still wants to get to know me better. Then over winter break, we called and talked for an hour once a week. When I got back to college I asked her if she was available that coming weekend and she said "Maybe, I have to check", but she never got back to me. Then next week she texted me apologizing for not responding and asked if I was available on Saturday to hang out. I said sure what time, but never got anything back, and now it's Sunday. Do I try again or is it time to give up? OP, how many times have you been really interested in pursuing a relationship with a woman, but failed to properly follow up one more than one occasion? Link to post Share on other sites
Author Firecracker28 Posted January 21, 2024 Author Share Posted January 21, 2024 3 minutes ago, Rider on the Storm said: OP, how many times have you been really interested in pursuing a relationship with a woman, but failed to properly follow up one more than one occasion? This is the first time Link to post Share on other sites
ciara_love Posted January 22, 2024 Share Posted January 22, 2024 Unless she has something big going on in her life, like a sick relative, financial issues, or working a lot of overtime, I would deduce that she isn't too interested right now. Sorry, I know it sucks to hear this. It could be for any reason, not at all because of you. Best of luck. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Firecracker28 Posted January 22, 2024 Author Share Posted January 22, 2024 Thanks so much for all your answers and advice Link to post Share on other sites
ExpatInItaly Posted January 22, 2024 Share Posted January 22, 2024 Don't waste any more time on her. If she were interested, she wouldn't have left you hanging twice. Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted January 22, 2024 Share Posted January 22, 2024 I'd give up. If you see her around campus or at a party chat her up but understand she's flakey & unreliable so don't exert yourself. Link to post Share on other sites
smackie9 Posted January 22, 2024 Share Posted January 22, 2024 Give up....always have your dance card full at all times. Link to post Share on other sites
FredEire Posted January 22, 2024 Share Posted January 22, 2024 On 1/21/2024 at 8:38 PM, Firecracker28 said: I met this girl on Tinder and we hit it off. After a week or so I ask her out on a date before the semester ends to a coffee shop, but she says she still wants to get to know me better. Then over winter break, we called and talked for an hour once a week. When I got back to college I asked her if she was available that coming weekend and she said "Maybe, I have to check", but she never got back to me. Then next week she texted me apologizing for not responding and asked if I was available on Saturday to hang out. I said sure what time, but never got anything back, and now it's Sunday. Do I try again or is it time to give up? Give up, it's Tinder, don't take it personally. Loads of people just on it for attention/a time pass. Move on and find someone actually down to meet up. Link to post Share on other sites
ShyViolet Posted January 23, 2024 Share Posted January 23, 2024 Why would you even consider chasing after someone who already blew you off more than once? It's clear what to do. Stop trying with this girl. She's not interested. Link to post Share on other sites
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