Should I keep being myself or try to be funny?

[ddh33]

Well I still haven't lost my hope in dating American girls because they're whom I like. I'll probably go back after college if I decide to work in Asia. So getting on with one girl here won't make me regret.

 

I'm not a funny person at all, even in my own country. With the language and cultural barriers it's more difficult. I'm not bragging, but qualities that my friends (both sexes) like about me are nice, easygoing, caring, humble, helpful...uh moral. That's really what I am. I act casually around Asian girls sometimes but that's not really me.

 

My question is, are there any girls in college that are looking for someone like this...? And my non-fluent English/cultural differences. Almost 80% of American girls will do for me because I always find white women attractive. NO HOT CHICKS NEEDED.

 

Or should I try to change myself to a funny person because there simply aren't girls like that?

[glittergurl]

Uhmmm, no, don't try to be funny if that's not who you are. It probably won't make anybody laugh; or the best you could get is a polite smile.

 

One of my Chinese friends is going through the same as you; he tries to impress American girls, and forces "jokes" into the conversation ... and oh my God, it is soooo lame

 

I mean, there are tons of differences in humor between every culture, and I get the feeling that Asians aren't exactly the funniest in the world, or at least not the best compatible with occidental humor.

 

What I'm saying is; don't force it. Just be yourself, be nice, friendly, mannered, romantic, and yes, some girls fall for that without the crazy humor side.

[ddh33]

Actually I'm Chinese, too.

 

I definitely agree that we Asians, especially those growing up in Asia, don't really get occidental jokes, or do but don't think they're good. Asian jokes or flirting lines are fairly different.

[slubberdegullion]

Cocky and funny are the hallmarks of a player, and a woman of quality will see right through it as a means to an end; to get into their pants.

 

Be yourself.

[Reckless]

trying to be funny are like trying to be beautiful... it only works if it's natural. Take me for example, I am both funny and beautiful this is of course a winning combination but I am a rare diamond.

 

 

Humor is great but what you're probably taking as humor is just so much swaggering, noisy, superfial blah-blah - girls see right through that stuff ... be yourself, it's the first rule of dating.

[monkey00]

Be yourself, and at the same time be confident. With confidence, everything comes naturally...including humor. no point in "trying" as you'll just come off as a fake.

 

There's nothing worse than a guy who lacks confidence around women and in life....and this is worldwide.

 

good luck

[ddh33]

Thanks for the advice and encouragements. I'll be waiting for my next date to turn up rather than seeking and trying. Kind of tired plus I have some medical problem to deal with.

 

A friend of mine in high school once said, "Be with one who loves you, not one you love." These nights I've been figuring, realizing that's so true. I guess I'm tired and just need someone to care about and love me. In this state I wouldn't force hard to approach any girl.

[Matter Domina]

I say forget about american girls, you might feel some overwhelming attraction because your not use to dating them but its not all its crack up to be, alot of american men feel this way and are trying to get with asian and other non american girls so be your self and get with a serious asian woman just like you. Then you can pass your language, culture and love for your country down to your future beautiful asian babies.

[monkey00]

I say forget about american girls, you might feel some overwhelming attraction because your not use to dating them but its not all its crack up to be, alot of american men feel this way and are trying to get with asian and other non american girls so be your self and get with a serious asian woman just like you. Then you can pass your language, culture and love for your country down to your future beautiful asian babies.

 

Well the problem is, initially people are not receptive to the idea of interracial dating.

 

But if you're able to present yourself in an unpredictable manner, that shows them you're not like the typical stereotyped asian male then you'll get the ball rolling.

 

And as i said generally most people initially dont consider interracial dating, unless you can do something to change their outlook. So asian girls are probably going to more receptive to you than the caucasian woman.

 

Sitting around wont get you a girl, you have to make moves, ya know?

[ddh33]

I know...

Still contemplating about my next move:rolleyes:

[Mary3]

I would take your most positive features and make them stand out .

 

By features I mean strong points about yourself.

 

You can have a house and its painted a bland color with dirt for a front yard but if you give it a new coat of paint and plant some flowers more people will turn and look at that house and see its potential.

 

Find your potential. Do you have a particular talent ? Write a list down about any unique or amazing things about yourself and show them to others.

 

If being asian means feeling like you don't stand out in any particular way then show off your *house* and find lots of buyers who would be interested.

 

Forcing yourself to be funny is not pretty. I knew an asian man relatively good looking but he laughed tooo hard and tried to talk california lingo to the hilt and it just didnt mesh.

 

Girls will sniff out if you are not being real.

 

Be real. Show them how cool you really are.

 

Because you are cool !

 

Go have fun

[Teimour Radjabov]

Don't try to be funny.

 

Try to be PLAYFUL.

[ddh33]

What do you mean?