basil67 Posted January 29 Share Posted January 29 (edited) 2 hours ago, philthebill said: I believe it is equally imperative for her to navigate her responses to differing opinions You are not her teacher, mentor or parent...and logic tells me that she hasn't asked you to help her change her views or responses. As such your actions are borderline abusive......pushing her to debate (fight) over things where she's perfectly comfortable with her own beliefs, and having her end up in distress. All of this is 100% on you If you cannot accept her for who she is, leave the poor woman alone and go find someone who agrees with you Edited January 29 by a LoveShack.org Moderator 3 Link to post Share on other sites
IrinaM Posted January 29 Share Posted January 29 1 hour ago, Wiseman2 said: Exactly. You're doubling down on your point of view and how wrong she is which is why you two are chronically arguing and broken up. It great to think whatever you want to think but please allow others to breathe without forcing them to see your view. this ^^ It seems like you think your girlfriend needs to be educated and so you lecture her. It comes off like you think you are smarter than she is. In some of your posts you insist that she is the extremist ("passionate") and you have a nuanced approach to everything. But then your specific example (cab/phone/"colored") does not portray you in such a positive light. Surely you knew a comment like that is offensive and unintelligent. But when she gets annoyed with you want to explain to her that she's being irrational. No wonder these conversations "escalate." 1 Link to post Share on other sites
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