ExpatInItaly Posted February 8 Share Posted February 8 4 hours ago, Bananananana said: - we are both in our 20s - we don’t have an official date to meet yet Do you two even have the means to see this go the distance, given your relatively young ages and how far apart you are? Have you both got the finances and time needed to turn this into something more? It doesn't sound like very viable prospect. Link to post Share on other sites
Claustrophobic Posted March 11 Share Posted March 11 So I’m ready to get killed here but truth is I need help, so here goes: I’ve been with my boyfriend for 5 years and we have a dead bedroom. Almost a year ago I met someone while online gaming, we had lots of fun gaming as friends, and as time passed we started getting flirty. I was not taking this seriously at all even though I did have a small crush on that online guy, thought it couldn’t get anywhere irl, thought he was just bored and entertaining himself sending me cute msgs. As months passed we talked more and more and have been texting every day sharing all kinds of things about our lives. (Except the fact that I’m not single) Then recently I crossed the line cause I was so damn horny and I had I guess what I could call virtual sex with him? cringe ok I know, but wow it’s the first time in my life I felt so connected with someone sexually. Anyway after that I realized I had real feelings for him but still thought this is going nowhere, well turns out he also has strong feelings for me and he wants us to talk more often and possibly plan to meet. Now I feel extra guilty cause I cheated virtually on my boyfriend and I am lying to this guy who thinks I’m single. I don’t think anyone will want to help me but I’m still asking: is there any way I can tell this guy I lied and I have a boyfriend, without losing him? Cause the truth is I would leave my boyfriend for him. I’m really in love with him and I really want to see where that could go. I have never felt so good with someone. Link to post Share on other sites
Wiseman2 Posted March 11 Share Posted March 11 How old is your BF? Why do you live together? Do you have children together or are you financially dependent? How long has there been "dead bedroom", and where is your BF getting his sexual gratification? Just move out. This way you don't lie to anyone about anything. Clearly Mr cybersex is fictional and could be a catfishing, scamming, a female, a 13 y/o in mom's basement on parole in a mental facility or just a huge hairy smelly ape. So your sexuality is obviously misplaced, as is your BFs. Set both yourselves free. Move out and start dating real life local available men instead of using the BF as a security blanket and having cybersex with who knows what. Link to post Share on other sites
Claustrophobic Posted March 11 Share Posted March 11 5 minutes ago, Wiseman2 said: How old is your BF? Why do you live together? Do you have children together or are you financially dependent? How long has there been "dead bedroom", and where is your BF getting his sexual gratification? Just move out. This way you don't lie to anyone about anything. Clearly Mr cybersex is fictional and could be a catfishing, scamming, a female, a 13 y/o in mom's basement on parole in a mental facility or just a huge hairy smelly ape. So your sexuality is obviously misplaced, as is your BFs. Set both yourselves free. Move out and start dating real life local available men instead of using the BF as a security blanket and having cybersex with who knows what. He is 28, we live together because we get along well just no sex or barely, no kids and I have a job. I think he watches lots of porn. other guy seems rly genuine I know it seems naive but we rly shared a lot of personal details about our life so I feel like I know him. It would be easy to meet him and he’s trying to set a date but I can’t go if I don’t tell him the truth first. Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted March 11 Share Posted March 11 Break up with your BF. Then date the other guy. I wouldn't mention the fact that you weren't technically available when you started up with the on line guy. Link to post Share on other sites
ExpatInItaly Posted March 11 Share Posted March 11 10 hours ago, Claustrophobic said: other guy seems rly genuine I know it seems naive but we rly shared a lot of personal details about our life so I feel like I know him But you don't. Not in the ways that matter most, which can only really be established by spending time together in person. You two might indeed have a viable connection that transitions well offline, but until you meet, please do not go putting all your eggs in that basket. Whatever you do, it is clear that you need to break up with your boyfriend. Your relationship is obviously not working and you are unhappy. It's time to set yourself free. Do so before you meet this other guy. Link to post Share on other sites
princessaurora Posted March 11 Share Posted March 11 Have you ever seen what this other guy you game with looks like? Is he on video? If not, you don't know who you could be meeting. Even without that factor, though, you shouldn't stay with a man who doesn't want to have sex. You're way too young for those kind of problems and without a marriage or kids tying you down, there really isn't any good reason you shouldn't leave or officially agree to be roommates because that's what you pretty much are anyway. Link to post Share on other sites
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