bigorange Posted February 26 Share Posted February 26 She seems real. And she even called me today without me saying anything. We both seem interested in each other. She did use "God fearing" in her profile which sometimes Nigerian scammers use. And at times there is a long pause or won't answer a few questions. She gave me a intersection which a Starbucks didn't even exist at in a city near her. She doesnt talk Nigerian. But sometimes her typing is off. But she mentioned she was once raped by a family member. She also has a picture of her sitting down with a local fleece blanket or other material with the name of a local county sheriff office above her head in her picture laying on her sofa. The she had text me the other day. She sounds like a teenager but admits to being 44. She claims to be a teacher's aid for disabled kids. And wants to me after work at 4pm today. She is like 1 hour away from me. I did suggest meeting at the city closer to me, that has a nice library im familiar with. She said she a off message about money and that she has to pick up her kids from their school. We both seem to be perfect for each other. And she is a year younger than me. I'm just hoping she isn't a scam or something else. She also has a phone number that I checked online that seems legitimate. Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted February 26 Share Posted February 26 Go meet her. Have zero expectations. See what happens. Do not give her any money. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Wiseman2 Posted February 26 Share Posted February 26 How long have you been talking? Yes it seems like a scammer from your description. Please delete and block her. The last thing you need is to be lured someplace and robbed. Please screen better and date local women who will meet you in a timely manner. 1 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author bigorange Posted February 26 Author Share Posted February 26 It's only been yesterday I met her on the Christian dating site. They have a TN phone number and said they kept it from when they moved to Illinois. They already are making an excuse to not meet up. Like she/ they said they have to stay after school to talk to DCFS for a student. They said maybe we could meet tomorrow. It is already sounding like a catfish. I doubt they ever meet anyone. They may live in TN or elsewhere. Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted February 26 Share Posted February 26 If you were unsure to begin with and now the person is squirming out of the meet, forget it. Link to post Share on other sites
Gaeta Posted February 26 Share Posted February 26 Ask for a video call. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
GypsyArcher Posted February 27 Share Posted February 27 You just started talking yesterday and she is already disclosing extremely personal details like having been raped by a family member? That would really weird me out. If I were doing online dating though, I'd want to e-mail/text a person for at least a few weeks before even considering meeting up. Just like in real life. I need to be friends with a person first and feel them out before agreeing to go any further. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
ExpatInItaly Posted February 27 Share Posted February 27 11 hours ago, bigorange said: We both seem to be perfect for each other You don't know this person at all, so you have no idea if she is perfect for you. She sounds quite troubled if she's already telling you about childhood sexual abuse. And now that she's backed out of meeting you, please reconsider this altogether. It isn't a good idea to pursue this person. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
smackie9 Posted February 27 Share Posted February 27 It's someone catfishing you. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Wiseman2 Posted February 27 Share Posted February 27 Please research "romance scams". There is some excellent information about red flags and what to avoid. It's not just about Nigerian accents. Please look at the overall picture as far as what to watch for. Link to post Share on other sites
Goodguy05 Posted February 27 Share Posted February 27 (edited) On 2/27/2024 at 4:15 AM, bigorange said: She seems real. And she even called me today without me saying anything. We both seem interested in each other. She did use "God fearing" in her profile which sometimes Nigerian scammers use. And at times there is a long pause or won't answer a few questions. She gave me a intersection which a Starbucks didn't even exist at in a city near her. She doesnt talk Nigerian. But sometimes her typing is off. But she mentioned she was once raped by a family member. She also has a picture of her sitting down with a local fleece blanket or other material with the name of a local county sheriff office above her head in her picture laying on her sofa. The she had text me the other day. She sounds like a teenager but admits to being 44. She claims to be a teacher's aid for disabled kids. And wants to me after work at 4pm today. She is like 1 hour away from me. I did suggest meeting at the city closer to me, that has a nice library im familiar with. She said she a off message about money and that she has to pick up her kids from their school. We both seem to be perfect for each other. And she is a year younger than me. I'm just hoping she isn't a scam or something else. She also has a phone number that I checked online that seems legitimate. Do a video call but she sounds suss even with a video call...that's why I prefer meeting people in real life not these apps Edited February 27 by Goodguy05 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Alpacalia Posted February 28 Share Posted February 28 (edited) I'd be cautious. I had a man (through my sister) reach out to me said he would fly one hour to meet me. I was very hesitant because he only saw a picture of me and knew nothing about me so why would he want to fly to meet me and that he would just throw caution to the wind like that? I think you need to be more cautious, in this day and age you don't really know who you're talking to. It's very rare to meet someone from online and have that person not be an axe murdered (and I don't mean that to scare you but you never really know with 100% certainty). Unless your gut is telling you she's safe I'd say wait a while. Ask to video first and then push the date back....rushing into meeting may lead to things getting out of hand and nothings been built yet. Edited February 28 by Alpacalia 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author bigorange Posted February 28 Author Share Posted February 28 I did a free background check on Thatsthem.com of their number, only 3 men names showed up on the free search. Two lived in TN, most recent one showing was a guy from Georgia with this 423 number. It's still weird they have a local county sheriff blanket or something with that insignia sewen in the blanket. Unless someone is undercover lol. Yeah I agree it's a catfish. Probably a young lady that is ugly and bored. Or a guy that talks like a lady. I've lived down south. And when I used to call the local singles line guys there had girlie voices. Link to post Share on other sites
Author bigorange Posted February 28 Author Share Posted February 28 12 hours ago, Alpacalia said: I'd be cautious. I had a man (through my sister) reach out to me said he would fly one hour to meet me. I was very hesitant because he only saw a picture of me and knew nothing about me so why would he want to fly to meet me and that he would just throw caution to the wind like that? I think you need to be more cautious, in this day and age you don't really know who you're talking to. It's very rare to meet someone from online and have that person not be an axe murdered (and I don't mean that to scare you but you never really know with 100% certainty). Unless your gut is telling you she's safe I'd say wait a while. Ask to video first and then push the date back....rushing into meeting may lead to things getting out of hand and nothings been built yet. I agree like here where I live. I've heard of dates that went bad. Like carjackings. But my guess this is a foreigner somewhere Link to post Share on other sites
Alpacalia Posted February 28 Share Posted February 28 45 minutes ago, bigorange said: I agree like here where I live. I've heard of dates that went bad. Like carjackings. But my guess this is a foreigner somewhere Yes, albeit, that is most likely not the norm and it is good that you are being cautious. Meeting in a public place is always a good idea, no matter the situation. And if you have any doubts or feel uncomfortable at any point, trust your gut and end the interaction. It's always better to be safe than sorry. Link to post Share on other sites
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