Mall Girls

[Panhandler]

So in a busy mall, how easy is it to start up a conversation with a nice girl that seems to be heading your way with interest and a cold akward position. Like I mean there's not many girls my age around here, and being a successful smart, atheletic mature, and kind Christian guy. I find it hard to think that these girls wouldn't be interested me in looking or talking to me.

 

But I find it hard to break the ice and even engage when they are busy with their routine and feel to akward to approach me or set me up for conversation. I've been thinking of some good ways to tap them on the fly and get their attention long enuff to show interest and open the door. But when they don't feel comfortable, it doesn't seem like an ideal time. Yet the majority of times I see a good looking girl it looks like a bad time.

 

I am just trying to expand my territory as I can't get any satisfaction with these immature 18 19 year old girls I'm dating sporatically. Actually met a girl today though, and things seem to be working out for the positive, she was pretty cute and aggressive about letting me know she's interested. Cause she had a comfortable oppertunity....where others just walked past with a smile or hovered near showing vague interest.

[Panhandler]

Well I've thought of some ways, and now it all comes back to oppertunity. Always seems like there's someone in the way to make it akward and difficult. I am pretty sensative about situations and I am an idealist, who likes to act upon an ideal situation, though I know that's harder to come by.

 

I suppose I could make some oppertunity if there was enuff draw for me to do so. But it seems like when I think about hitting on girls and trying too hard to get their attention, instead of letting things flow, that they seem belittled by it, and scared, akward. But I'm at a loss here, either I expand myself to being a little more aggressive and dealing with the bad oppertunity, or I just wait for the girls to come to me and focus on my career more.

 

But I don't wanna be an old man waiting to get rich, and still not found anyone I really like. So in an effort to just sort the flock I guess, I suppose I should be more aggressive. But it seems the girls I'm attracted too, I always wonder what age they are, cause I have hit on 13 year old girls before I thought were at least 18, and felt embarassed. Or I have seen 16 year old girls that were older than me, so I always feel akward about that aspect.

 

But I have some ideas for making things a little smoother, and how to strike up some conversations with girls I like. Not saying they are gonna buy into it, because of the whole big lifestyle clash, and shallowness of people. But it should be some fun, I'm noticing a lot of girls being more aggressive towards me lately, or maybe I'm just picking up on it more.

 

Yeah it's always been there, I just haven't been looking for it I guess.

[Panhandler]

Well first off, I seen my one girlfriend today and we seem to have the best relationship out of all the girls I see infrequently, well to a certain fresh degree. I am in with her family and they all like me too, and I'm making plans to spend more time with her.

 

But on another note, I seen another good looking girl today at the mall and this one was working there. At first I seen her and I was stunned by her looks, she really looked hotter than most of the girls I was used to seeing in the mall here. So I gave her a good looking over, and she seemed sort of shy and bored.

 

I don't think she thought too much of me cause I was all dressed down and it wouldn't give a real sexy impression. So I figured, they're be other times to approach her, but then I seen her sitting down at a restauraunt in the mall. I wanted to join her as she was at an empty, table playing with her cellphone. But she didn't seem like she was expecting me to do so, even though I kept checking her out, so I took that as a cold shoulder.

 

But then she was on the phone talking to someone maybe her friend or boyfriend who knows. I wanted to give her my number, but I felt that would be a bad situation, and it would put her under pressure and she'd feel scared by the aggressive persual. So I just shrugged, did my shopping and checked her out a few more times.

 

This time I decided, eh I'm good looking, maybe not looking all gq but more nerdy with my glasses and sweats on. So I waltzed around looking at things where she was working, and she seemed and embarassed and like she wanted to avoid me, at least nervous. I know I felt nervous too, but I also know I felt attraction in the pants at least when I first seen her a few times.

 

heheh up close though, I noticed she doesn't have a sparkling model face, but more of a hot body and girl next door average complexion, though nice shaped face. She looked a little slutty, don't ask me how I assume that, cause I just felt that way. She looked sort of weird to me, like she didn't fit in somehow, cause she was so tall, but still yet attractive. I didn't like the idea that she was so tall and sort of bold looking, compared to my petite but stealthy muscular build, though i'm not shorty at 6'1" but I don't look like i'm 205lbs of muscle either especially in loose sweats anyones guess.

 

But I am gonna dress up somewhat nicer, and put on my charm to make a good strong confrontational first impression. I'm just gonna try and talk to her and show a little interest and see if she leads me on or gives me a hard time. It's not everyday I see a girl that gets me excited in the pants, and she certainly seems interesting to me. But perhaps she's too much of a mama's girl or a player, to be cool and hang with me. Cause I'm not college prep enuff for her..heheh

 

I'm interested, and I'll see where this goes, sort of have a feeling she is a little interested by nervous, and perhaps even has other guys on her mind, or will think I'm not her type. Something negative is gonna happen, I assume, just cause I know that even homely looking girls think they are hot stuff and better than everyone. She seemed a little conceited, but I think she has some vague interest. At least she will when I turn her on, and sparkle in her eye. Right now she probably thinks I'm some nerdy dorky scumbag.

 

But she'll find out real quick, I'm best thing she'll find around here.

I don't even care though cause looks like my relationship is picking up with my one current girlfriend and I'd like to make her my steady if I can see her more, I wouldn't think of other girls.

[Panhandler]

Well I have met another girl at the mall yestarday, shopping for cds. I just seen her, and she looked cute, and we looked like we would make a good couple so I checked her out. She seemed interested, but also seemed to be not flirty, and I wondered what age she was. It seemed like a little too early for her to be out of school but then leaving I noticed it was about 3:30 and she might have just got to the mall not long ago.

 

But anyhow, she seemed like she wanted me to approach her, but also seemed shy and inexperienced or in a bad mood, or feeling unhappy. So I just went over to her, and asked her if she was looking for anything in perticular, and I had made a swing past her before and made a point to caress her a bit walking by, to show interest.

 

I'm sure it made her a bit nervous, cause she might have been maybe 19 or 18 I dunno. She seemed mature by her dress, but she could have just been preppy, though she was certainly over 16. So she said, just looking all casually, and I tried to open up conversation with her. Told her about the music I was doing, and asked her if she liked that style, and she again sort of nervously said just looking.

 

So I think she was a little confused, but she seemed to like me at least part of her. Then she sort of moved down the row a bit, and I just had a bad feeling that she was either too young, too shy, or just not in a mood to be talking to me. So I just walked away with a smirk on my face, then she sort of left the store a bit embarassed.

 

But I think she honestly wanted to be friendly and probably liked me since she kept like hovering around me, and leading me on in a slight way. But she didn't seem to be open about it, cause she was either too young, or too inexperienced, probably not used to meeting guys like that.

 

But it was a fun experience, I had seen a few other girls that day in the mall and they seemed like they were stalking me, and they kept smiling at me, and being interested and more openly flirty. Of course they weren't as young looking, and unforunately they just weren't good enuff looking for me. Though I could see going out with a couple of them, I have have better and just walked away.

 

But when you are good looking it doesn't seem like it's hard to meet people. It just seems it's hard to meet people your age that are up to your standards.

But I am in no hurry, my sister is a year older than me and still has never really had a real boyfriend, and she's not bad looking. She's like me that she has very high standards, and really likes the idea of finding someone special rather than settling for anything that walks around. But she's a tease and a flirt like me, but I am a tease and flirt with better looking girls than she gets as far as guys. yucko!

[Sloppy]

Oh gee, get a life.

I always thought of guys who approached me at the mall as weird. Your posts have proven my point.

Btw how many girlfriends at the same time do you need in your life?

[Panhandler]

Maybe you just attract weird guys, and they find you at the mall. I know lots of girls that say they feel flattered when a guy approaches them at a mall or anywhere. I know there's better situations to meet people, but you are a little more limited by what's available. Where the mall, or anywhere, just seems like a really open and random market.

 

I'm hoping to meet some nice woman thru my business like my other friend has. But as far as how many girls do I need to see at one time, as many as possible. I'll be old and grey like i just noticed a friend of mine growing up is grey already in his mid thirties. Another kid I went to school with has a very wrinkled and aged looking face, and many others are getting old fast.

 

So I want to take advantage of this time, right now I am in my prime, 25 is when your male body fully matures, and up until your 30 you have the highest level of testosterone as well.

[Sloppy]

You are 25 and you go to pick up chicks at the mall?!

Also, if you think women will only love you before you have wrinkles and gray hair, I seriously wish you the best of luck. You will need it. The kind of women you are in for are not gonna make you happy.

Keep up the playa' status and you will find your self gray-haired, wrinkled, alone, and with ex-wife who has all your money.

Why don't you try other places to meet women? Decent women. Like book-stores, social gatherings, local hiking (or whatever) clubs. Are you looking for 16 year old girls who go to the mall to pick up guys?

I don't know anyone over 22 who would go to the mall more than once a week, and to pick up people.

How often do you go to the mall?!

[Panhandler]

I don't know where you're from, but we don't have any bookstores around here. I am living in a small town, and the only clubs out there are for elderly people.I definately want to find a girl that's right for me before I am old and grey, I mean I don't think being old and grey is a great time to meet beautiful women do you?

 

People are people everywhere, why does it matter where they are or what they are involved in? I mean sure it's nice to have a way to see them regularly to get past that stranger phaze, but in a small town I can see people regularly and the mall is just like any other school class or club.

I don't see what people have against malls, I suppose most just aren't as outgoing as I am about meeting people there cause it is a little more akward.

 

Just be realistic, malls and stores attract women, and it's a place to meet them outside your limited groups, which will lack variety and choice.

[933KJL]

I am old and grey and have had much succss in attracting women in my "state". I have not been to a mall that does NOT have a bookstore---

[Panhandler]

So what are you trying to say here? I should just let life pass by, not look and meet new girls since I am seeing some, that I'm not married too or even that steady, and I should hang out in a bookstore no one goes too?

 

You people are a little more than crazy!

[jayteresa]

Girls go to shopping centres to SHOP dude! Not to have 25 yr old guys stalking them! If your town is so small then surely you would already know everyone any way, in any case if its that bad then move to somewhere bigger where there is a real night life, or is it just under agers your into?!!. Not meaning to sound harsh but I am 25 and if a guy came up to me in a shopping centre I more than likely would not take him seriously, especially if he was on his own and I found him following me round shops learing. Thats just odd Surely your town has a dating agency or something ?!

[Sloppy]

 

You people are a little more than crazy!

Perhaps in your mall world we are. We are just too real for your shallow world.

So what are you looking for in a woman? Sounds like you only accept a beauiful one in your life. Coming from a mall boy I assume it means tall, perfect face, fake boobs (prefferably hanging out of her shirt), and no brains.

good luck man, you sound like a winner with sense of reality.

[Panhandler]

That's what you think, I've met a fair share of girls in malls, and have had more success shopping for girls than anywhere else. Malls, beaches, just about anywhere is good, people are people, and any normal good looking girl would not be out there desperately going thru dating services or joining gay clubs.

 

You people have no clue, and obviously that's why you are on this date tip network. I've met girls on the street, at malls, I've had girls in their cars pick me up and take me to sex stores to seduce me. I've had girls beg to have sex with me, and many more strangers want to have sex with me and move in with me. You all just aren't good looking enuff to steal women, and pick up girls anywhere I suppose.

[jayteresa]

Seriously your medals in the post ( please not the intense level of sarcasm here)

[Sloppy]

That's what you think, I've met a fair share of girls in malls, and have had more success shopping for girls than anywhere else. Malls, beaches, just about anywhere is good, people are people, and any normal good looking girl would not be out there desperately going thru dating services or joining gay clubs.

 

You people have no clue, and obviously that's why you are on this date tip network. I've met girls on the street, at malls, I've had girls in their cars pick me up and take me to sex stores to seduce me. I've had girls beg to have sex with me, and many more strangers want to have sex with me and move in with me. You all just aren't good looking enuff to steal women, and pick up girls anywhere I suppose.

HAHAHAHAHA!

And...what's this soap opera called?! You remind me of one of my exes. He, too, lived in his fantasy world.

Btw dude, you are contradicting your posts. You might wanna read what you've written before so you don't get caught lying.

 

Oh, and this site is not a 'date tip' site.

If you don't mind me asking, since you have no respect for us who seek 'dating tips' on here, what are YOU DOING HERE asking for tips?!

Just curious.

[Panhandler]

I don't lie...you might want to reread everything I've read till you understand it. I'm not really here asking for dating tips, I'm just sharing my experiences to see if anyone has been in similar situations. Judging by the replys I get to many of my threads, I am pretty unique in my lifestyle and discretion.

[AlmostMarried77]

I am pretty unique in my lifestyle and discretion.

 

Keep telling yourself that pal

[IoWnyOu]

Kid, how about you drop the ego? Do you get arroused by looking at yourself in the mirror? I think it is time for you to get out of your Mom's basement... Aren't you a little old to be hitting on 16 year olds? Last time I checked that was illegal.. but ok.. How about you get out of your little town and into the real world.. If I ever saw you over here trying to hit on a 16 year old.. I would drop you..

[sparticuss]

Oh gee, get a life.

I always thought of guys who approached me at the mall as weird. Your posts have proven my point.

Btw how many girlfriends at the same time do you need in your life?

 

Very sloppy Sloppy. If you had checked your romance data properly you would already know that the mall/supemarket is a better pick up joint for successful LONG TERM relationships than all the other pick up joints put together.

[sparticuss]

Kid, how about you drop the ego? Do you get arroused by looking at yourself in the mirror? I think it is time for you to get out of your Mom's basement... Aren't you a little old to be hitting on 16 year olds? Last time I checked that was illegal.. but ok.. How about you get out of your little town and into the real world.. If I ever saw you over here trying to hit on a 16 year old.. I would drop you..

 

You checked wrong.

 

Dating em is legal. Bedding them isn't.

[Admiral Thrawn]

Well I have met another girl at the mall yestarday, shopping for cds. I just seen her, and she looked cute, and we looked like we would make a good couple so I checked her out. She seemed interested, but also seemed to be not flirty, and I wondered what age she was. It seemed like a little too early for her to be out of school but then leaving I noticed it was about 3:30 and she might have just got to the mall not long ago.

 

But anyhow, she seemed like she wanted me to approach her, but also seemed shy and inexperienced or in a bad mood, or feeling unhappy. So I just went over to her, and asked her if she was looking for anything in perticular, and I had made a swing past her before and made a point to caress her a bit walking by, to show interest.

 

So, it is cool to hug girls, grope them, play with their hair, even though you dont know them. You think girls in general like that. That just some fringe feminist radicals, or if it is a police woman you are hitting on and doing that, it would be a potential problem?

 

 

I'm sure it made her a bit nervous, cause she might have been maybe 19 or 18 I dunno. She seemed mature by her dress, but she could have just been preppy, though she was certainly over 16. So she said, just looking all casually, and I tried to open up conversation with her. Told her about the music I was doing, and asked her if she liked that style, and she again sort of nervously said just looking.

 

So I think she was a little confused, but she seemed to like me at least part of her. Then she sort of moved down the row a bit, and I just had a bad feeling that she was either too young, too shy, or just not in a mood to be talking to me. So I just walked away with a smirk on my face, then she sort of left the store a bit embarassed.

 

But I think she honestly wanted to be friendly and probably liked me since she kept like hovering around me, and leading me on in a slight way. But she didn't seem to be open about it, cause she was either too young, or too inexperienced, probably not used to meeting guys like that.

 

But it was a fun experience, I had seen a few other girls that day in the mall and they seemed like they were stalking me, and they kept smiling at me, and being interested and more openly flirty. Of course they weren't as young looking, and unforunately they just weren't good enuff looking for me. Though I could see going out with a couple of them, I have have better and just walked away.

 

But when you are good looking it doesn't seem like it's hard to meet people. It just seems it's hard to meet people your age that are up to your standards.

But I am in no hurry, my sister is a year older than me and still has never really had a real boyfriend, and she's not bad looking. She's like me that she has very high standards, and really likes the idea of finding someone special rather than settling for anything that walks around. But she's a tease and a flirt like me, but I am a tease and flirt with better looking girls than she gets as far as guys. yucko!

 

What I admire about your thinking, is it is very positive. You believe that you are cool, and expect girls to like you, and make up excuses of why they are not responding in a favourable way, that is ususally different for what they are experiencing inside.

 

This is the right type of thinking. See the glass as half full as opposed to half empty. So, I guess girl's just act in self-contradictory manners allot in your experience?