I just coudn't say no!!!

[liquid dreams]

Well...you all know about the relationship that I just ended. Well for the past couple of days I noticed her driving past my house. I know why, "she wanted to stop and talk, but didn't know how I would react to her even being here.". Well, finally today she stopped, knocked on the door, and told me that she wanted to explain a lot of things to me and hopefully get back together with me. Well, I knew before she said anything that I wasn't going to buy anything that she was going to say. But me being the "nice guy" that I am, let her inside and speak her peace. I could go on forever talking about what she said. But I just told her that I'm not buying it, and I'm sick of the head games, and I'm sick of the lack of attention from her. Well...she started crying and I didn't buy into that either. Then, she started getting physical...I mean REAL physical. She pushed me up against the wall and started making out. Soon, one thing led to another, and we had sex. I must admit that it was really good sex, but now I'm kind of in a moral delema. I'm real funny about going back on what I say. I don't do it. But now that I had sex with her when she wanted to get back together makes me feel that maybe she is now thinking that I do want her back. I didn't say anything afterwards to her because I fell asleep. When I woke up, she was gone. If she does think that I want her back, should I just tell her that I was horny (which was the case for me), or should I give her a second chance? But part of me does want her back, but I don't know if I want everything that went along with it (the lies, head games, me constantly wondering if she is cheating on me). You know, things like that. Tell me what you think. But I really do hate myself for giving in like that!! I know I should've just said NO.

[Tony T]

What your ex did has much less to do with her desire to get back with you than it does with wanting to conquer a great challenge. By pinning you to the wall and screwing your brains out, she's probably quite fine now and you may not hear from her much anymore.

 

It's called rejected child syndrome. There are a lot of people who just can't handle rejection.

 

If you really don't want to see this girl anymore, engage her no further.

 

I think it's pretty lame to think because you screwed each other there's good reason to get back together.

 

Think about this with your heart. Then step back and see how she behaves. She's pretty nuts right now but she knows your weak spot...in your crotch. That sort of gives her the "upper hand."

[Ashesmum]

Yeah, you were a bad boy, but everyone's human. You already know you don't really want her back. As for her game of "if he doesn't say yes when I cry, I'll f*ck" tell her thanks for the lay, now get on your way. She's still playing with you. You are not going to get over the way she's treated you, and if you did give in and go back to her, you are still going to have those memories haunting you. Don't torture yourself more. Find someone new and if she decides to come back once in a while for sex (and you're horny) then fine. Just watch out, who knows who else she's been doing and what she might have (you never know). Good luck.

Well...you all know about the relationship that I just ended. Well for the past couple of days I noticed her driving past my house. I know why, "she wanted to stop and talk, but didn't know how I would react to her even being here.". Well, finally today she stopped, knocked on the door, and told me that she wanted to explain a lot of things to me and hopefully get back together with me. Well, I knew before she said anything that I wasn't going to buy anything that she was going to say. But me being the "nice guy" that I am, let her inside and speak her peace. I could go on forever talking about what she said. But I just told her that I'm not buying it, and I'm sick of the head games, and I'm sick of the lack of attention from her. Well...she started crying and I didn't buy into that either. Then, she started getting physical...I mean REAL physical. She pushed me up against the wall and started making out. Soon, one thing led to another, and we had sex. I must admit that it was really good sex, but now I'm kind of in a moral delema. I'm real funny about going back on what I say. I don't do it. But now that I had sex with her when she wanted to get back together makes me feel that maybe she is now thinking that I do want her back. I didn't say anything afterwards to her because I fell asleep. When I woke up, she was gone. If she does think that I want her back, should I just tell her that I was horny (which was the case for me), or should I give her a second chance? But part of me does want her back, but I don't know if I want everything that went along with it (the lies, head games, me constantly wondering if she is cheating on me). You know, things like that. Tell me what you think. But I really do hate myself for giving in like that!! I know I should've just said NO.