deliboy1234567 Posted November 13, 2005 Share Posted November 13, 2005 I'm in a ldr, not too far tho, a couple hours away, but dont have the means to see her. I told her i dont know if we can work out since we are too far apart to see each other on a regular basis, - bad idea - she now thinks i'm trying to break up, which i'm not, i just mentioned that we're too far apart, and i want to continue our relationship. I talked to her, and things are okay for now. ever since she seems to not engage in conversation like she used to, and only replies with quick short responses leaving no room for a conversation to grow. this is my first gf, and she has had like 6, so its kinda wierd. she also says i'm not being the man in the relationship, what do i have to do to be the "man"? i have no idea what she is looking for. I call her 3-4 times a wk, we chat on aim everyday, and i see her every couple months. what do i do? Link to post Share on other sites
Author deliboy1234567 Posted November 13, 2005 Author Share Posted November 13, 2005 UPDATE** ok, so now she tells me she just wants to be freinds, taking a few steps back, but will see what happens in the comming weeks. Is she slowly trying to breakup with me? Link to post Share on other sites
slubberdegullion Posted November 13, 2005 Share Posted November 13, 2005 Just friends? That's bad news, my friend. Link to post Share on other sites
deliboy123456 Posted November 14, 2005 Share Posted November 14, 2005 Anyone have any comments? This is my first relationship, and she claims that i'm the girl of the relationship, and she's tired of being the man. what do i do to be the "man"? Link to post Share on other sites
playingdiva Posted November 22, 2005 Share Posted November 22, 2005 Ok i think i know what she means. I went through this same situation with my ex. I felt like i was the one that wore the pants in the relationship. It's really hard to explain what she may want from you in terms of being the man... For me i like my man to kinda take charge in the relationship. Be somewhat dominant and masucline. If there is one thing that turns women off more than anything else, it's a man with a lack of dominance. And a woman can smell a lack of dominance like a shark smells blood. I like to feel safe and protected with my man. It's hard to tell you exactly what she means because i dont know you and i dont know what it is exactly you are doing to make her feel like the male. With my EX it was stuff like him sulking when we'd have an arguement or he would lean his head on my shoulder and hang off me. I felt that i should be me resting my head on his shoulder and me that would hang off him. When we'd go out places i would be the one leading us around. I felt that him being the male, he should have been the "leader." That was just some of the issues i had with him not being manly enough. I guess it's kind of like that whole male/ felmale thing from way back... The woman is below the male so to speak. That sounds kinda wrong from some womens point of veiw but others like my self find it very sexy and a real turn on as long as it's not hurtful ( as some men take the whole dominance thing to seriously and are abbusive to there GF/ wife) so if you made sense of any of that then i hope it helps. If you wanted to explain in a little more detail how you act around you girlfriend and maybe tell me some stuff you think might be causeing her to feel this way then i might be able to help you out a little more Link to post Share on other sites
ReluctantRomeo Posted November 22, 2005 Share Posted November 22, 2005 she also says i'm not being the man in the relationship, what do i have to do to be the "man"? i have no idea what she is looking for. Playingdiva has a good point. But it could also be that you're not doing what your ex wants. And "being the man" is her code for "being the man of my dreams". Sometimes girls (and guys) find it difficult to express their wishes and needs clearly. Blaming the other person for failing to meet them is way easier than blaming yourself for failing to ask. Link to post Share on other sites
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