joel Posted November 14, 2005 Share Posted November 14, 2005 have any of u guys ever asked a girl out and she said" No maybe next time", so its like 3 days later and she tells other classmates-not her freinds and her freinds and tell other freinds and ppl about how Joey asked jen out , , not just that we all now girls gossip -but your getting these smiles and smirks from girls,-you never gotten these smiles andd smirks before u asked her out. this for just askin a girl out right after class. this is in the college level too-19-23 yr olds so no ,not HS . any of u guys experienced someting like this -what did u do about it and why do u think she had to make such a big deal of a guy asking her out. i'm not ugly-above avg or avg looking so is she. not sure just need opinions and suggestions-i'm not the most experience guy when it comes to girls and dating -actually i am a rookie. Before askin Jen out i noticed her alwasy giving me glances and looks -never spoke to her then i did a couple of times and asked her out,-i thought she was interested the looks and when i talked to her she seemed receptive, but a quiet girl. 1 month later i asked her out, after asking her out she made a mock out of me. why do u think she even did this to me- i didn;t bother askin her out again as her body language just didn;t show that she was intereested and also of what she did -make a mock and joke of me-just for askin her out. you think a girl would be flattered and happy- guess not her. i was thinkin of askin her out one more time ,but said ah NO , she didn;t seem receptive and body language was not there. i should have confronted her about the situation , but was so heart broken about it that i didn;t even bother. i was really waiting for her to come to me since i initiated like 7 of the conversation and not one did she initiate. not sure if she was interested and shy or not interested and just being polite-so she just spoke to me. i hope this situation won;t happen again - i will be askin out more girls out, i have asked 5 girls out during my time in college-2 yrs all have said NO. getting girls for me is not an easy task. i turn 25 in december , i ain;t young too Link to post Share on other sites
Hot Coco Posted November 14, 2005 Share Posted November 14, 2005 Can I ask you a question...are you in college with them? Link to post Share on other sites
Author joel Posted November 14, 2005 Author Share Posted November 14, 2005 Can I ask you a question...are you in college with them? yes i am, going to done soon -but i still neeed advice as i don;t want a repeat-want to learn from my mistakes, but not so sure what i did wrong. Link to post Share on other sites
Yamaha Posted November 14, 2005 Share Posted November 14, 2005 Some women are just immature. Some women take affront if a guy they feel is below their standards asks them out. They think, "doesn't he know I would never go out with him!" It wounds their shallow egos. Just keep asking and there will be a receptive gal. If you run into this gal again I would speak and don't even let her think she has bothered you. Hold you head up for you did nothing wrong. Link to post Share on other sites
Hot Coco Posted November 14, 2005 Share Posted November 14, 2005 I agree. You didn't do anything wrong but pick an immature girl. Nice girls aren't like that. Good luck next time! Can't win 'em all! Link to post Share on other sites
Neptune Posted November 15, 2005 Share Posted November 15, 2005 Joel, I can`t help but think you are making the wrong choices in the women you are asking. You have to be setting your sights too high. Gotta get back to reality. Too many young guys do that. Link to post Share on other sites
Author joel Posted November 15, 2005 Author Share Posted November 15, 2005 i wasn;t shooting too high -shes avg looking really so am i. i got the blushed look and also the looked away when i looked at her, i just wish she could have came to me-and give me some feeling that she is actually interested, i get discouraged fast as a person -kind of sucks i acutally thought she liked me and when i asked her out she would say Yes, but she didn;t -i ah No sorry , i got lots of homework- pauseeee then maybe next time. homework yea this is like 1st wk of school-yea right Link to post Share on other sites
Neptune Posted November 15, 2005 Share Posted November 15, 2005 OK Joel, Rate these women on the 10 scale. Where would they rank? Above 7? Maybe 5? Perfect 10??? Until I get some idea I can`t really be sure what is going on. What would be the lowest rating of anyone you have asked out? So some probably won`t like this rating women thing. Got a better idea? Link to post Share on other sites
SmoochieFace Posted November 15, 2005 Share Posted November 15, 2005 This is why I LOVE older women... no dealing with this immature BS. I don't think this is a *looks* thing, although I may be wrong of course. The reactions of this woman are clearly a reflection of her immaturity AND insecurity. She has a fragile ego and those egos are easily popped - as was seen in this case. Link to post Share on other sites
Panhandler Posted November 17, 2005 Share Posted November 17, 2005 hehe cause asking a girl out is very highschool I think. Maybe that's why, they are laughing at you for being like will you go out with me. I think as you get older that starts to wear thin as being a good way to get with a girl. What you have to do is get to know someone and then seduce them, there is no on the spot I like him, or I don't like him. That's too much pressure for people... Link to post Share on other sites
Topper Posted November 17, 2005 Share Posted November 17, 2005 Ok nobody ask the question? Are you kind of a nerd? Nothing wrong with that. Nerds are taking over the world. Her looks are one thing. She may also have a problem with thinking her station in life is higher then yours. If she is gossiping about your asking her out, then you are so better off without her. We also don't know anything about here except that she looks average. Have you ever talked to her one on one or in a group setting? What do you know about her besides she gave you looks? Did the two of you have anything in common? start looking around for woman that you have something in common with. Talk to them in social situations and see where that goes. Link to post Share on other sites
SmoochieFace Posted November 17, 2005 Share Posted November 17, 2005 She may also have a problem with thinking her station in life is higher then yours. She's a college girl - not mature enough to thinking in such mature ways as *station in life*... She's most likely got partying, booze, and c**k on her mind more than anything else. The OP should just walk away from her and her mentally-stunted friends - find someone closer to his level of mental maturity or concentrate on the books. Link to post Share on other sites
Author joel Posted November 17, 2005 Author Share Posted November 17, 2005 tell u the truth from my observatins of this girl -she seems very conservative and quiet and serious-not joking around. i doubt she the type to party it up. she never smiles or does its hardly-just seems very serious. isee her in class and shes the type that goes to class and goes home -doesn;t seem to want to make freinds-kind of like a loner. very serious into school too-alwasy on time in class and just really into school. Link to post Share on other sites
SmoochieFace Posted November 17, 2005 Share Posted November 17, 2005 tell u the truth from my observatins of this girl -she seems very conservative and quiet and serious-not joking around. i doubt she the type to party it up. she never smiles or does its hardly-just seems very serious. isee her in class and shes the type that goes to class and goes home -doesn;t seem to want to make freinds-kind of like a loner. very serious into school too-alwasy on time in class and just really into school. Yeah, the serious and loner types are the ones you need to watch out for - appearances can be deceiving. Link to post Share on other sites
Panhandler Posted November 17, 2005 Share Posted November 17, 2005 hehehe, you know she probably asked her friends what they thought of you, and they probably just didn't think she should go out with you. That's probably how the rumor got around. When I was like 20 I think I asked out a girl that was 21 I went to school with, and everyone always balked how hot she was, and she really wasn't. She started to get tubby as the years went by, but people still talked about her like she was a hot catch. Anyhow I started to call her on the phone cause she was a neighbor and lived a few blocks away. I was sick of the guys and was thinking a lot about banging her, I mean she had big boobs and she was cool, she liked to party some. But she was going out with this really nutty dude, who had a psychopath older brother who was totally drunk, crack head. They were all psycho's and I sort of felt intimidated when she told me she was still seeing that kid and he was a lot stronger than me then and older, and had a really psycho older brother hehe and he had a car and job, which I didn't. But friends of mine started to ask me wether I asked her out, and I just denied it. They were like that's okay man if you like her, heheh, but I was a bit embarassed. Of course other skinny girls that were hotter but I had too much of a tomboy past with, were asking me out now and I didn't agree to it, cause I figured it would just go sour or they just didn't get me hot enuff. So it may be a good thing that it spread around school, probably she asked her friends, and you just weren't high on the mr. popularity list to win their approval. Just be more aggressive and talk less and then you'll pick up girls with seduction. When you play the ask out card, then you are putting your popular public profile on the chopping block to be rated on every aspect like a basketball player. Link to post Share on other sites
Neptune Posted November 17, 2005 Share Posted November 17, 2005 Well Joel, I think it is great you have the courage to ask. This girl may be a little socially awkward herself. And maybe talking too much and being influenced too much by other girls. You did what you could do. Congratulations. Don`t be intimidated by anything. Just move on. One thing to keep in mind is that there is a sort of negative stereotype that can set in. It may have happened to you. So, try to focus as far from the familiar group as you can. The reason is once you get this image then girls will be self concious to be seen with you. It is not fair. But don`t fight it. Just look for girls that likely would not be in the know. Link to post Share on other sites
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