chocolate_boy Posted November 15, 2005 Share Posted November 15, 2005 Ok... Now I know this was asking for trouble, but you may know the story of me and my recent ex.. broke up one weekend out of blue etc. Today I was logging into hotmail to check my account that I hadn't used for a while, however it auto-logged me into her account, she obviously used my PC to view it... I found an email to her best friend that was sent two days after we split. Turns out she had been having a fling with a guy from work while we were still together.... I was always slightly paranoid as she had been seeing him for a few weeks before we got together. Anyway this email to her friend which said about how this guy had decided to go back to her ex and she was now heartbroken and feeling very rejected... f.ucking b.itch! TWO DAYS after we split and I was feeling all that pain for her... I just do not understand people, and my faith in humanity has been severely lost. The whole thing was lies. I actually think I've never hated anyone in my life as much as I hate her right now. Link to post Share on other sites
ReluctantRomeo Posted November 15, 2005 Share Posted November 15, 2005 I just do not understand people, and my faith in humanity has been severely lost. The whole thing was lies. Yup, she's a bitch. That's incredibly bad behaviour. I can understand why you're so angry - I'd be the same in your place. Please remember though that most girls are not like this. When one of them treats you this badly, you can start to think that all girls are bad. But most are kind and faithful. Link to post Share on other sites
Author chocolate_boy Posted November 15, 2005 Author Share Posted November 15, 2005 I know I am so angry, I've just destroyed half of my CD collection... she came across so sweet and nice, and to top it off I've lost most of my friends cos they've sided with her... I bet they don't know about this though. I took her away on a $1400 vacation the week before she split and she was sms messaging this guy, she told me he was just a friend etc. when I asked.... GOD I FEEL SO STUPID AND LIED TO I'm not wasting another second of my life on that whore, I am now 150% over her after reading that. It was just the way she said it "I feel v v v rejected" two days after she'd dumped me, someone who gave her my all for a year of my life... took her on expensive vacations every 3 months, gave her a lifestyle she could never afford, took her into my home... and she repays me like that... Well damn... I obviously meant zilch to her afterall. You may remember that closure email I sent her (I posted it on here) There was a mention of that in the email to her friend, it said something like it really cut her up and she got really down that she had treated me like she had for a night.. but "then I realised I'm not like that and I should take it with a pinch of salt as I don't want him back, I should just ignore him from now on". What is UP WITH THAT B.ITCH?! Seriously, how can someone do that? It's not human. I feel like such a schmuck too! Link to post Share on other sites
ReluctantRomeo Posted November 15, 2005 Share Posted November 15, 2005 Agreed. She's bad news. It would be worth considering 2 points though. To help you with future romance. Why did most of your friends side with her? Is there a way you can still be financially generous, but less dramatically so next time? This does tend to attract users, I'm afraid. Link to post Share on other sites
Author chocolate_boy Posted November 15, 2005 Author Share Posted November 15, 2005 Agreed. She's bad news. It would be worth considering 2 points though. To help you with future romance. Why did most of your friends side with her? Is there a way you can still be financially generous, but less dramatically so next time? This does tend to attract users, I'm afraid. I met her through a few of my friends who work with her you see, thing is they weren't even friends really til we got together then they became close. She is very sweet and innocent looking, 5ft2, blonde very pretty looking, the whole "butter wouldn't melt in mouth" etc. However when we split she cited it as me being too selfish and self involved and that she didn't think I loved her, went and told our friends , and they all thought I was the bad guy.. quite the opposite infact it woudl seem. She went to them crying the night we were splitting up (or so she thought, in reality I was just mad after an argument we'd had and wanted a night to chill out). They felt sorry for her. They are still my friends, but as they work together they go on girly work nights out a lot, and have become very close since, I don't want to hang around with them as I feel I'm not welcome cos my ex is with them a lot, and also I don't want to hear what she's been up to... With the financial thing, yeah I know you're right, however she is a 21 year old student, I'm 25 and have a really good well paid media job, so I treated her, I could afford it easily... I don't mind treating the girl I love.. but it just hurts when it's just a waste... Link to post Share on other sites
ReluctantRomeo Posted November 15, 2005 Share Posted November 15, 2005 However when we split she cited it as me being too selfish and self involved and that she didn't think I loved her Here's a tip: ask your friends, the ones that are just yours and not hers, what they think of this. Ask your family too. Tell them to be brutal and that you need to hear the truth. It's quite likely she's just throwing accusations at you to take the spotlight off her. But there may be some truth in some of them. I do this at the end of romances btw - really helps you improve your act. With the financial thing, yeah I know you're right, however she is a 21 year old student, I'm 25 and have a really good well paid media job, so I treated her, I could afford it easily... I don't mind treating the girl I love.. but it just hurts when it's just a waste... Well, here's a tip: next time be generous in a way that, even if the romance doesn't work out, you won't think it was a waste. Link to post Share on other sites
Author chocolate_boy Posted November 15, 2005 Author Share Posted November 15, 2005 Here's a tip: ask your friends, the ones that are just yours and not hers, what they think of this. Ask your family too. Tell them to be brutal and that you need to hear the truth. It's quite likely she's just throwing accusations at you to take the spotlight off her. But there may be some truth in some of them. I do this at the end of romances btw - really helps you improve your act. Well, here's a tip: next time be generous in a way that, even if the romance doesn't work out, you won't think it was a waste. I already have, our mutual friends have said they reckon she's treating me like s.hit, yet they still are best friends with her and go out with her all the time. Friends of mine that are only mine that have met her all said they were quite shocked I went for her in the first place and I could do far better! One of them said this while we were still together (!) and a few more after we split. Link to post Share on other sites
933KJL Posted November 15, 2005 Share Posted November 15, 2005 I'm not wasting another second of my life on that whore, I am now 150% over her after reading that. Posted 11/15/05 at 7:55am Yes you are.....and no you are not! Link to post Share on other sites
lilmoma1973 Posted November 15, 2005 Share Posted November 15, 2005 You need to move on she is worth your time the fact that she did that to you shows you that she didn't care about you at all... You deserve better go find someon that is deserving of you and what you have to offer !! Chalk that up to experience and be more careful who you mess with .. As for your frends don't let them fix you up anymore !!! Good luck Link to post Share on other sites
lilmoma1973 Posted November 15, 2005 Share Posted November 15, 2005 Yup, she's a bitch. That's incredibly bad behaviour. I can understand why you're so angry - I'd be the same in your place. Please remember though that most girls are not like this. When one of them treats you this badly, you can start to think that all girls are bad. But most are kind and faithful. Awww that was sweet Reluctant what you sais about some women and that is true ..It is ok for you to feel that way about women because i feel that way about men when i get hurt but you can't stop wanting to be in relationship because of on bad egg!!! Good luck it will get better and you will find that perfect girl one day ! Link to post Share on other sites
Author chocolate_boy Posted November 15, 2005 Author Share Posted November 15, 2005 You need to move on she is worth your time the fact that she did that to you shows you that she didn't care about you at all... You deserve better go find someon that is deserving of you and what you have to offer !! Chalk that up to experience and be more careful who you mess with .. As for your frends don't let them fix you up anymore !!! Good luck That's what worries me, how can you ever know. I was single for 2.5 years before I met her cos I was so scared of getting hurt, and I really thought the right girl had come along... I coulnd't have been more wrong Link to post Share on other sites
ReluctantRomeo Posted November 15, 2005 Share Posted November 15, 2005 Awww that was sweet Reluctant what you sais about some women and that is true Thanks. That's so sweet of you to say this you can't stop wanting to be in relationship because of on bad egg!!! Exactly. Link to post Share on other sites
scobro Posted November 15, 2005 Share Posted November 15, 2005 Quote: I'm not wasting another second of my life on that whore, I am now 150% over her after reading that. Posted 11/15/05 at 7:55am Yes you are.....and no you are not! Unfortunately it will take some time but I would have to agree with this quote.She is also pretty young and a lot of younger girls always have the grass is greener outlook.My ex is 37 and she has that so some don't grow out of it.Sorry for your findings thats rough. Link to post Share on other sites
patwheel Posted November 15, 2005 Share Posted November 15, 2005 Always tough to see the truth man. Just like me, I realized that my girl did not just dump me out of the blue, but was pretty much planning it or at least thinking about it for some time before that. Girls are just like guys after all, in the sense that they look around, they also have the grass is greener concept, and they are independent. Just take away the concept of chivalrous boyfriend, rescuing and all that out of your head, not daying that you should treat girls like a chauvinistic pig, but you know, within the limits, even if you can afford a jet, are you gonna get a jet? no, right? Your girl just like mine turned friends away from me, well in my case they were her friends first, so I guess its collateral damage. But, true real friends are there as loyal soldiers. They will always be there no matter what, pretty much like an extended family. Remember my girl is 25, we're both pretty successful, law school, scholarship, and all that, had the same type of mindset on life, career, and all that, treated her like a queen(moved in with me and I payed for everything), and she still went away. Now she is with some MD guy, and yeah Im waiting for her to get her heart broken ;D When you open the floodgates all at once, I guess there's no turn back, and all you can do is patch things up for yourself, and not repeat the same next time. But for now, remember the throwing away everything? Better delete emails, or put away emails, pictures, and all that from your computer also! Link to post Share on other sites
Author chocolate_boy Posted November 15, 2005 Author Share Posted November 15, 2005 Yeah its so heartbreaking that this one guy i always felt paranoid about... basically she cheated on her last boyfriend with him, and then broke up with her ex to be with this guy.. however he became all intense, telling her he loved her 24/7 etc. and she dumped him too. Then a few weeks later she went back to him but he had got with a new girl, and she met me... 6 months down the line he split with this girl and started making moves on my girlfriend, I got pissed cos she told me all this, we'd be out and he'd say stuff to her like "is that your boyfriend, damn better not make a move on you tonight" I wanted to kill him but she was like "no don't be stupid, he's just a loser, I find him repulsive now, i love you". Then sure enough I find out she broke up with me and it's him that she wanted.. it must have been going on before she ended it, cos 2 days after we split that email was sent... saying he'd gone back to his ex again and didn't "think it was fair" to be with my ex and she was telling her friend how heartbroken and really rejected she felt. I cannot begin to describe how deceived and foolish and goddamn angry i feel now.... Link to post Share on other sites
ReluctantRomeo Posted November 15, 2005 Share Posted November 15, 2005 Just take away the concept of chivalrous boyfriend, rescuing and all that out of your head Don't lose it completely. Dose it out. Here is the maths for girls: Small favours = sweet and generous Big favours early on in a relationship = pressure Link to post Share on other sites
JS17 Posted November 15, 2005 Share Posted November 15, 2005 Don't lose it completely. Dose it out. Here is the maths for girls: Small favours = sweet and generous Big favours early on in a relationship = pressure I think you should be writing a book on how to behave like a proper boyfriend. Link to post Share on other sites
Author chocolate_boy Posted November 15, 2005 Author Share Posted November 15, 2005 It's all so much hard work this relation**** stuff.... Then again I wouldn't like to have my ex's love life, bouncing around from guy to guy, back to the ex, back to new one etc. like a pinball... That is pretty messed up. She hasn't even had a week being single since she was 15. One thing I have learnt from all this, next time a girl wants to leave me, that's it.. once the words are spoken, out the door, help her pack her case... Link to post Share on other sites
westernxer Posted November 15, 2005 Share Posted November 15, 2005 You spent $1400 on her just for a vacation?! Link to post Share on other sites
Author chocolate_boy Posted November 15, 2005 Author Share Posted November 15, 2005 You spent $1400 on her just for a vacation?! Well it was $1400 my part included. Link to post Share on other sites
westernxer Posted November 15, 2005 Share Posted November 15, 2005 No more spending money like this. That's outrageous. Link to post Share on other sites
Author chocolate_boy Posted November 15, 2005 Author Share Posted November 15, 2005 No more spending money like this. That's outrageous. Yeah well if it only cost me $700 to realise what a ****-wit she was and get rid of her, it may have been worth it. Link to post Share on other sites
Jellostick Posted November 15, 2005 Share Posted November 15, 2005 My ex and I were supposed to go away at the end of October but she broke up w/ me so I had to cancel her ticket. The ticket is still good but I paid for the tickets and she owes me money for it. She wants the information before she pays me which I don't think is fair so just so I don't have to deal w/ this nonsense anymore, I swallowed it and let it go. She doesn't get the info and I don't get my money but to be honest I have no problem w/ that. I'm happy that it's hopefully over. Cheers. Link to post Share on other sites
Author chocolate_boy Posted November 15, 2005 Author Share Posted November 15, 2005 My ex and I were supposed to go away at the end of October but she broke up w/ me so I had to cancel her ticket. The ticket is still good but I paid for the tickets and she owes me money for it. She wants the information before she pays me which I don't think is fair so just so I don't have to deal w/ this nonsense anymore, I swallowed it and let it go. She doesn't get the info and I don't get my money but to be honest I have no problem w/ that. I'm happy that it's hopefully over. Cheers. Yeah my ex offered to pay me back, but then we got back together and I told her to forget it, then she dumped me via SMS (probably cos she was too busy with her new guy grrr!) and not mentioned it since, but I don't ever want to see or hear from her again, so $700 a small price to pay. Link to post Share on other sites
ReluctantRomeo Posted November 17, 2005 Share Posted November 17, 2005 I think you should be writing a book on how to behave like a proper boyfriend. Thank you - that's very sweet of you to say this Link to post Share on other sites
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