wendel1 Posted December 1, 2005 Share Posted December 1, 2005 I think dating a younger girl ie. 20 or 21 if you are older is very difficult to keep going. Once they can go to the bars and clubs (legally) it is a whole different world out there, and they dont want the 'shackles' of a serious relationship. They want to go out and party, and hang out with their girlfriends. It is hurtful when it happens, but I'm just trying to tell myself that you cant stop her from being 21. Most 21 year old girls (in the USA) dont want a serious relationship at that age do they? Link to post Share on other sites
AltplanB Posted December 1, 2005 Share Posted December 1, 2005 My gf broke up with me when she was 21 because she said she didn't want to be in a relationship with anyone. I guess that means she wants to just go out and party and i can't stop her. ****ing sucks but i can't do anything about it. My hope is that after her rebound, she will maybe want to try things anew. I dunno, she sends me mixed messages. Link to post Share on other sites
fooled Posted January 13, 2006 Share Posted January 13, 2006 We're in the same boat, Chocolate. Except my girl was having an affair with 4 men and that doesn't include the flings. Every time we went away together, I'm sure she was texting other guys. Her cell phone would ring all night long and she said it was her ex-husband (who is not so much, as it turns out) or her sister or numbers she didn't recognize. Didn't add up. I also can't believe a person can be this inhuman. I also feel completely betrayed and humiliated. This girl was never even my FRIEND! A friend would not disrespect me like that. She was so sweet and said wonderful things to me when we were together. And as soon as I wasn't around, she must have been doing the same thing to other guys. It's really hard for me to think about all of this - it's still pretty fresh for me. Know you're not alone. Link to post Share on other sites
Author chocolate_boy Posted January 13, 2006 Author Share Posted January 13, 2006 We're in the same boat, Chocolate. Except my girl was having an affair with 4 men and that doesn't include the flings. Every time we went away together, I'm sure she was texting other guys. Her cell phone would ring all night long and she said it was her ex-husband (who is not so much, as it turns out) or her sister or numbers she didn't recognize. Didn't add up. I also can't believe a person can be this inhuman. I also feel completely betrayed and humiliated. This girl was never even my FRIEND! A friend would not disrespect me like that. She was so sweet and said wonderful things to me when we were together. And as soon as I wasn't around, she must have been doing the same thing to other guys. It's really hard for me to think about all of this - it's still pretty fresh for me. Know you're not alone. Sorry to hear your in pain dude. Four guys is pretty rough. You dragging up this thread again has actually surprised me though, , even though all this was only about 2 months ago now, I do feel so much over it. If you gain anything from this, trust me, let her go, sometimes you just don't realise what people are like until its too late. With me, I may never know the truth about this ex (she denied the cheating etc. yet there were many unanswered questions). I haven't spoken to her since the night in this thread. She has tried to contact me a few times via SMS but I've ignored them all. I'm feeling fine these days, over her, have a new life now, new friends, doing great at work (just got a $5000 a year pay rise today, woohoo!). I'm taking time to be single cos I seem to go for the wrong kinds of girls, plus I am now sort of enjoying the freedom. I ended it with the other girl I was seeing, just cos I wanted some time out, and on reflection, reading back this thread almost amused me in a way, cos I feel so different now and it all seems so insignificant, I think if anything it was probably the blow to the ego that hurt the most (and missing what we had too), but suffice to say I couldn't care less about what she's doing or who she's seeing now, I feel glad I don't have to put up with her sh*t anymore. Trust me, ride it out, look after yourself, realise you're better off without her, and in two months you'll be posting messages like me. It really is for the best bud. Take care and be strong. Link to post Share on other sites
ReluctantRomeo Posted January 13, 2006 Share Posted January 13, 2006 I'm feeling fine these days, over her, have a new life now, new friends, doing great at work (just got a $5000 a year pay rise today, woohoo!). I'm taking time to be single cos I seem to go for the wrong kinds of girls, plus I am now sort of enjoying the freedom. reading back this thread almost amused me in a way, cos I feel so different now and it all seems so insignificant, I think if anything it was probably the blow to the ego that hurt the most (and missing what we had too), but suffice to say I couldn't care less about what she's doing or who she's seeing now, I feel glad I don't have to put up with her sh*t anymore. Now *that*s good revenge in my book. Well done, Choc. Link to post Share on other sites
ReluctantRomeo Posted January 13, 2006 Share Posted January 13, 2006 my girl was having an affair with 4 men and that doesn't include the flings. That sucks. I'm sorry. Link to post Share on other sites
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