dontwanttoloosehim Posted November 15, 2005 Share Posted November 15, 2005 My husband and I are on the Second chance. But he refuses to kiss me or anything! Is that Normal? How to I warm him up to be closer to me? Link to post Share on other sites
Kengne Posted November 16, 2005 Share Posted November 16, 2005 Hello! 2 quick questions: how long were u separated, and how long since you've embarked on the 2nd chance? Assuming this is all relatively recent - I think YES, your husband's reaction to limit the physical contact IS normal. Alot of times we confuse physical intimacy with emotional intimacy. Maybe your husband would like to strengthen your emotional intimacy, before putting the physical into the equation. I think that's a GREAT idea! Because alot of times the emotional intimacy & connection in a rel'ship gets underdeveloped. I also think that limiting your physical contact will allow you to focus and work on the things that went 'wrong' the 1st time around. Isn't that what you want? If so - don't worry abt the kissing etc... with time, it WILL come. And it will be that much sweeter - bcuz you waited. As a side note - I am abt to embark on a 2nd chance w my ex-bf. We are starting from SCRATCH i.e friends... then dating... then more than friends etc... We both agree that it's best to take it slow. I havent hammered out all the details but I KNOW for ME ... that the physical intimacy will DEFINITELY have to be put on HOLD... last time around we rushed things, and I dont want that to happen again. So good luck, and keep us posted! K. Link to post Share on other sites
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