GettingReady2Crack Posted November 15, 2005 Share Posted November 15, 2005 Hi Everyone, If anyone can lend some helpful advice on my issue, I would really appreciate it, I am at my wits end with this man and I am getting real tempted to break my 2 months of NC to give him a true piece of my mind. However, I have been very good at ignoring his attempts to communicate. I have not taken his calls, I have deleted his emails etc...I am just not feeling him...However, he just does not seem to get the message. He is insistent on wanting to be my "Friend" ? What the hell is that? I just can not be "friends" with a man who does not know how to respect me as a woman or better yet my feelings. Here is a little history: We were dating for about 5 months. Dating is a key word here. He was not my boyfriend, we were not in an exclusive relationship etc...just dating and trying to see where things would go. I understood all of this from the beginning and did not close the door on any other options nor did I set any false expectations. Then one day, I discover that he really is not in a position to date, because he is in a serious committed relationship with another woman who lives in another state. I know...you are probably confused....that's where I was when I found out...Believe me...I would have NEVER entertained this man if i KNEW he was in a relationship with another woman. Here is the deal...she has no clue about me...So, to get out of this situation, I simply advised dude that I no longer wanted to deal with him and that I needed to walk away from this situation advising that this was not something that I could handle and that I needed to what was best for me. I am not used to scraps and I won't begin to settle for them. So, that conversation took place a month ago. I was very classy with my departure, I didn't berate him or play head games with him. My walking away was not an attempt to get control of the situation, it was simply something that I needed to do for ME. I don't want to waste time on someone who clearly has no real time for me. Bottom line. So, walked... So, it's been 2 months and dude has sent me emails, left messages on my phone asking me why we can't be friends, he's calling me from restricted numbers and not leaving messages, but I know it's him..because anyone else would leave me a message...I just don't get dude and he's beginning to annoy the hell out of me. I am trying to be a lady about all of this, but something tells me that I may have to go psycho on him for him to get the message...and trust me...I can get psycho...and I don't want to do that..His girlfriend will be in town in 2 weeks and lord knows that dude does not want me to blow up his spot in front of his lady. Trust me, I don't want to hurt her feelings... Question: Should I call this man and just tell him straight up that we are not friends and that I don't want his friendship. OR should I just continue to do what I am doing and ignore his attempts to reach out to me? One last thing...Why is that men just can't let go? My word, it's not like he doesn't have someone. Any suggestions... Link to post Share on other sites
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