Gold Pile Posted November 16, 2005 Share Posted November 16, 2005 Can a person in his 40's change the way he lives his life? Can a guy who has always zigged, start zagging? A frugal guy become more spendful? A materialistic person become less so? A lone wolfe become a family man? Link to post Share on other sites
brashgal Posted November 16, 2005 Share Posted November 16, 2005 I think many of us have mellowed out in our 40s, but a complete 180 turnaround usually happens only when presented with a live-changing event of some sort. You are still you underneath the change in behavior. I finally loosened my purse strings once I made more money and realized that I could. I still hesitate to spend for some things, especially stuff that I can do or make for myself. Something earthshattering happen to you GP or do you WANT to change? That is usually what it takes...the desire. Link to post Share on other sites
HokeyReligions Posted November 16, 2005 Share Posted November 16, 2005 Yes. If THEY want to -- not because of outside pressures or suggestions. I am making changes that I want to make and its difficult for me. Old habits, as they say, die hard. But anyone can change. If you want to make changes - start small. Don't overwhelm yourself with impatience. Link to post Share on other sites
whichwayisup Posted November 16, 2005 Share Posted November 16, 2005 It's mindset and convincing yourself of certain things. Learning how to change slowly. It doesn't happen over night and it takes alot of mental preparation to be ready for it. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Gold Pile Posted November 18, 2005 Author Share Posted November 18, 2005 I think many of us have mellowed out in our 40s, but a complete 180 turnaround usually happens only when presented with a live-changing event of some sort. You are still you underneath the change in behavior. I finally loosened my purse strings once I made more money and realized that I could. I still hesitate to spend for some things, especially stuff that I can do or make for myself. Something earthshattering happen to you GP or do you WANT to change? That is usually what it takes...the desire. Thanks for reply. There is this nice lady, an ex GF. She is still in my life somewhat. She recently became available again. GP could easily give up dating others to be with her. But other changes on my part would be needed to make it work. I'm a loner at heart, so I go about dating in a superficial way, not making the deep connections, and moving on from one to the next. I sense that my dating days will someday end. I'll be off in a remote cabin by myself and probably happy. This woman represents the opposite possibility. Settling down with step kids and in-laws...my idea of hell, but she is a wonderful and pretty lady. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Gold Pile Posted November 18, 2005 Author Share Posted November 18, 2005 Yes. If THEY want to -- not because of outside pressures or suggestions. I am making changes that I want to make and its difficult for me. Old habits, as they say, die hard. But anyone can change. If you want to make changes - start small. Don't overwhelm yourself with impatience. Start small...good plan. Still need ti determine if I WANT to change. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Gold Pile Posted November 18, 2005 Author Share Posted November 18, 2005 It's mindset and convincing yourself of certain things. Learning how to change slowly. It doesn't happen over night and it takes alot of mental preparation to be ready for it. Hi WWIU, You seem to understand it well. I have to decide if I want to change some things,and fight that battle. Link to post Share on other sites
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