bkalltheway Posted November 16, 2005 Share Posted November 16, 2005 I've never dated before, and am really new at this. i'm about 19 yrs old, and dont know how to work with women, but want to be able to. I've been a pussy my whole life, so thats why its taken so long. so, this girl that I had a crush on asks me out,( i no, its bad when a girl asks a guy), but i really liked her, and went along with it. This is a long distance relationship, she is 2 hrs away. This is the first time i ever had feelings for someone, and i really liked it. within 3 and a half weeks, i confessed my love, and she did as well, but i knew she wasnt just saying it cuz i was. so things were going great until i mentioned that "i'm afraid things might not work, we are too far apart, and i dont know how this will turn out" that made her think i was trying to break up, but i wasn't. so she refused to talk to me for a day, and finnaly she let me speak over instant messenger. I told her i'm sorry i said that, and did not mean to hurt her. i didnt want to break up, i'm just mentioning that LDRs dont work out all the time. So she claims that i dont trust her, and that she's tired of being the man of the relationship. so, later things kinda died down, i try to have a conversation with her, ask her qustions about her, what shes into, what she thinks about this, that, etc... she only responds with quick short replies leaving no room for conversation, and i just ask her questions the whole time, feeling stupid and boring. she later tells me that we should just be freinds till we see each other again, and things may look up. I told her okay, and for 2 days resisted calling her. I told her on IM that i dont want to be just freinds, that we are more, why take it down? she said she would rather talk to the real ME, not the me on IM or the phone. I couldn't help but keep trying to bring the spark back, and i ended up pouring my heart out to her, telling her everything i feel about her and us. she tells me that i have more feelings for her than she does for me, meaning i love her more than she loves me. she says because of that, we should stop being BF and GF, and just be friends. I told her "i think you're making a mistake, but okay" since i didnt want to pressure her into doing something she doesnt want to do. the last thing she said was that she still wants to be able to be freinds and talk, go to concerts and chill, but that this relationship is not working for her. I really love this girl, and am very selective on who i will let in my heart, she is everything i want, and i have denied other girls before. What can i do to bring her back, she kinda left the door open for a second chance i think, and i want to take advantage of that. I wrote her a song before the breakup, and told her i was planning a surprise when we saw eachother again, but now i dont know what to do with it. I'm hoping by singing the song when i see her again, i will bring her back, but am afraid it will drive her away even more, and she will think i'm some kind of stalker. Please give me advice on what i should do, i have no idea, its so hard for me not to try to call her, but i dont cuz i dont know what to say. it's been 3 days since she broke up with me. I really want her back in my life, but i do not know how to say it without sounding stupid and desparate. what do you all think I should do? Link to post Share on other sites
Author bkalltheway Posted November 16, 2005 Author Share Posted November 16, 2005 forgot to tell you, I'm seeing this girl again at a conference, all her friends will be there, all of mine will be too, and many other people. its happening in 7 days, so i have some time, and dont know if i should contact her until then. this may be a good opportunity for me though. I dont want to blow it this time. Link to post Share on other sites
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