Author loony Posted November 17, 2005 Author Share Posted November 17, 2005 I think what contributes to me feeling irritated is that she is showing me that she's disappointed when I don't have time for her and for me that's some kind of emotional blackmailing. One of my other friends is like this, too. He made me feel like a bad friend, because one hour of having lunch together was not enough. Well, some people do have to work... Link to post Share on other sites
Author loony Posted November 17, 2005 Author Share Posted November 17, 2005 Bad in general. I think the best way to deal with problems is to tackle them, not to dance around them. It's back to the procrastination thing Next time I will say, "I'm sorry, you're disappointed, but I really don't feel like doing xyz." I think this is ok. I really need to be more assertive. Link to post Share on other sites
ReluctantRomeo Posted November 17, 2005 Share Posted November 17, 2005 I really need to be more assertive. Yup. But it's not difficult. And of course, you'll feel more generous when you feel less manipulated and pressured. Link to post Share on other sites
Author loony Posted November 17, 2005 Author Share Posted November 17, 2005 Yup. But it's not difficult. And of course, you'll feel more generous when you feel less manipulated and pressured. Well, it is weird. Sometimes I'm very assertive and sometimes I'm such a wimp. Link to post Share on other sites
ReluctantRomeo Posted November 17, 2005 Share Posted November 17, 2005 Well, it is weird. Sometimes I'm very assertive and sometimes I'm such a wimp. Yeah. Why do you think that is? Link to post Share on other sites
Author loony Posted November 17, 2005 Author Share Posted November 17, 2005 Yeah. Why do you think that is? I pity my friends somehow. I don't mind open confrontations, but all these hidden messages and needs and wants just make me uncomfortable. Link to post Share on other sites
ReluctantRomeo Posted November 17, 2005 Share Posted November 17, 2005 I pity my friends somehow. I don't mind open confrontations, but all these hidden messages and needs and wants just make me uncomfortable. Hmmm. If I think of something clever on this, I'll tell you. Link to post Share on other sites
JS17 Posted November 17, 2005 Share Posted November 17, 2005 Well, it is weird. Sometimes I'm very assertive and sometimes I'm such a wimp. I'm the exact same way loony Link to post Share on other sites
ReluctantRomeo Posted November 17, 2005 Share Posted November 17, 2005 I'm the exact same way loony And you hold your poor cat at gunpoint... Link to post Share on other sites
JS17 Posted November 17, 2005 Share Posted November 17, 2005 And you hold your poor cat at gunpoint... Well that's not really my cat but I'm supposed to be the kitty in the picture being held at gunpoint.....maybe it's by loony's friend trying to make me bake cookies Link to post Share on other sites
Author loony Posted November 17, 2005 Author Share Posted November 17, 2005 Hmmm. If I think of something clever on this, I'll tell you. How long will this take? Link to post Share on other sites
ReluctantRomeo Posted November 17, 2005 Share Posted November 17, 2005 Well that's not really my cat but I'm supposed to be the kitty in the picture being held at gunpoint.....maybe it's by loony's friend trying to make me bake cookies Scary! Link to post Share on other sites
Author loony Posted November 17, 2005 Author Share Posted November 17, 2005 Well that's not really my cat but I'm supposed to be the kitty in the picture being held at gunpoint.....maybe it's by loony's friend trying to make me bake cookies Ok, let's all stop being so wimpy, this is actually making me nervous. Link to post Share on other sites
ReluctantRomeo Posted November 17, 2005 Share Posted November 17, 2005 How long will this take? You like your men quick, eh? Link to post Share on other sites
Author loony Posted November 17, 2005 Author Share Posted November 17, 2005 You like your men quick, eh? You look like you're a fast one. Link to post Share on other sites
ReluctantRomeo Posted November 17, 2005 Share Posted November 17, 2005 You look like you're a fast one. Only if you want me to be... Link to post Share on other sites
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