Sometimes 'come over to my place and watch some Netflix' really does mean come over to my place and watch some Netflix

[Sony12]

19 minutes ago, FredEire said:

I've had a few hookups with girls with "no ONS" in their profile, and it was usually initiated by them. I think a lot of the time it's when they have a lot of hook-ups but aren't particularly proud of it after the fact and aspire to a relationship in theory. But people get horny and sometimes in the moment it changes. There just isn't a taboo there for guys, in fact having lots of hook-ups is seen as a sign of prestige when it really shouldn't be.

 

Well technically no one night stand doesn't necessarily mean they don't have an interest in having sex on the first date. It often just means they don't want a guy to have sex with them and then completely disappear on them. Sometimes it still happens though and sometimes they won't have an interest in talking to the guy again after the encounter.

Unless a lady specifically says she won't put out on the first state there is usually a lot of wiggle room with her statements.

Edited March 7 by Sony12

[FredEire]

5 minutes ago, Sony12 said:

 

Well technically one night stand doesn't necessarily mean they don't have an interest in having sex on the first date. It often just means they don't want a guy to have sex with them and then completely disappear on them. Sometimes it still happens though and sometimes they won't have an interest in talking to the guy again after the encounter.

Sometimes the woman also wants to sleep with a guy, have fun, and for them to disappear after, but it's not really the done thing. There's a lot of social pressures and expectations involved, so people always have to do a little bit of a dance around it

Edited March 7 by FredEire

[Sony12]

2 hours ago, FredEire said:

Sometimes the woman also wants to sleep with a guy, have fun, and for them to disappear after, but it's not really the done thing. There's a lot of social pressures and expectations involved, so people always have to do a little bit of a dance around it

To a point that's true. However there is a lot of anonymity on dating apps so many women who do that kind of thing aren't as concerned about social pressures when they easily can limit the number of people who know what their dating app behavior is.

Many people act differently on apps than they would if they were meeting people through real life avenues.

[FredEire]

38 minutes ago, Sony12 said:

To a point that's true. However there is a lot of anonymity on dating apps so many women who do that kind of thing aren't as concerned about social pressures when they easily can limit the number of people who know what their dating app behavior is.

Many people act differently on apps than they would if they were meeting people through real life avenues.

On the app that's true. Some people are into sexting before they've even had the first date.

When that translates to real life though and flatmates/family possibly realising what you're doing, pregnancy concerns, self-image etc etc all come into play the situation often changes.

[ZA Dater]

3 minutes ago, FredEire said:

On the app that's true. Some people are into sexting before they've even had the first date.

When that translates to real life though and flatmates/family possibly realising what you're doing, pregnancy concerns, self-image etc etc all come into play the situation often changes.

As they say talk is cheap.

[Sony12]

11 minutes ago, FredEire said:

On the app that's true. Some people are into sexting before they've even had the first date.

When that translates to real life though and flatmates/family possibly realising what you're doing, pregnancy concerns, self-image etc etc all come into play the situation often changes.

Yep. Which is why it's not uncommon for them not to tell their family about it. They often have one specific person they tell (usually a trusted friend) but many times families don't know about the specifics of their dating behaviors online.

Sometimes even when I'm talking to a lady who isn't local to me and she goes on dates with local men I am the one who knows. They send me the guys name and picture so if something happens I'll have knowledge of who to watch out for.

Edited March 7 by Sony12

[FredEire]

14 minutes ago, Sony12 said:

Yep. Which is why it's not uncommon for them not to tell their family about it. They often have one specific person they tell (usually a trusted friend) but many times families don't know about the specifics of their dating behaviors online.

Sometimes even when I'm talking to a lady who isn't local to me and she goes on dates with local men I am the one who knows. They send me the guys name and picture so if something happens I'll have knowledge of who to watch out for.

Sounds a little odd to me. Their husband?

[Sony12]

5 minutes ago, FredEire said:

Sounds a little odd to me. Their husband?

No they don't have husbands as far as I know. Talking to other online people about your personal online activity isn't as uncommon as you might think. If people are being somewhat promiscuous that often is something they like to keep private. And telling other men they are talking to (who might not be close enough to date) is something many do.

Good chance some of these women you have had casual encounters with have told some of the other men they are talking to about you and have sent them your picture for safety precautions.

[Sony12]

After several days of no communication at all the lady out of the blue sends me a message about another Netflix show to watch. I said cool I'll put that on my list (which I won't) and told her to ask me over again sometime if she'd like. To which she replied back by saying nothing about my comment and instead just mentioned an additional Netflix show to watch.

Thinking at this point that the lady just wants someone to talk to more than anything else. Not sure what the point is in sending someone you have stopped communicating with additional recommendations of shows to watch. Unless of course she truly is addicted to her tv.

[Wiseman2]

If you said cool I'll put that on my  and told her to ask over again sometime if she'd like,it does seem like you are both sidestepping the entire situation. 

She wants Netflix and you want Chill. She seems to want dating or company or something other than  incall escort-like hookups. 

Do you live with your parents? Is there a reason why you can't invite women to your place?  

[Sony12]

2 hours ago, Wiseman2 said:

If you said cool I'll put that on my  and told her to ask over again sometime if she'd like,it does seem like you are both sidestepping the entire situation. 

She wants Netflix and you want Chill. She seems to want dating or company or something other than  incall escort-like hookups. 

Do you live with your parents? Is there a reason why you can't invite women to your place?  

Lol I have my own place. That was something actually brought up by her during the pre-meeting stage. She is letting her brother stay with her right now because he is getting ready for an operation. He is going to be gone for work though until the end of March and she said we could be at her place until then. Than once her brother got back she could come over to mine if we were still getting together at that point.

When there is a significant age difference it's pretty common for the older person to be the host.

[Wiseman2]

Is this a sugar puppy arrangement?  Never heard of this: 

"When there is a significant age difference it's pretty common for the older person to be the host."

Are you still interested in this situation? 

[Alpacalia]

Tickity tock said the clock,

I am never ever going to stop,

Tick tock, Tick tock, Tick tock

A lot of malarkey for some strange.

Edited March 13 by Alpacalia

[Wiseman2]

What's up with the trashposting 🙄

[Alpacalia]

Are you talking to me? LOL.

Worry about your own posts.

[Sony12]

6 hours ago, Wiseman2 said:

Is this a sugar puppy arrangement?  Never heard of this: 

"When there is a significant age difference it's pretty common for the older person to be the host."

Are you still interested in this situation? 

Lol boy toy is generally more commonly used than something like that (infact she even called me a boy toy while we had been talking).

It was a very highly sexualized set up. But then when we got back to her place she just wanted to continue to make out while watching TV and fondle me a little bit but nothing more than that. 

Edited March 14 by Sony12