I'm too young for this...

[PHILLYSHYGUY]

I am definitely too young to be writing in something like this, but honestly I'm taking it pretty hard. I am 17 years old, a junior in high school this past year, and I have a girlfriend that is also 17 but is a senior this past year and we have been going out for about 6 months.

 

We have really had some great times together where I was almost sure that she was the type of person I wanted to be with in my future. I had always had some reservations in my mind about the fact that next year she would be going to college and I would still be in high school. I know that relationships like this do not tend to work, and I certainly have no intentions of putting the strain on our relationship by trying to keep it alive.

 

Anyway, things were going great up until a recent Dave Matthews concert last week that my girlfriend and I attended. If anyone knows about Dave Matthews concerts, what they will tell you is that everyone gets drunk and gets on other people. Well, silly little me forgot this little detail going into it...and my girlfriend basically, to make a long story short, wound up lip locked with her ex-boyfriend (older than I, went out w/same girl for 2 years). I was steamed and upset both at the same time. I was hurt that she had done it so I cried on a friend's shoulder (who happened to be a girl). I had seen our breakup in the not so distant future so I was reserved in my discontent. As soon as my girlfriend turned around to see that I was crying on this other girl's shoulder, she started balling and was visibly distraught. Evidently, she had thought that I had hooked up with this other girl...and she had flipped out. I couldn't understand how she could flip a lid on a simple thought of me with someone else, while I had ACTUALLY seen her hook up with her ex. We talked the next day and she decided that she didn't want to be "tied down" in a serious relationship because it was her senior year and she wanted to be able to hang out with whoever she wanted, etc without having to worry about hurting someone.

 

I obviously didn't like this arrangement because I still had strong feelings for her, and it still hurt to see her with other people, especially those who I don't particularly like.

 

Since then we have talked moderately and hooked up a few random times. It has come time for me to decide whether or not we should end it before it gets weird or try and make the arrangement better.

 

I'm just kind of looking for some advice as to what people think I should do in my situation. Remember that I really care a lot about this girl, but I don't want to lose our friendship or make it weird. Thanks so much to anyone who reads this.

 

SHYGUY

[beep]

Just watch more of Dawson's creek, just kidding. Well brother, you do have another year of high school left, and she won't be there, Just think for a minute, next year which will be about a month in a half for you, will come, with that comes new opportunities, meaning you'll have around 6-7 new classes with possibility of metting someone new! If your girl really liked you as much as you like her, she would not have hooked up with her ex! Don't make any excuses about what kind of concert it is. You might really find someone that likes you as much as you like them, aaawww...those high school days!!!If I could have gone back and do it all over again, I would have dumped my girl that I really liked too because she cheated on me, kissed another guy, but instead I got back together with her and I was a year older than her in school. I would have moved on because I realized that she didn't like me as much as I liked her. Ohl well, hope I gave you some insight, and good luck.

I am definitely too young to be writing in something like this, but honestly I'm taking it pretty hard. I am 17 years old, a junior in high school this past year, and I have a girlfriend that is also 17 but is a senior this past year and we have been going out for about 6 months.

 

We have really had some great times together where I was almost sure that she was the type of person I wanted to be with in my future. I had always had some reservations in my mind about the fact that next year she would be going to college and I would still be in high school. I know that relationships like this do not tend to work, and I certainly have no intentions of putting the strain on our relationship by trying to keep it alive. Anyway, things were going great up until a recent Dave Matthews concert last week that my girlfriend and I attended. If anyone knows about Dave Matthews concerts, what they will tell you is that everyone gets drunk and gets on other people. Well, silly little me forgot this little detail going into it...and my girlfriend basically, to make a long story short, wound up lip locked with her ex-boyfriend (older than I, went out w/same girl for 2 years). I was steamed and upset both at the same time. I was hurt that she had done it so I cried on a friend's shoulder (who happened to be a girl). I had seen our breakup in the not so distant future so I was reserved in my discontent. As soon as my girlfriend turned around to see that I was crying on this other girl's shoulder, she started balling and was visibly distraught. Evidently, she had thought that I had hooked up with this other girl...and she had flipped out. I couldn't understand how she could flip a lid on a simple thought of me with someone else, while I had ACTUALLY seen her hook up with her ex. We talked the next day and she decided that she didn't want to be "tied down" in a serious relationship because it was her senior year and she wanted to be able to hang out with whoever she wanted, etc without having to worry about hurting someone. I obviously didn't like this arrangement because I still had strong feelings for her, and it still hurt to see her with other people, especially those who I don't particularly like. Since then we have talked moderately and hooked up a few random times. It has come time for me to decide whether or not we should end it before it gets weird or try and make the arrangement better. I'm just kind of looking for some advice as to what people think I should do in my situation. Remember that I really care a lot about this girl, but I don't want to lose our friendship or make it weird. Thanks so much to anyone who reads this.

 

SHYGUY