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Ok, after wks of NC; my ex contact me on email. i want to work it out, but how do i do this? should i give it a few days?

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Ok, after wks of NC; my ex contact me on email. i want to work it out, but how do i do this? should i give it a few days?

Oy oy oy, I see potential trouble written all over this.

 

Why did you and she break up in the first place? And what reasons do you have that you think a second chance will be any different?

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Who broke up with who?

Why did you break up?

What did he say in it?

 

If you are going to reply... Just say you are well, and have been busy going out and partying on. Make him jealous. Dont get desperate.

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ok, perhaps I should've given more information on this. Me and my ex broke up, because he plays stupid little mind games. Always saying things that have double meanings. He was never open honest with me, gives me hints and expects me to pick up on it. I don't know if its just a communication problem or what not, but I just got basically tired of it. He broke it off with me because he says that he was finished with us. That was it. I left with a sweet good-bye telling him that i loved him for the first time and wished things could've worked out differently. 2 months past without any contact and I called, and we ended up having a steamy night. Weeks after that without me contacting him in anyway, i've recieved an email; again with a riddle. Now, i think this one he's telling me to leave him alone - or to call him or something. Which doesn't make sense because I haven't called nor emailed nor have any contact with him for like a month. why would he send me a message to leave him alone. Or why send it to me at all, it's apparent that I have left him a lone. Do you guys think that the message was sent for me to get riled up or to have some sort of pathetic attempt for me to contact him? How do i do this. Should i just let it go for a few days, weeks and respond? is it his attempt to stir up some reaction from me?

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Also, I wanted what we had back then, when things were so perfect. I wanted to give a second chance to see if it might be as good again. I have screwed him up in the past because I kept breaking it off and going back. It wasn't because of him, but because things happened in my life that I don't know i could've given him all my attention to him and be the perfect girlfriend because of my schedules. I was wrong to do that, but more to the question, is this his revenge?

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No its not his revenge... Its too subtle.

 

You played games with him, he played games with you. I dont think you should be together, and should move on. Don't reply, he probably just wants some more make up sex.

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Ok, here's the thing: I've reread the letter and it basically tells me to go to hell. now i've wondered why the hostility after a month of not speaking. I wasn't in his life, or i was even wanting to be in his life. What is he trying to do? I was doing ok until this. If this jerk wanted me out of his life which i was already was, why bother to let me know? is there some sort of trick to this?

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What is he trying to do?

 

You know, there are certain stages of breaking up. Perhaps he is in the anger stage. I don't think it is a trick.

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