not sure how to handle things

[angel0912]

I've posted on here before, and haven't gotten very many response, but i figured I'd post again, because I'm sure my friends are tired about hearing it and maybe ill get some new advice.

 

Bottom Line: Ex broke up with me. We are still good friend and spend time together.

 

Question: I have gone out of my way to be "just friends" and never discuss our relationship/standing. I want him back, but I am worried that he thinks I just want to be friends because of my actions. I have attempted to flirt with him, but I am so scared of rejection that it isn't really even noticeable- (plus I have a very flirtatious personality and used to flirt with him when we were just friend (prior to dating or even being interested) and I flirt with other friends as well.)

 

Any advice on what I should do to let him know I am still interested in a second chance- without pushing the idea of "its now or never"- I am willing to wait and let things evolve- but I am afraid if he isn't aware, then he won't be willing to see what could happen and will hold himself back...

[slubberdegullion]

A couple of questions for clarification first:

• Why did he break up with you in the first place?;
  
• How long were you together?;
  
• Do you seen him regularly in the normal course of a day (ie: do you go to school or work together), or do you have to go somewhat out of your way to see him?; and
  
• If he split with you, what is your reasoning for wanting him back in your life, either as a friend or a second chance as a lover?

[angel0912]

A couple of questions for clarification first:

• Why did he break up with you in the first place?;
  
• How long were you together?;
  
• Do you seen him regularly in the normal course of a day (ie: do you go to school or work together), or do you have to go somewhat out of your way to see him?; and
  
• If he split with you, what is your reasoning for wanting him back in your life, either as a friend or a second chance as a lover?

 

He broke up with me because he wasn't sure if he was ready for a relationship (technically we took a break)- but I am pretty sure it was my fault, because I was acting kinda crazy- which I realized and apologized for- but I think i scared him (he hasn't had a girlfriend in a long time)

-Also, since we broke up, i realized a lot of things about myself and the way i handled things that I have made it a point to change- which also has made the way i look at relationships change

 

We were together for about 2 months

 

I see him everyday at school (graduate) and we are in the same small circle of friends. We also study together- equal initation

 

I want him back because I enjoy him in my life- and because I think that we had something really great and that we didn't give it the chance it deserves (not that we are necessarily meant to be- but that it is worth the try)

[billskrill]

My gf broke up with me because she said she wasn't ready for a relationship. I don't understand that reason but I guess there truely are people that get into one that haven't been for a while and don't feel they're ready for it but I don't know. Anyways after the breakup I tried the whole friend thing with her like she wanted and realized I'm never going to get over her or get her back like that so now I'm doing the whole NC thing which is hard but overall I feel better even though some times are tough. I have come to realize that NC will work in my situation and probably in yours too for 2 reasons. The first is that if you are going to get him back he needs to see what life is like without you there with him and the second reason is because it will give you a chance to get over him if you two don't get back together. You see it doesn't matter what happens, you will win either way with NC and if you don't get back then you can go back as friends with him after enough time has passed. People told me this and I didn't believe it but after almost 2 weeks of NC I truely do feel better. GL to you.