rachellllllann Posted November 19, 2005 Share Posted November 19, 2005 My boyfriend and I have been together for eight months now. In the beginning of our relationship I did something unintentionally that he thought was flirting. Things like freak dancing with other guys, going out with guys, talking on the phone with guys and a bunch of other things but all these guys are merely just friends. IT's not like I did these things to piss him or make him jealous. I was just being a friend, nothing more. Was I being too friendly?! But my boyfriend was hurt by all these things and I understand why he was. But now he's doing the same exact things to me even though he knows that it's wrong. He said, "I'm not doing intentionally to hurt you or to make you jealous but I'm just doing the same things you did in the past that you thought was right." I think it hurts me more that he does these things to like show me what he did but his excuse is that I thought it was right when I did those things therefore he can do it also. Isn't it an immature way to think?! Just because you did it then I can do it too?! Now that I see things it does make me feel jealous. But it's like he's forcing me to be jealous. I've tried talking to him about it and how I don't like certain things he's doing but we just end up fighting and he always brings up the past that I did the same so I shouldn't complain or be jealous. Half of me thinks that I have the right to be jealous and the other half tells me that I shouldn't be jealous because I did the same things.. Link to post Share on other sites
Outcast Posted November 20, 2005 Share Posted November 20, 2005 Tell him to quit playing head games. If he doesn't, ditch him. Link to post Share on other sites
7on Posted November 20, 2005 Share Posted November 20, 2005 He sounds like a big baby. I'd loose his ass. But then again I do disapprove of you flirting with other men. However the way he handled it wasn't mature and if he's gonna act that way he doesn't need to be in a relationship. I'd also say you need some work with your flirting. Personally I am oblivious to flirting, then again I just don't like talking to women. I tried developing a friendship once, it didn't work. Anyway - back to you. I believe communication with the opposite sex should be pretty much broken off once you have a relationship with someone. All friendships with the opposite sex while in a relationship usually lead to trouble. Though I do think classroom/work settings are a bit different because one would go crazy at work if he didn't have friends around. Anyway - these are my views and take them for what you will. Just thought I'd share. Link to post Share on other sites
suzy Posted November 21, 2005 Share Posted November 21, 2005 Your boyfriend sounds intensely immature. You are being cought up in his games of tit-for-tat, why? Ok, so you may have hurt his feelings a little when you first got together, but at least when you did that it was unintentional. Your boyfriend is deliberately trying to make you jealous from what I can gather, and that is pretty cruel. Do you really want to be with someone who so blatantly disregards your feelings? Link to post Share on other sites
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