mlb090306 Posted November 20, 2005 Share Posted November 20, 2005 I snooped in my finace's email and ran across something that makes me ill. There were emails that he exchanged from a couple random girls that he has met on websites like myspace.com and true.com - true.com is an online dating site?! I know I never should have snooped and I am ashamed to admit that I did. None of these emails mentioned meeting up or doing anything but they were somewhat flirtatious by him and the girls mentioned that they would send the photos he wanted, and stuff like that. I'm really hurt. I would never ever think he was capable of cheating on me and has been this wonderful boyfriend. But isn't this, in a way, cheating?! If I call him on it, he knows I snooped through his email and that could just give him all the more ammunition to continue doing what he is doing or worse maybe?! I love this man and planned on spending the rest of my life with him, but I'm shocked and scared and don't know what to do. Link to post Share on other sites
Sarah12385 Posted November 20, 2005 Share Posted November 20, 2005 I have a friend going through the same thing right now. It's a hard situation, I can imagine. Since you can't go back and change the fact you looked at his emails, might as well try 'n come up with another way of bringing the subject up If you create a user account on MySpace.com (it doesn't take long), you can find your man on it, and read every comment that people have posted about him, so you could tell him you were on MySpace and found him, etc. If there happens to be some questionable comments, well...I'm sure you can take it from there You could tell him though that you did go into his email, and although that wasn't the best thing to do, you couldn't help but notice the flirtatious emails. It may be a messy discussion at first, but things will work themselves out the way their intended to So no worries *hugs* ~Sarah~ Link to post Share on other sites
bab Posted November 20, 2005 Share Posted November 20, 2005 Ya gotta tell him you looked. I mean, you are planning on marrying this guy. Yeah, maybe you shouldn't have looked, so he has a right to be upset about it. But the fact that he may be actively looking for someone else is a SERIOUS issue. Maybe there is a reasonable explaination (although none pops into my head), but this is going to cause huge trusts issues between the two of you if you don't address it. You don't want to be walking down the isle wondering if he's got a date later in the week!! Link to post Share on other sites
lilmoma1973 Posted November 20, 2005 Share Posted November 20, 2005 Ya gotta tell him you looked. I mean, you are planning on marrying this guy. Yeah, maybe you shouldn't have looked, so he has a right to be upset about it. But the fact that he may be actively looking for someone else is a SERIOUS issue. Maybe there is a reasonable explaination (although none pops into my head), but this is going to cause huge trusts issues between the two of you if you don't address it. You don't want to be walking down the isle wondering if he's got a date later in the week!! Totally agree with Babs call him on it an see if he denies it so what if he is mad!! Glad you found out that he is a cheater now and not many yrs later after marrying him and having his kids!! Cheating is cheating no mater what he has an emotional connection with these women or he wouldn't be emailing them!! My space.com is a site looking for hookups and i totally don't approve of this site for any man married or in a relationship!! You are asking for trouble going on these sites!!! Good luck Link to post Share on other sites
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