i got fired from my job

[ALF]

i'm scared to death to tell my boyfriend, i know he will either put me to work for him, or put me down for not wanting to do the things he may suggest i do for a job like working at this dumb manufacturing place that pays good but i hate, is that wrong? what can i tell him? do i need to tell him anything? i am already looking for a new job. should i even have to feel scared to tell him?

[clia]

Honesty is an integral part to a successful relationship. If you want to have a successful relationship, you should probably tell your boyfriend you got fired, but that you're already looking for a new job. He should be supportive of your situation. Obviously you're upset enough about this. If he's a good boyfriend, you shouldn't have to feel scared to tell him.

 

Does he understand that you can figure out for yourself what kind of job you want to find now? Don't go work somewhere just because the pay is good if you're going to hate it. You'll spend 8+ hours a day there and be miserable every second, which is going to end up making you miserable in other parts of your life. If he 'puts you to work for him' (whatever that means) or 'puts you down', then he's not respecting YOUR feelings, and causes me to wonder why you'd want to be with a guy who doesn't respect your feelings. Maybe you should be reevaulating your relationship along with finding a new job?

i'm scared to death to tell my boyfriend, i know he will either put me to work for him, or put me down for not wanting to do the things he may suggest i do for a job like working at this dumb manufacturing place that pays good but i hate, is that wrong? what can i tell him? do i need to tell him anything? i am already looking for a new job. should i even have to feel scared to tell him?

[Tony T]

If your relationship with your boyfriend is so sorry you can't communicate with him, go find another guy. What you have written here is pathetic.

 

You should never be scared to tell your boyfriend anything. If you are, you are with the WRONG guy. After you find another job, find another guy.

[ALF]

the reason i'm scared to tell his is cause i've had some employment problems in the past and he has a negative opinion about me finding work and keeping a job. once i find something i like i stick with it though. i was at my last job for almost two years and was basically laid off due to lack of business. so he almost supported me for about four months until it picked up again enough to go back full time. well since then it has been up and down, slow periods mixed in with alot of work. he remembers the slow times and we got in fights about it cause he wanted me to do work for him and i hated it and so he just thought i was plain ole lazy, which i'm not! then he started finding all these job fairs for me to go to like at the banks and different places for me to fill out applications since i did not want to work for him. i tried to work for him and it lasted about a week, he is too impatient to teach me and i felt very self conscious asking him questions about everything. so when i did not want to go to these job fairs or these other places he suggested, he made statements like: if you want a job "bad enough" you'd do it. or; i just don't think you want to work. so there is/was a little more to it, but i did not want to go into all this detail but i figured i better to help straighten this out. anyway, that is why i'm nervous to tell him, i know he will think i don't want to work and he will start giving me well intended suggestions about where to work. the problem is i don't have any skills. i love working on the computer but have no skills with it. i am waiting to start school next fall for training on computers. so until i feel trapped and worried about what to do now.

If your relationship with your boyfriend is so sorry you can't communicate with him, go find another guy. What you have written here is pathetic. You should never be scared to tell your boyfriend anything. If you are, you are with the WRONG guy. After you find another job, find another guy.

[ALF]

the reason i'm scared to tell his is cause i've had some employment problems in the past and he has a negative opinion about me finding work and keeping a job. once i find something i like i stick with it though. i was at my last job for almost two years and was basically laid off due to lack of business. so he almost supported me for about four months until it picked up again enough to go back full time. well since then it has been up and down, slow periods mixed in with alot of work. he remembers the slow times and we got in fights about it cause he wanted me to do work for him and i hated it and so he just thought i was plain ole lazy, which i'm not! then he started finding all these job fairs for me to go to like at the banks and different places for me to fill out applications since i did not want to work for him. i tried to work for him and it lasted about a week, he is too impatient to teach me and i felt very self conscious asking him questions about everything. so when i did not want to go to these job fairs or these other places he suggested, he made statements like: if you want a job "bad enough" you'd do it. or; i just don't think you want to work. so there is/was a little more to it, but i did not want to go into all this detail but i figured i better to help straighten this out. anyway, that is why i'm nervous to tell him, i know he will think i don't want to work and he will start giving me well intended suggestions about where to work. the problem is i don't have any skills. i love working on the computer but have no skills with it. i am waiting to start school next fall for training on computers. so until i feel trapped and worried about what to do now.