brunettenproud43 Posted November 21, 2005 Share Posted November 21, 2005 hey guys! Ok well so I like this guy in one of my classes. We recently got paired for a project together and I was like holy crap.. he's cute, nice, funny, and smart WOW...So that's pretty cool right. When I talked to him he was looking in my eyes and seemed genuinely interested. Well, the project's over and I like him. I don't EVER get the guys I like so I need some major help. I don't sit by him, don't hang out with the same people. Here's my question. How do I communicate that i'm interested in him and not make it weird if I go up and talk to him. But now I don't have any reason to talk to him. And how do I get him to be interested in me and ask me out? I know there's not a way to guarantee that it will happen but advice and tips would be nice. Thanks! Responses would be nice! Link to post Share on other sites
Brittanyjean06 Posted November 21, 2005 Share Posted November 21, 2005 ingore him, and see if he notices.... ? my advice can be vague Link to post Share on other sites
Author brunettenproud43 Posted November 21, 2005 Author Share Posted November 21, 2005 But the thing is he won't notice because we don't really talk. We just worked on that project together. What I need is to find a way to start talking to him without him being like ok...sure...why are you talking to me? Link to post Share on other sites
mini696 Posted November 21, 2005 Share Posted November 21, 2005 How old are you? Link to post Share on other sites
Author brunettenproud43 Posted November 21, 2005 Author Share Posted November 21, 2005 I'm 16. Why? Link to post Share on other sites
Cy511 Posted November 22, 2005 Share Posted November 22, 2005 Send him mixed messages. Be really friendly to him one day and then ignore him the next and so on. Drives me nuts when girls to that to me and makes me think about them. Link to post Share on other sites
Butternut Posted November 22, 2005 Share Posted November 22, 2005 i'm actualy not really good with this stuff, but im an 18 yo dude and just got out of high school so i think i have a pretty good idea of what you're talking about. Since you two have a class together, and have already kinda talked before, it wont be *too* weird talking to him again. There is some risk involved though. As a guy, it makes me feel cool and generally like a badass when a girl will approach me - whether im attracted to her or not. SO, you want to avoid going very far out of your way to talk to him, or seeming like you're going far out of your way. Because you dont want to seem too interested. Ok, what might work for you is: So right after class, time it so that you walk out the door at approximately when he does, and then as you two walk out kind of together, make like a comment or small joke about the class, teacher, homework assignment, upcoming test or whatever. So you two will be making small talk while you walk to your next class, and then you can kind of gauge his reaction. In class, make some eye contact *not more than once a day*, and give him some opportunities to talk to you. After that its pretty much left to him. You shouldnt really initiate much more than this though. Keep in mind, though, that this is kind of what I do, and i'm a dude, so you know, modify it yourself to fit your own game plan. Just make sure you dont show too much interest at first, that way, you put less of yourself on the line, and if it turns out you dont really like him, you wont be accused of leading him on. Link to post Share on other sites
Butternut Posted November 22, 2005 Share Posted November 22, 2005 Send him mixed messages. Be really friendly to him one day and then ignore him the next and so on. Drives me nuts when girls to that to me and makes me think about them. hahaha, so true. But it makes me think about them more, but not necessarily want them more. It kinda makes you decide if shes really worth it...that and kinda pissed. Link to post Share on other sites
daphne Posted November 22, 2005 Share Posted November 22, 2005 Send him mixed messages. Be really friendly to him one day and then ignore him the next and so on. Drives me nuts when girls to that to me and makes me think about them. Ouch. You must be the guy that keeps doing that $@#$ to me. I hate to admit it though, I notice him a lot more now than I did before. I could take or leave him before. But like the last poster said it does threaten to tick off the other person. At any given moment when he's inconsistent I'm about to cut him loose. Of course that's right about when he decides to be super sweet. Tricks are for kids. Link to post Share on other sites
mental_traveller Posted November 23, 2005 Share Posted November 23, 2005 Next time you meet him, say "Hi, fancy meeting up for coffee sometime?" If you're a bad girl, substitute beer for coffee. If he says no, then grab his crotch and ask again. If he still says no then he definitely doesn't like you! Link to post Share on other sites
Mary3 Posted November 23, 2005 Share Posted November 23, 2005 I would approach him and ask him if he wanted to hang out and watch a movie together.... Link to post Share on other sites
mini696 Posted November 24, 2005 Share Posted November 24, 2005 I'm 16. Why?Because there are different things you should and shouldn't do as you get older. Dating just works differently depending on how old you are. I wouldn't take the advise some others have given about giving mixed signals... If you read some posts on here you'll notice that mixed signals piss a lot of guys off. Tell him that you would like to do something together, I wouldn't be afraid of telling him you like him. It gets it in the open and over and done with. If nothing comes of it you can move on quicker and find someone who does like you back. Link to post Share on other sites
Mary3 Posted November 24, 2005 Share Posted November 24, 2005 I hate all the games and mixed signals. If I wouldnt want that played on me why would I do it to others ? I agree with mini. Link to post Share on other sites
mini696 Posted November 25, 2005 Share Posted November 25, 2005 If I want to play games I'll play strip poker... Then there are no mixed signals... Its obvious... "I want to see you naked" LOL Link to post Share on other sites
Milo Posted November 25, 2005 Share Posted November 25, 2005 Send him mixed messages. Be really friendly to him one day and then ignore him the next and so on. Drives me nuts when girls to that to me and makes me think about them. That's just about the worst advice you could offer. I have always rejected this type of woman out of hand. What is almost irresistabley attractive is to make a lot of eye contact, talk calmly, smile a lot, and have a few personal bits of information to share. These little bits of who you are and what you are up to help to say, "I like you enough to share some secrets." It's an offer of trust. Ask him for details about himself. Every time I have met a woman who swept me off my feet, this sort of exchange has happened. Link to post Share on other sites
whichwayisup Posted November 25, 2005 Share Posted November 25, 2005 Send him mixed messages. Be really friendly to him one day and then ignore him the next and so on. Drives me nuts when girls to that to me and makes me think about them. I agree, bad advice. Does he like sports? Strike up a conversation about it. Show interest in him and see how he responds. Milo's advice is good! Link to post Share on other sites
Mary3 Posted November 25, 2005 Share Posted November 25, 2005 I absolutely agree with Milo. As soon as I see the games and bull crappy then its over .... Link to post Share on other sites
sparticuss Posted January 3, 2006 Share Posted January 3, 2006 Here's my question. How do I communicate that i'm interested in him and not make it weird if I go up and talk to him. ! No no no no ;no m dear. Youve missed the point completely. You DOOOO make it wierd. Thats not a problem. Not for him. And thats whats important. It may be a proble for you but thats your problem. Not his. Get over it. That should come easy if this guy is as good as you say. Wierd is a fact. Wierd can't be avoided. I've done wierd. And wierd is no problem. Link to post Share on other sites
Mary3 Posted January 4, 2006 Share Posted January 4, 2006 Thats right I guess I join the Weird Club too because I initiate action... Link to post Share on other sites
sparticuss Posted January 4, 2006 Share Posted January 4, 2006 Thats right I guess I join the Weird Club too because I initiate action... I guess you do too Mary. But thats not the point. Wierd or regular, wait for him or initiate him,, whats the result. Do you get good relatinships from this wierd. Link to post Share on other sites
Mary3 Posted January 4, 2006 Share Posted January 4, 2006 I find I keep alot busier making some of the suggestions on things to do rather than wait around . I do alot of things and do some of them alone.( Often times being approached being female alone out in public so it all works out pretty good ) If asking a guy if he wants to do something is weird , then I win the award. But they respond positively and I never had someone say no. I would say they are sometimes surprised that I initiated the action or idea but I would ask the male posters here how they feel if a girl suggests they go to a movie or whatever. ( ? ) I have heard men like a girl who knows what she wants and by suggesting ideas men have some of the pressure taken off of them.. Some of the best relationships I had were by making suggestions to do things and that person appreciating my assertiveness which kept it going for a long time . Link to post Share on other sites
Yamaha Posted January 4, 2006 Share Posted January 4, 2006 I fail to understand why letting someone know you like them is such a crime. There is nothing wrong with talking to him, flirting and see if his reaction is positive. You really don't have a lot invested in him so even if he says no you will not have wasted tons of time hoping. Most guys like a girl who knows what they want just as girls like a guy who asks them. Go for it. Link to post Share on other sites
LexiB Posted January 4, 2006 Share Posted January 4, 2006 Next time you meet him, say "Hi, fancy meeting up for coffee sometime?" If you're a bad girl, substitute beer for coffee. If he says no, then grab his crotch and ask again. If he still says no then he definitely doesn't like you! :lmao: I'm gonna have to try that! Link to post Share on other sites
Lucasarts Posted January 5, 2006 Share Posted January 5, 2006 its great for a guy's self esteem for a girl to acknowledge her attraction to him even if they are fugly i still think its cool they like me doesnt make me look at em any worse or less. its awesome if they are incredibly hot and they are the same girls that i am crushing on...ok enuff bout me hmmm, lets go back to the project you two spent time with tho...did u see that he was checking you out or anything? i mean a guy does show signs that he likes a girl as well (obs, since we are hoping that you girls notice). if you think you saw some of them then i def would say go for it. a catch is hard to find in a sea full of fishes Link to post Share on other sites
sparticuss Posted January 7, 2006 Share Posted January 7, 2006 Send him mixed messages. Be really friendly to him one day and then ignore him the next and so on. Drives me nuts when girls to that to me and makes me think about them. Are you insane? The truth. If you think of yourself as “the catch” and, wait around for somebody to “snare you” while sending out a mass of mixed messages, then the only kind of man you will get will be the predator. Good men will not chase you because good men don’t need to chase anything . The world beats a path to their door. And they will certainly not chase you if they believe, from your mixed messages that you arent interested in them. The predator will suck the life out of you, eat you up, spit out your bones, and discard you. That’s what predators do. Both animal and human variety. You want a good man? Beat a path to his door and treat him like a good man. You want to be “the catch” ? Expect to be snared only by a predator. Link to post Share on other sites
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