suzyq Posted July 11, 2001 Share Posted July 11, 2001 i am engaged to a man but i have some fears going into a marriage with him.first, he is about to turn 26, i'm 21. he has a 2 year old daughter that he sees about once every 2 months, sometimes once a month. he smokes pot heavily beacuse he says it helps him relax and it helps with his obsessive compulsive disorder. he is about to finish his last year of paramedic school. he also has this thing about takingsummers off to party but he says its his his last year because he will be a paramedic next year. he is very smart, he was the top ofhis class last year. and he has great street smarts. his mother is kinda crazy though. his parents help us out a lot right now. his father is the best. he redid a jeep for us and hes planning on redoing a 95' jeep for us because its newer and better on gas. his motheralso does wonderful things for us too but she also does things that maks me want to scream. she treats my fiance lik a child. she borrowed money from him and now she is giving it to him in weekly increments. she tries to control his finances, his schooling, his dealings with his daughter, etc!!! plus she puts pictures of his daugters mother in wierd places hoping i will find them but his whole family does not like his daughters mom, especailly his mother. also, curt is bad wih his money, he blows it all when he has it. i know he loves me but there are some tings i need some advice on. he would do anything for me, he says he treing to dmarten up because of me, he wants to change his life around. Link to post Share on other sites
pyxiewerks Posted July 11, 2001 Share Posted July 11, 2001 Suz-if you are near the door - RUN LIKE HELL. If you aren't ready to, try this. Pretend you are your best friend, and she tells you what you posted here. What would your advice to her be? If that doesn't work, take a piece of paper, make 2 columns. One side "Positive things/things I like about him/Things about him I'm proud of" and in the other, "Negative things/Things I hate about him/Things he does that disappoint me". Fill it out in PEN. Be brutally honest - this is your future on the line. Look at the 2 columns. If the plus side is not WAY longer than the negative, you have a sure loser here. Above all respect yourself and what you deserve. Peace. Link to post Share on other sites
sparkle Posted July 12, 2001 Share Posted July 12, 2001 NEVER get involved with a drug user/abuser. Period. No if's, and's or but's about it. Link to post Share on other sites
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